Where Do I Begin?
How can I possibly handle the pain & confusion that I am experiencing?
Many people marveled that we have been able to make it through so many trials that we faced in our lives—and not just make it through—but go through it joyfully.
None of us could have made it through our husband's adultery or our husband’s divorcing us (and all that pain that goes with it), had it not been for our close and intimate relationship with the Lord.
Are you looking for a "peace" that surpasses ALL understanding?
When most of our husbands left us for other women, a lot of us were already Christians. But we never really made Him LORD of our lives. If this is where you are or if you have never had a personal relationship with the Lord, this is a perfect time to take this life-changing step to a life filled and overflowing with peace.
What is more important than your marriage problems (or any other relationship or situation that is causing you pain right now), is improving your spiritual state—which will change EVERY area of your life. It doesn’t matter if you call yourself a Christian or Hindu or Muslim or Catholic. He cares about YOU, with no labels attached.
Most women go through their lives alone and frightened and looking for security. What you really need is Who we also found. Someone who knows the future and can change the course of your life—and NEVER ever leave us or forsake us, NEVER, EVER! It’s not just that He said so, but we can attest to this truth.
“I WILL NEVER DESERT YOU, NOR WILL I EVER FORSAKE YOU,"—Hebrews 13:5
AND not only will He change you AND comfort you, from the inside out— He can actually turn the heart of your husband, your parents, siblings, grown children, boss and/or coworkers. We know because He did that for us too!
But most importantly, He will be there to comfort you when there is no one around and He will take your hand and lead you through everything. He wants you as His bride and to give you the love that you only dreamed existed. He can heal your body and bless your finances.
Trust us when we say that God is able to do the impossible if we will simply give Him our hearts and stop to ask Him for help.
"For nothing will be impossible with God" —Luke 1:37
Each of us will tell you honestly that every time we went through some of the worst experiences of our lives (crises that normally destroy most women), we found we had a peace that surpassed all understanding (in other words, the peace we felt made no sense)! Because, the more of the Lord you have, the more you shine and even benefit from the kind of crises that break and destroy women.
“They looked to Him and were radiant, and their faces will never be ashamed”—Psalm 34:5.
Later, when people find out what you have gone through (especially right in the midst of a huge crisis) seeing how you’re remaining peaceful, they will not believe how you had such a calm spirit and joyful countenance—but the forgiveness necessary to release you from your pain!
It’s true! It’s only after you experience HIS forgiveness that you will find the strength and desire to FORGIVE anyone and everyone who has hurt or offended you! Forgiveness will lift your burdens and heal your tormented soul.
Maybe there have been times that you have thought about praying, but you just didn't know how. Believe it or not, the best “prayer” is just talking to God from your heart. He doesn’t really want formal and flowery prayers. He simply LOVES having a heartfelt conversation with you. He LONGS to have a conversation with you.
SO STOP RIGHT NOW and look up or close your eyes . . .
• Just tell God in your own words that you need Him—right now to help you. AND if you don't really know IF God even exists, then ask God to make Himself real to you.
• Now, give God your life—a life that is messed up. A life full of pain and confusion, and ask Him to make it NEW!
Finally, give the Lord your heart, and then begin to experience His LOVE that is so real and full of compassion that you will find JOY at last—something no one can ever take away from you!
"Do not marvel that I said to you, 'You must be born again.' Jesus answered and said to him, "Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God'" —John 3:7
From this moment on, your life will begin to look and feel NEW, like you are BORN all over again!
Dearest friend, you have no earthly idea how much the Lord loves you, and how He has LONGED for this moment—to have you as HIS alone. How He sees you as His bride.
“For your Husband is your Maker, Whose name is the Lord of hosts; and your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.” Isaiah 54:5
Isn’t it amazing how our lives are so busy and filled with people and things that keep us from realizing that the Lord has been right there waiting to help us and love us? This is the ONE and only reason why God allowed this crisis (and every crisis) into our lives—because it often takes a crisis for us to come to the place where we begin to really need the Lord and are willing to give up and finally give it all to Him.
NOW, each and EVERY time you find yourself in need of help, in need of love, in need of direction when making a decision—talk to the Lord about it and no one else.
"Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, and He will do it" —Psalm 37:5
When you ask Him, the Lord will come to your aid and rescue or guide you through it. You will no longer need to lean on to your own understanding or don’t understand. You can stop from making another plan to fix your life. From now on you can simply give every issue to the Lord so He can show you how much He loves you and cares for you by leading or even carrying you through every crisis!
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight" —Proverbs 3:5–6
Not knowing what to do when a crisis hits, not knowing that HE is Who you need to run to, will cause you to doubt that He truly loves you and wants to guide you. So ...
—Take HIS Hand—
Even though you are desperate for someone to help you, there is ONLY ONE WAY and One person who can lead you through the Valley of the Shadow of Death.
“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4
There is only One who understands exactly what is going on, on both sides, and can also turn the hearts of everyone involved. The Lord wants to be your Husband right now as it says in Isaiah 54:4-6
“Fear not, for you will not be put to shame; and do not feel humiliated, for you will not be disgraced; and soon you will forget the shame of your youth, and the reproach of your widowhood you will remember no more.
“For your Husband is your Maker, Whose name is the Lord of hosts; and your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.
“For the Lord has called you, like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit, even like a wife of one’s youth when she is rejected,” says your God.”
All of us who have experienced a restored marriage know without any shadow of a doubt that you do NOT need anyone but the Lord to lead you through and out of your crisis.
So, it's time to LET GO of everyone and everything so that you can take hold of the Lord's hand with both your hands.
Allow Him to speak to you and learn to speak only to Him.
Take hold of His hand and travel through renewing your mind with what He says, the truth, and then rebuilding your life with His blueprints, and watch as HE restores everything!!
Unlike the common notion that "counseling" is the solution to marriage problems, we do NOT offer what has been proven NOT to work! Counseling and Christian psychology actually took Erin’s marriage from crisis to complete destruction. And not only Erin, but hundreds of women who found their way to us also told us tearfully that counseling didn't help—but completely destroyed what little was left of their marriages. It’s often what husbands use to prove the marriage isn’t worth saving!
That’s why we do NOT offer the wrong kind of help or support. We offer what WORKS!!! We don’t interfere with your Restoration Journey, but encourage you to, as we keep saying, looking to Him to guide you through.
Now that you have made this life-changing decision and have continued reading, we LONG to GIVE you the resources that will guide you along the rest of your RESTORATION journey.
PLEASE begin your journey with the Lord by following the same path countless women have followed, starting with Course 1.
Step 1, Course 1 Establishing Hope—
Beginning even before you open your computer, you can sing a love song with Him in mind, and then move onto a Daily Devotional, Encourager Praise Reports, then read the day's Psalms and Proverbs, which so many restored marriages say helps to lay the foundation. Finally move onto reading just ONE chapter of this best selling book, ending with journaling to Him.
Also, to combat any negative thoughts or comments from "well-meaning friends, coworkers or family members" after not only gaining newfound truth that will begin changing your life, but as proof— there in each lesson there is an exciting Restored Marriage Testimony chosen to help continue building your faith in God's ability and desire to Restore YOUR Marriage!
Whether you're able to get spiritually fed during your morning, or if you need to nibble throughout the day, or wait until you're back home later in the evening— it's vitally important for you to have spiritual nutrients by feeding your spirit on the full course—never missing the final step in your journey, which is to journal what you've learned, thought, and felt about all day. Journaling this to Him will also help prepare you for after you're restored.