Diana
Philippines
separated
I remember desperately crying like there's no tomorrow, begging the Lord to change my circumstance, to give me some semblance of hope for my marriage. I don't remember exactly what I typed to google search that morning, it was around 5 in the morning based on the MEQ I answered, but after more than 3 months of separation, I was finally led to hopeatlast.com. It was a time of extreme desperation and I was completely broken down... and it was the right time, for me to receive the Hope from the Lord, this book. This book is the source of everything good in me. Nobody else taught me or showed me how to have an intimate relationship with the Lord, not my family, friends, school (Catholic School from nursery to College), work... not even my EH. I didn't know what that meant, to share an intimate relationship with Him. It's one thing to pray - to ask and give thanks. But when you get to know who He is, everything is done. Nothing can compete. You just lay your life down, and it's over. He's won you over, and He's in-charge of You. Oh but He doesn't chain You to Him, He lets you go. So after being restored in my marriage, I STRAYED AGAIN. Oh please know how much struggle it is to forgive myself. I strayed because life happened and I stopped reading the principles, saying I already know them, I stopped the lessons because I simply didn't have time. Greatest mistake of my life. A day without the Lord, is a day in hell. I'm again here, desperate, broken, without anything, just begging for His mercy and love, to help me be content with my circumstance, to let Him finish His work in me.
The WOTTs are inspiring. No matter the situation, and circumstance varies, some bad, some really bad, some extremely bad. They all share one thing. They remained in Him, they let Him take over their lives. He becomes the King of the women's lives, and even when the marriage is not restored, He has taken care of them. It gives you hope when you think your situation is bad. It teaches you or guides you how to proceed with your situation.
EH hates me. EH wants to file annulment. EH "doesn't want to love me anymore" (a month ago). Mind you, this RJ (my 2nd), it was me. It's my fault. I became contentious, argumentative, won't submit, full of strife. I am disgusting. EH loved me so much until this point, I was just tearing him apart. Has it changed? It does not appear as changed to me. He still wants nothing to do with me. But he talks to me because of obligations. But I believe God is working 'cause EH is getting physically sick because of me. Ergo, still running as far away from as he can. I don't pursue him, maybe my prayers still do. We are to meet his lawyer on the 28th. May I be blessed with the Holy Spirit to mute me, and be radiant with His love. I was blessed with a free Facing Divorce Again ebook. Thank you so much. Here I learned enthusiasm and not being afraid. Not easy! it's a process, especially with what's going on right now. I'll continue to read and may God help me to remember them and follow His principles, for His glory.
God cares for you. It's all that matters. His thoughts are not your thoughts, His ways are not your ways. He will change your life, you better believe it, cause He can and He will. Oh and your husband, he's just collateral damage, and collateral goods. God removed lover and friend from you so you choose to depend on Him, His love, His mercy, His kindness. And when you are restored to God, He will make even your enemies to be at peace with you, He can and He will turn hearts. Believe Him. Trust Him, not just any man, Him!
Andrea
NY
separated
This book is how I stumbled across the RMI website and Ministry. I clearly remember the Sunday morning I was laying in bed after just waking up and I knew I had to find a book of testimonies that would help me to continue to believe for my broken marriage to be restored. I literally did not even know what the book how God can and will restore my marriage was going to be for me. Even after I got the book and started reading it it took me several days of reading through it to realize that there was a website and courses that the book was tied to. But I would absolutely recommend the courses and the book. I've already read through most of the chapters two or three times and I'm going to continue to go back over them and use the scriptures in that book to remind myself daily of what God wants to do in me and through me.
Each and every testimony spoke of God's faithfulness and the women's commitment to making God first in their lives. There were ups and downs with each relationship but there were many similarities about letting go and handing over their marriages to the one and only restorer. As it says in Revelation 19 10, the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of Prophecy. I truly believe that each and every testimony that I read is prophesying what God wants to do in my life and in my marriage. I'm so thankful for the testimonies that help to encourage my faith and help me continue to be anchored in Hope.
When I found the ministry, my husband has been gone for several months and was just that week texting me about meeting to discuss divorce and separation of assets. I was doing my best to not get too involved or worked up about it but the conversations did not end well and it's one of the reasons I was again searching online to find testimonies or something that could help me continue to believe for the Restoration in my marriage. I know that testimonies speak of what God wants to do. I stumbled across the ministry, but now I know that God purposely allowed me to find the ministry at that time when I was finally ready.
These courses will change your life! If you truly allow yourself to invest the time and energy and effort into these courses, God will meet you. And he will change you. The resources and books have been life changing for me and I know that God wants to do the same for you!
Megan
Tennessee
separated
Yes, I would absolutely recommend it! I had very little hope for my marriage until I read RYM. I was toying around with the idea of standing after I found a popular stander's ministry, but I just couldn't commit in my heart because it seemed like such an impossible task. RYM gave me the hope that I desperately needed at the time, AND showed me tangibly how to begin my restoration journey without ever wavering from scriptural principles. This book even gave me enough peace to accept my husband's divorce filing with no tears!
Yes, I would recommend it. Paired with the RYM book, it really helped make the idea of marriage restoration real in my mind. Before I read these, I thought that marriage restoration was possible, but was a rare occurrence that depended more on the wayward spouse than on the "stander" or God. Now, I have seen what is really possible with the Lord and a commitment to live out his principles in my life.
I didn't things could get much more hopeless. A couple of months prior, just three weeks before our second baby was due, I moved thousands of miles away from my husband. I birthed our second child without him. I totally fell apart when, two weeks exactly after she was born, he sent me divorce papers. I had sought the help of an attorney, and the relationship between my husband and I was very tense and filled with bitterness (mainly on my end). I said a lot of things I should not have said to him (following those "tough love" books!), and nothing seemed to help at all. I was resigned to the fact that I'd either have to remain single forever or go against God's word by marrying someone new in the future.
Precious sister, I know all too well the pain you are experiencing right now. I have been there, and at times, the pain is still overwhelming! The difference now is that I have a wonderful Lord who I know is carrying me in His arms and only wants the best for me and my family. That certainly lessens the sting of my dying marriage, and makes all the pain more bearable. Cry out to Him, sister, and He will do the same for you. <3