Your Restoration Journey Begins!
Though everyone wants a sudden MIRACLE, and certainly, each time God restores a marriage it IS a miracle; but for most women, restoration actually happens quite suddenly when they least expected it!
However, to be ready to live in a restored marriage, you need to be changed from the inside out and be able to be the woman God is calling you to be. And though we each long to reach our destination as quickly a possible, you’ll find He’s called you not just so you reach your destination of a restored marriage, but what’s MORE important is how you will change during and along your journey. Changing from the inside out, including emotional healing from your past, and experiencing peace in the midst of each of your crises.
* If you’re currently in a major crisis right now, you might want to stop and visit our Crisis Corner.
If you're broken and you’ll simply ASK the Lord to help you navigate through this Restoration Journey HE WILL be faithful to help you. You don't need us or anyone else. This is just ONE of many KEYS that will lock each gate you come to.
“Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it." Matthew 7:13-14
|KEY # 1 You have Someone Designed to Guide you. This has to be the most important KEY you need to remember. Anytime you have a question or concern or doubts or anything else you would normally go to someone else to ask, just stop and ask God as James 1:5–8 says we are to do. Read and mediate on what James 1:5–8 says.
You don’t have to say any formal prayer, and it’s really better if you don’t. Just get away by yourself and ask Him anything and everything— you’ll be surprised how you’ll soon know and understand what to do. Even if it’s simply to wait and do nothing.
“But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 KJV
And don’t make the mistake of asking your husband anything, like what his plans are or how he’s feeling. Proverbs 16:9 says, “The mind of man plans his way but the Lord directs his steps.” ONLY GOD knows.
Feelings also change in an instant and these verses in Proverbs 7:21-27 proves your husband has no clue what path he’s on— especially if he’s fallen for another woman. Instead, asking men anything will prove to hurt you terribly and could lead you to do something that will destroy, rather than help you and your relationship to heal. So learn to be wise and don’t ask or snoop around.
Proverbs 14:1—"The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands."
Daniella, now restored, learned this the hard way as she says:
Dear brides, let your earthly husband go. Do not snoop into his life, do not try to find out what he is doing. Occupy your thoughts and your life with Him and cleanse your heart by reading your Bible and where you'll discover His love letters to you. He is the only Man capable of making you truly happy. Not only does this allow your flesh to be killed each day, but because more of you must leave to give more space for you to receive more of the character of Love of Him in you. Stay in peace, do not give up, keep moving along your journey and in everything, be thankful to the Lord. The closer you are to your HH, the closer you will be to your restoration.
~ Danielle, restored, “Weeping Lasts for a Night, Joy Comes in the Morning!” from one of many By the Word of Their Testimony books.
The reason we experienced our miraculous restored marriages (and why we see so many miracles in our ministry) is that we each of us went to to the LORD to guide us, speaking to Him, listening and reading His Word so we could be cleansed from our pain. And during our journeys, that’s when He called us to travel ahead of you— so that we could turn around and reach out to help you. Now we see women are able to get out of crisis even sooner based on what we learned and shared with them.
The first thing we learned is that restoration is a very narrow road, maybe one of the NARROWEST a woman will ever travel along. And all of us were ridiculed by the people closest to us for even wanting or thinking our marriages could be restored. And what each of us was able to do, was the narrowest path of all— because only we, not our husbands wanted our marriage restored. In other words, almost ALL of our restored marriages were truly the most hopeless, dead marriages brought back to life. We were not like couples who both want help.
That’s why this is such GOOD NEW!
Our ministry was designed to help restore truly hopeless marriages—when ONLY one spouse wants their marriage restored. Our husbands wanted OUT of our marriage and most had left completely (physically, emotionally and mentally)!
This is what makes our ministry unique, and also so powerful. What we never do, and discourage you to do, is to pursue your husband or even talk to him about what you’re hoping for. Nothing will drive a man farther away than a needy, clingy, desperate woman who is chasing after him and not letting him go. Instead, we each learned to remain quiet and tell no one about what we were hoping for—since whatever you say always makes its way back to your husband, right? Or you get opposition, which is something you do not need right now. So, if you have told anyone about what’s going on or even what you’re hoping for—use this KEY to unlock your peace—and commit to saying no more about it to anyone.
And as we said earlier, instead of offering any counseling because He IS the Mighty Counselor and you deserve the best! Someone who knows the future, someone who can change the present, and the one who sees and knows everything that's going on. No counselor has the power! Instead, we offer powerful courses, to heal you "by the washing of His Word" and renew your mind in His principles, while reading His Promises. Going to Him is another powerful KEY that will unlock your restoration.
|KEY # 2 Go to the Mighty Counselor with each and every question. He will make your rough, crooked path straighter and therefore you will reach your destination sooner. He even knows exactly where there are landmines that most women fall into and He’ll help you to avoid them. As Lilliana, now restored, says:
"Fall in love with your Heavenly Husband, look to Him and His Word for all your answers, He is waiting for you...He is good, He will never leave you nor forsake you. He has to be your Mighty Counselor. Stay close to Him, hold onto Him tightly...He is your only hope, don't give up no matter what."
~ Lilliana, restored, "We Made a Mistake Marrying Each Other"
This is why we strongly urge you to settle for nothing else but the Best—your future depends on it—and if you have questions simply stop to ask Him. Not only will He answer and guide you, very often He will take care of whatever it is you’re concerned about. You're left having to do nothing but praise Him!!
"Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, and He will do it" —Psalm 37:5
We want to encourage you to stop asking for help or asking questions BECAUSE only HE knows real answers. Why ask a counselor, or a friend or family member when the Lord knows everything that’s going on and how to lead you to a bright future?!?!
This means stop speaking to and sharing anything with anyone that has to do with your marriage.
Begin today to speak to the LORD only and begin to pour out your heart into each of your journals, which we provide at the end of each lesson during your course. And then when we see you're ready, we will pair you with an ePartner soon after you begin Rebuilding. An ePartner is likeminded and who will encourage, not hinder your progress.
Even though everyone encourages counseling and support groups, having just "someone" to talk to, we know that the Person Who you should talk to, who matters the most is also the most IMPORTANT relationship you need to develop: No, it's not with us or your husband (or ex-husband) because difficult relationships need time to heal and then be built on the Rock so the next time the rains come, it will remain standing.
“And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and burst against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded upon the Rock.” Matthew 7:25.
And it's especially not important to have a relationship with us either. Once again, the MOST important relationship that you need to develop right now is with the Lord, your Heavenly Husband—because this ONE relationship will be the relationship that is always the determining factor to whether or not each Marriage is RESTORED. It's also the relationship that needs to be strong after you're restored, which you can read in so MANY restored marriage testimonies.
As proof, when you read each of our lessons, you'll begin by reading a Restored Marriage Testimony and if you'll begin to notice one KEY principle—that their relationship with the Lord became #1 in their lives.
|KEY # 3 Your Heavenly Husband. All of us felt the pain of being rejected when we began our Journey. That's why it's so important that you grasp this life-changing principle and concept.
“Fear not, for you will not be put to shame and do not feel humiliated, for you will not be disgraced; But you will forget the shame of your youth, And the reproach of your widowhood you will remember no more.
“For your Husband is your Maker, Whose name is the Lord of hosts; and your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.
“'For the Lord has called you, Like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit, Even like a wife of one’s youth when she is rejected,' Says your God"–Isaiah 54:4-6
As you read on Hope At Last, this Divine Appointment, when you cried out for help, was Him calling you to take this journey with Him—so you can experience the LOVE that casts our all fears and heals us of all our wounds.
The more you focus on HIM, we promise, the faster you will cease from the pain and begin to find peace—so you are prepared for restoration as Julie, now restored, says:
More than the restoration with my husband, I want to know the voice of my HH "Heavenly Husband", I want to hear Him speak to me. I want to have a relationship with Him above all else. I long to be His bride and I want Him to be my Heavenly Husband because this is where I've found real peace and love.
The process of marriage restoration is not over when your husband comes home, even after he repents. Once he's home is only the beginning. If you don't have Him as your HH, and He truly is, then you and I can't expect to stop our foolishness and spiritual arrogance. We need to continue clinging to the only One who can help us with our lack of forgiveness, our contentiousness. Only He can help us put into practice the wisdom found in the books, lessons, and testimonies we have each found here at RMI. Without ongoing support, I would surely continue to push my earthly husband into the arms of yet another OW [other woman].
So the sooner we can encourage you to focus on your KEY relationship, with the Lord (for comfort and assurance and guidance and for answers), especially press into HIM and His Word for your answers, not looking to us (or a counselor or a friend or anyone else)—the SOONER your marriage will be RESTORED—guaranteed!
We have been updating and refining our ministry based on the rising epidemic of divorces and failing marriages—and what we have witnessed works no matter how horrible the marriage crisis is!
*At Last There's Hope!*
This first free course we offer is the very same course that was developed over a period of more than 25 years. Dozens of restored women studied this course as we continued to include more and more principles to aid in restoring marriages—resulting in more and more couples who soon experienced a restored marriage. Again, the Bible course is NOT something that happens with one dose, but are the proven biblical principles, which when studied on a daily basis, allows each principle to be more easily followed and incorporated into your daily life. This is what will result in even more miraculous testimonies and changed lives—YOURS!
* By investing in approximately 30 minutes a day for just one month, we can guarantee you will learn His ways along your Restoration Journey and get your marriage out of crisis and on your way to restoration. Then, by continuing the following the remaining courses, each will lead to you becoming ready for restoration as well as knowing how to encourage other women in crisis.
Why do we continue to remind you to fill out the “Journals” each day?
First, sadly, we discovered that at least a third of the women filling out our Marriage Evaluation Questionnaire just wanted to vent and/or whine to someone about their relationship, BUT these women were unwilling to invest any time or effort. Another third start their course but gave up later.
These were often the same women who said they had paid counselors and then later paid for attorneys for their divorce when counseling failed and destroyed their marriages. If you Google the costs, you'll see the average cost for counselors:
Cost varies widely among marriage counselors. ... The average is about $95 per session. Since most marriage counselors see couples for one session a week for the first three months, you can expect to pay about $1200 in that period of time if it's at about $95/hr. Most clients have paid under $1200 by the time they've completed therapy. But some counseling can continue weekly for as long as two years before the problems have been resolved. That would cost a couple $10,000 over two years.
Chelle in Alabama, whom you’ll get to know during Course 1, since she has had an amazingly restored marriage for many years, told us that she spent thousands of dollars, she said, “to destroy her marriage" "using a counselor.” Then, when she came and found us, she said, “I purchased our EVERYTHING for Restoration Packet and God undid the damage” now her marriage has been happily restored ever since!
* So, again, please be sure you do your part by pouring your heart out and Journal what you learned, what you want Him to know. Doing just one lesson per day for the next 30-Days to gain the full benefit, then go through EACH course the same way.
Saying to yourself confidently, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the course, I have kept the faith, in the future there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness” (2 Timothy 4:7-8) As it says you’ll be in Proverbs 12:4 "An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones."
Here are 2 Praise Reports that can explain how important filling out the journals is, in order to gain the full benefit of our courses.
“He Changes the Heart”
I wanted to give thanks and praise to our Lord for having just finished Course 1! Sweetheart, I thank You for always being with me. He guided me in pouring out my heart into my journal and was able to submit them daily.
It was so different from just reading the book. Journaling after each lesson really made me look deep within myself and evaluate my life and my relationship with the Lord. When I bought the RYM book, I had no intention of applying for any of the courses. But after I read the RYM book a dozen times, I wanted more. I needed more. I had no idea just how much I would come to love doing my lesson and pouring my heart into my journals. This has become my favorite time each day—a special time for me and my Heavenly Husband. It would just be Us in our own little world for the next few hours as He guides me in pouring out my heart.
He showed me even more truths and opened my eyes to all the things I missed when I was just reading the book. He encouraged me to reflect on what I am learning and write down all my thoughts without fear and often He would surprise me by revealing things to me I have never thought of before. Going through the chapters again combined with journaling was definitely a journey for Us together. I learned so many things about myself, my Lord, Our relationship and so much more. Ladies, if you haven't applied for the course, please start applying! Doing this course has brought me even closer to the Lord than I imagined and I love it! Lord! I praise Your Holy Name! Thank You!
I wanted to share this PR about one particular change He has done in my heart. I started the 30-day course with no plans of taking other courses, I thought I only needed to take one. I didn't set out to become a minister, I signed up for the course to help myself, and somewhere between day 1 and 30, He changed my heart, from focusing on me, He touched my heart and gave me the desire to help others! Now I want to finish all 6 courses and become a minister! Yes, Lord! Thank You! I will do this! With You, HH, I can do this! I know, I know! Me?! a Minister?! That's what I said too before I started this course! But God reminded me that I have been doing a similar thing for years a decade ago. I was an outreach volunteer sharing hope and inspiration to other people. But this time, I know why and who I am doing this for. For His glory! Amen!!! I couldn’t' think of a better purpose for my life!
God wasn't only guiding and teaching me in this journey, He has been changing me. I praise and thank You Lord for all the miracles You have done in my life! Only You Lord could have made it all possible. Thank You so much!! My life is forever changed! I will praise Your name forever! I love You my Heavenly Husband!!
~ Joy, restored "It Was Me"
“By His Grace”
As I began reading through my lesson, I felt so down and so discouraged that I started slumbering through my lesson. But then I got to a portion where you confess your sins. Oh, sisters, that made a huge difference in my life. I woke up this morning feeling fresh, light and truly forgiven. In fact, I felt so much of His love flowing in my life, I am so much at peace with myself and I have a new life in Christ.
“I now long for an intimacy with You even more. How great is Your love towards me oh Lord. No one but You can pardon all my sins and love me beyond measure.” Psalm 86:5
Today I feel that I am a new bride with my HH who loves me above all things. It is time to stop condemning ourselves, but instead, run to Him! Even if we are deep down in the pit, crawl to the Lord because He will reach for your hand and lift you up.
Today He did what I even doubted could happen. Beloved, He loves us and wants to give us a makeover. He wants us to be the best we can be, and be loved by the Man of our dreams.
Thank You, Darling, I stand in awe of You forever.
~ Katrina, restored "No Way I'm Coming Back. It's Over"
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Much love to you,
Our Marriage Evaluation Team