Part 1 What's Wrong with Counseling & Psychology?
The greatest majority of women who fill out our Marriage Evaluation Questionnaire state that at some time they have gone to a counselor due to marriage issues— and almost all women tell us that they have asked their husbands to go to counseling. Why?
Because every one of us were convinced that counseling was the SOLUTION to our marriage problems. HOWEVER, each of us who recovered from the destruction and were able to seek GOD for restoration, found out the hard way that counseling being the solution to marriage problems is simply NOT true.
Yes, I agree that this is a very strong statement, but let me back it up with a few facts.
First, if counseling was the "solution" then with the increase in counselors, Christians included, it would result in seeing a DECREASE in marriages collapsing. Yet the statistics say otherwise. Instead, there has been a huge INCREASE almost proportionately to the amount of counselors there are! Yet those who promote counseling, especially the counselors themselves, give the excuse that marriage problems are spreading too quickly for counselors to keep up with, therefore it just means we need MORE counseling!
Unfortunately, this too is false.
The truth is that the majority of those who receive marriage counseling find their marriages in WORSE trouble! All of us did, and I am going to guess that if you went to counseling you've experienced the very same result—your marriage got WORSE, much worse!
And though there are no published statistics on this, we know this is true based on the women who end up HERE at our ministry. Over and over and over and over again we have women who have gotten their husbands to go to counseling only to lament that things got MUCH WORSE once they began going to see a counselor! Women who go alone are just as susceptible to destruction due to the "counsel" that these people advice and promote. Professionals who have never walked through and are restored themselves, so how would they, how could they know, what is at stake and what is the right way to counsel anyone?!?
Even the very, very few who go, against our warnings, who quickly come right back to let us know how wrong we were—later come back to tell us we were RIGHT— and wish so much they had listened to us! Pleading with us to help them recover and just get back to where they were before their counseling meeting(s)! In fact, since the beginning of RMI, our ministry has never ONCE heard of counselors helping the marriage—only harming it. The most destructive of all is still couple counseling.
So, if your husband has REFUSED to go to a counselor with or without you—then you need to THANK GOD he did!
Had my own parents spoken to ANYONE about their difficulties, I am certain they would never have gotten back together. While in "counseling" (whether couple or individual) the entire purpose of the counseling session is to get people to TALK about their problems! What that means spiritually is that you are giving LIFE and POWER to the past, to destruction—which increases destruction!! God tells us totally the opposite about talking about bad things and even warning us about looking back!
"For it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret"—Ephesians 5:12
“Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus. Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus”—Philippians 3:12–14
Here is why counseling fails and ultimately destroys marriages.
There are many reasons, but here are just a few:
1. This "solution" fails and destroys marriages because God tells us that HE IS our "Wonderful Counselor," and any time we put someone else FIRST, we are breaking the first commandment to not have anyone but GOD above us!
"And His name will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Eternal Father, Prince of Peace"—Isaiah 9:6
2. The foundation of almost ALL counseling, even Christian counseling, is founded on sinking sand—psychology— which is its own religion founded by men who hated Christianity and wanted to destroy it.
We will be sharing just a bit about it later in this lesson about psychology since it is feeding the epidemic of divorces that the church is experiencing.
And if you doubt whether what we're saying is true, anything at all, we would LOVE for you to seek the truth and read a book that goes into this in depth. The Seduction of Christianity by Dave Hunt is on Amazon.com, and if you buy it used, you can get it for just pennies, paying only the postage which is less that $4. If you were a psychology major, I would strongly urge you to read this book if you really want to find the truth.
3. The truth is that the very principles used in counseling are contrary to what God said we are supposed to do! In counseling, individuals and/or couples are encouraged to say things, things that they are told will help heal the marriage. But with everyone of us who has gone to counseling and experienced us saying things we have wanted to say to our husbands, now with a "witness" hoping he or she would be on "our side" we listened in horror when our husbands had their turn!! When he opened up (as we had been begged him to do) saying things to us. Each of found the wounds became almost unbearable and further led to the destruction of our marriages!
Why? Because God warned us in Proverbs 17:28 that "Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is considered prudent."
Prudent is defined as "acting with or showing care and thought for the future"—exactly!
As women, especially, when we hear hurtful things, our minds replay these same hurtful things over and over and over in our minds—ultimately destroying us and often affecting our love for the person who has hurt us!
Women who finally get their husbands into counseling find that in the end, nothing new is revealed to their husbands. Nothing that their husbands hadn't already heard, and rarely will the counselor take the wife's (our) side. And when the counselor does, it backfires on us. The husbands are so bitter to the point of ending all forms of communication except with his lawyer speaking for him!
Wives who press their husbands to go, usually have been saying the same things over and over and over again to their husbands. Wives seek counseling, very often, are simply hoping to have a referee to PROVE they have been right all along!! But this just is not the result.
There is a name for women who have hounded their husbands. Actually a full chapter in our RYM book appropriately called, "A Contentious Woman." So rather than say any more about this principle, which almost ALL of us fell into, simple take a moment to reread the chapter in RYM book we gave to you just before beginning of your 30 Day Restoration Journey.
So why are we so opposed to Christian Counseling?
Counseling is a man-made solution to problems that are not only ineffective, but as we've said, completely destructive! Therefore, let me state that we, as a ministry, are outspokenly VERY opposed to any type of counseling for many reasons. Let's begin with professional "Christian" counselors.
To be a professional counselor, it means being trained in psychology. Psychology, as I said, was founded in order to destroy the Christian church and undermine its teachings. Freud's theories and others, are unfounded, have been proven wrong, and are extremely dangerous. Addictions and sickness have replaced, what for centuries was known simply as sin. What may be even worse is that "therapy" and counseling "sessions" has also replaced prayer and repentance!
Christian Counseling is defined as drawing upon both Christian and psychology teachings. The problem is psychology is a religion not a science. Therefore, the term Christian Counselor or Christian Psychologist is a oxymoron, which comes from Greek ὀξύμωρον meaning "sharp dull." Simply put, it means, that they are contradictory terms.
Not only is someone who calls themselves a "Christian" Counselor or "Christian" Psychologist an oxymoron, because the terms contradict one another, but I'm even more concerned when believers go to a "Christian" counselor because they believe that what they say MUST be telling them is Biblically based. It's not, therefore, they believe it as truth.
Even when I have read books when the Christian physiologist quotes a Bible verse, he or she takes it out of context in order to prove a psychological theory that was proven to be wrong!
Couple counseling is the most disastrous method when attempting to help a marriage that is in trouble.
Husbands and wives go into a meeting like they are going into a boxing ring. The punches are verbal and cutting. If they don't go in wanting to "fight it out" they are encouraged to say things that should never, ever be said—not ever!
The Bible is so clear on this. There are three chapters in four of our books that have pages and pages of Scripture, proving that we are NOT to speak things no matter who is baiting us! The Bible is AGAINST speaking words that God knows we will regret later. Take time to read chapter 7 "Kindness on her Tongue" from our RYM book again. There is no reason for me to say how wrong it is, when God would much rather tell you Himself.
The "theory" of saying everything that is pinned up in you, came from Dr. Freud when he compared people to a tea kettle. His theory is that letting off "a little steam" was something we needed to do before we would explode. Yet scripture tells us otherwise. The Bible says in Proverbs 10:19 that with many words transgression is UNAVOIDABLE! So who do you believe? Sigmund Freud or God?
Not too surprisingly Freud's theory was later not only proven WRONG, but in fact, proven dangerously wrong in many separate independent studies! Research found that the opposite was true. That those who "voiced" their anger, bitterness or pain INCREASED the negative emotion rather than relieving it! As Christians, are we surprised that the Bible is again proven right?! Venting will mean your husband will suffer from your third degree burns and you will suffer from your husband's—leaving scars behind—maybe for life!
Unfortunately, there is BIG money in counseling and counselors. People, even Christians, are flocking to them INSTEAD of seeking the Lord! I am always so grieved that Christians run to counselors, or are referred to them by their own pastors, instead of seeking God and His Word. They place their future in the hands of a counselor. It's so crazy!! They walk into the counseling sessions with great hope, only to be totally destroyed by it.
Once more let us say this: we have NEVER had ANYONE write us with a good experience or help from a counselor. A few have initially told us that it was helping, only to come back later and weeping over the ultimate destruction of the sessions. So please don't write or put in your form how you were helped. Trust me, God wants this truth spoken as boldly as I am speaking it now. Therefore if you write you will soon be writing me again since God is not going to let your testimonial stand with false information that will hurt others.
The truth is this, when anyone continues to talk about their problems and talk about their pain, they stay miserable and hopeless. They never see victory. They stay in the pit of despair and despondency.
BUT, when a person is encouraged to talk to the Lord about their situation, pouring out their heart to Him and then told to afterwards PRAISE Him even in their pain—you see a new person and a healed relationship!!!
Once again, counseling is a man-made solution to problems that is not only ineffective but destructive!
Now, here is a chapter that used to be in one of our most popular books. The reason we removed it because it would cause so many Christians who loved a particular Christian Psychologist, to not read my books at all. The didn't care that just about every single Bible verse proves the theories wrong.
So wanting to not offend women who may be willing to hear the truth later on, we chose to remove it. Here it is now and believe that due to you hanging in through all these lessons, you have PROVEN you want and are mature enough to hear and apply the TRUTH to your life!
by Erin Thiele
For both prophet and priest are polluted...
committing of adultery and walking in falsehood;
they strengthen the hands of evildoers...no one has
turned back from his wickedness.
—Jeremiah 23:11, 14
I Committed Spiritual Adultery
Did you know that the Bible talks more about spiritual adultery than physical adultery? Your spouse may be committing physical adultery against you, but the question is, have you been committing spiritual adultery against God?
When my husband first left, I turned to God in my pain. Instantly, He brought me peace and gave me direction. Unfortunately, I made an enormous mistake. My pastor's wife gave me a book about tough love written by a popular Christian psychologist. Even though my marriage had miraculously turned around for the better, due to me getting on my face before God and Him changing me, I went ahead and read the book.
What happened to me, I have since learned over the course of many years of ministry, has happened to hundreds of other women. Total destruction! I took on an even more contentiousness, and arrogant attitude than God had delivered me from! I became someone I didn't even like! It took less time to drive my husband away from me and away from our home than it had for God to change me when I cried out to Him!
But what was worse is that I realized that I had been unfaithful to my Lord. I had committed spiritual adultery. I had not been faithful to my Lord, my Savior, Jesus Christ alone. By seeking help from someone else, and following another plan that was not His plan, but the "Tough Love" plan that I had read, I had told the LORD, by my actions—You, Lord are NOT ENOUGH !
Just reading that right now makes me so sick and brings tears to my eyes! How could I have been so horrible?!?!
So many men and women write to us every day telling us the same story about this book and the "Tough Love" method that everyone honestly believes is going to help! How? Why? Why would being tough ever bring a spouse back. People who are mean are people I want to get away from, and my husband couldn't get away from me fast enough! Go ahead and reread "Chapter 8, Gentle and Quiet Spirit" if you still don't fully understand how the meek will inherit the earth and draw others to them. I don't want to talk about it any more because it breaks my heart to think of how I hurt my first Love Jesus by what I did.
However, I am not ashamed to say that I now believe that ALL the answers to ALL of our problems lie in the Bible ALONE. I believe that talking to God, rather than talking to anyone else, is the ONLY way to healing and wholeness.
When I was facing the death of my marriage, divorce, I NEEDED to see the Lord face-to-face. I needed the pure, uncompromising Word of God. And since it was the Lord who restored my marriage, since it was the Lord who comforted me, since it was the Lord who guided me, then to encourage YOU or anyone to seek anyone OTHER than GOD would be spiritual suicide. For you to read anything other than His Word, or to apply another method besides Scriptural principles, would be unfaithfulness to my, and hopefully your, First Love!
Call me a fanatic or narrow-minded, fine. But I truly believe that He is our ONLY hope—not just in marriage restoration, but in every single thing we do, say or need. And I am more than concerned that psychology has taken such a predominant place in our church and the life of Christians!! It has totally replaced intimacy with the Lord and the principles found in Scripture as the way to find peace.
Without any reservations whatsoever, I believe, teach and encourage total DEPENDENCE on God and on His Word ALONE. This is because I know that this is what is necessary for restoration and a powerful Christian walk—finding Him as He designed us to find and fellowship with Him! Let's touch on a few other specifics...
Sin Versus Sickness
The principles that I read in that fateful book, and in many other Christian psychology books, changed the TRUTH: it replaced sin with sickness. The sinner is thought of as a "victim" of an illness, rather than a sinner who needs to repent of sin.
If I had believed that my husband had a sexual sickness, rather than being held in the bondage of the sin of adultery as Proverbs 5:22 tells us—I never would have fasted and prayed for him the way that I did "Is this not the fast which I choose, to loosen the bonds of wickedness, to undo the bands of the yoke, and to let the oppressed go free and break every yoke?"—Isaiah 58:6.
When the world absolves a sinner of his sin, since he is just a "victim" of a disease, it will keep him in bondage to it! That's the ultimate plan of the enemy, right? To keep the sinner bound until he dies in his sin then joins Satan in hell?
I do NOT believe that your husband, or any husband, has a sexual addiction, but is caught in the cords of his sin of adultery. And whether those cords be with an adulteress, a prostitute or pornography—whatever the sexual sin. "His own iniquities will capture the wicked, and he will be held with the cords of his sin"—Proverbs 5:22.
I do NOT believe that your husband has a disease of alcoholism, but is caught in the sin of drunkenness. “They struck me, but I did not become ill; they beat me, but I did not know it. When shall I awake? I will seek another drink"—Proverbs 23:35.
These are sins that husbands (and even we may) need to be delivered from. I believe it because I have seen husbands actually delivered from drinking, not just "recover" from it, which usually means they recover time after time after time, again and again.
I must also confess that I am fanatical about using the terms in the Bible rather than the terms derived mainly from psychology. The language that was used in this country in the early part of the 1900s was taken directly from the Bible. Even non-Christians accepted and used Biblical terms.
Now our society uses the word gays instead of homosexuals and affairs instead of adultery. Those caught in the sin of homosexuality are anything but happy and those of us whose husbands have left for another woman could never call adultery an affair, which connotes a "party." Adultery is no party, not for us who are victims of it, and not even for the person caught in it. Adultery and all these other things are SIN, with all the pain and destruction that goes along with SIN!
We are told by society who embraces psychology that we have "dysfunctional" families, that we are co-dependent if we love unconditionally, and that we need to discipline our strong-willed children differently. But none of that is found in my Bible. I know, I looked. Instead, these man-evolved principles encourage us to seek help from psychologists and counselors rather than running to God and His Word. Talking about our problems can never really deliver us from them. Only seeking the presence of the Lord and seeking His forgiveness can do it all!
My passion is to encourage everyone who has any "need" to seek an intimate relationship with the Lord, and never speak to a mere, sinful mortal—but directly to the Mighty Counselor!
It is not the "mind of man" or the "psyche" that are important, but rather the sinful and desperate soul of man that He restoreth"! PRAISE GOD!!
Matthew 7:24 says, "Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine, and acts upon them, may be compared to a wise man, who built his house upon the rock."
To build on the Rock means that we must know what God's Word says and then build our lives upon that truth!
What is psychology's foundation? I found out early in my Restoration Journey that the theories in Christian psychology are not even close to being founded on the Bible, not at all. When I read the book by Dave Hunt, The Seduction of Christianity, it opened my eyes to so much that earlier I had accepted and even embraced.
It took the destruction of reading the book about "Tough Love" that I mentioned earlier to get my undivided attention because I couldn't understand why what this very popular Christian Psychologist said didn't work! It wasn't until I faced the battle to save my marriage and family that I realized I needed the real weapons of spiritual warfare—the sword of the spirit—the Word of God.
"And take...the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God"—Ephesians 6:17
"For the Word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart"—Hebrews 4:12.
I believe that so many Christians are defeated in marriage because they go to battle without the presence of God (because they failed to get in His presence) and they were without the powerful weapons they needed to win! They substitute man-made theories for the proven and guaranteed Word of God. So sad.
My life is devoted to seeing victories in marriages, which will then help win the lost to Christ. I want to see families together again, no matter whom I offend!!
"You adulteresses, do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God"—James 4:4.
I am NOT ashamed. I am considered a radical because I have spoken out against the teachings of popular Christian psychologists. People respond when I share the truth with them as if I had blasphemed God Himself!
Let me say, "...I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes..." Roman 1:16.
The simplicity of the gospel, which translates to "Good News"—all of God's Word is the power to save you if you simply believe!
You're Healed Superficially!!
What we are seeing in the church is superficial healing, like a cancer covered by a bandage!
"And they have healed the brokenness of My people superficially, saying, Peace, peace, but there is no peace" —Jeremiah 6:14.
Have you even noticed that counseling is almost always ongoing (until the money runs out or the convince you your marriage is hopeless) because it is NOT God's Word that has the power to heal completely! Read it again, "And they have healed the brokenness of My people superficially, Saying, Peace, peace, but there is no peace"—Jeremiah 6:14.
The ONLY cure is the POWERFUL Word of GOD. "He sent His Word and healed them, and delivered them from ALL their destruction. Let them give thanks to the LORD for His lovingkindness, and for His wonders to the sons of men!" Psalm 107:20-21.
God is able to totally and completely turn your life around with just ONE moment on your face before God! I know!!
"...His divine power has granted to us EVERYTHING pertaining to life and godliness, through the true knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and excellence." 2 Peter 1:3.
If we really get to KNOW Him, and allow Him to know us, He promises that He will give us EVERYTHING for our life and our godliness. Why, then, would we want to look further than our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ?
God warns us that a little leaven leavens the whole bread. We were told to "Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits." Matthew 7:15-16.
Has the church been producing good fruits or are we exhibiting just as much of the same rotten fruit as the rest of the world? Actually, the truth is, we have MORE rotten fruit IN the church!
"You were running well; who hindered you from obeying the truth? This persuasion did not come from Him who calls you. A little leaven leavens the whole lump of dough. I have confidence in you in the Lord, that you will adopt no other view; but the one who is disturbing you shall bear his judgment, whoever he is"— Galatians 5:7-10.
Committing Adultery and Walking in Falsehood.
I have confessed to you my unfaithfulness to God. I walked in spiritual adultery and falsehood that caused my spirit to become contentious and turn from the peace that God had given me—all due to my own pastor giving me a book filled with the destructive and poisonous theories of psychology!
"For both prophet and priest are polluted; even in My house I have found their wickedness, declares the LORD. Also among the prophets I have seen a horrible thing:The committing of adultery and walking in falsehood; and they strengthen the hands of evildoers, so that no one has turned back from his wickedness"— Jeremiah 23:11-14.
My prayer is that you will choose to seek God ALONE. I am not as much AGAINST psychology as I am FOR—God ALONE!
GOD loves you; He wants you to ALL to Himself. He can heal you, set you free and give you an abundant life. No one and nothing else can do that!
When you refer to your husband's drinking as an illness "he's an alcoholic" then you help keep him in bondage to his sin. The Bible in the book of Proverbs, speaks of a man who drinks, but it doesn't say he has a sickness, which needs to be cured. It's SIN and therefore it needs a Savior—just like you and I do. Here is what the Bible tells us about it.
"Who has woe? Who has sorrow? Who has contentions? Who has complaining? Who has wounds without cause? Who has redness of eyes? Those who linger long over wine, those who go to taste mixed wine. Do not look on the wine when it is red, when it sparkles in the cup, when it goes down smoothly; at the last it bites like a serpent, and stings like a viper. Your eyes will see strange things, and your mind will utter perverse things. And you will be like one who lies down in the middle of the sea, or like one who lies down on the top of a mast. They struck me, but I did not become ill; they beat me, but I did not know it. When shall I awake? I will seek another drink"—Proverbs 23:29-35.
What can we glean from these verses?
1. The man who drinks has a lot of troubles because of his excessive drinking.
2. The man who drinks will utter perverse things.
3. The man who drinks also is a victim of violence.
4. And even though he has suffered its destruction, he will still drink again.
When a man (or woman) is bound to sin, he or she is now referred to as an "addict." If your husband uses or sells drugs, the truth is that the cords of his sin have him bound. "His own iniquities will capture the wicked, and he will be held with the cords of his sin"—Proverbs 5:22. Whether you or your husband has a food, buying, or sexual addiction it is bondage to sin! Plain and simple. And simple because the solution is SIMPLE!
God can instantly deliver ANYONE from sin. It doesn't take years and years of therapy or programs or group sessions. God can set you or your husband free in an INSTANT! The reason that these programs are ongoing is that they are merely trying to cut off the fruit or the branches of the sin—rather than pulling up the root.
This is nothing more than "pruning" the sin, which inevitably brings about more sinful fruit. Don't skip it, read it again, "And they heal the brokenness of the daughter of My people superficially, saying, Peace, peace, but there is no peace"—Jeremiah 8:11.
"Is there no balm in Gilead? Is there no physician there? Why then has not the health of the daughter of my people been restored? Go up to Gilead and obtain balm, O virgin daughter of Egypt! In vain have you multiplied remedies; there is no healing for you." Jeremiah 8:22, 46:11. These verses are saying that going to the world for healing will bring NO healing at all, NONE.
It will be "superficial: healing, which, as I said, is like putting a band-aid over cancer! More and more groups are springing up to try and heal those who God could heal if they would only turn to Him. God is the great Physician. Seek Him alone for your help and your husband's healing.
How did the heresy of psychology penetrate the church?
The church lost its power and its witness when they began looking elsewhere for all wisdom and solutions to their problems. We have allowed this so-called "science," which is nothing more than a false "religion," into our churches. Science has to be able to be proven, but instead its theories were always proven wrong. Religion is something we put our faith into, but why put faith into anything or anyone but God?
How has psychology been capable of penetrating the church when it's lies?
It actually came in through our Bible colleges and seminaries! The majority of seminaries in our country and abroad actually REQUIRE their students to take courses in psychology! Why would any seminary teach heretical teachings when they are supposed to teach their students the Word of God?!!? In other words, pastors are indoctrinated in this spiritual adultery before they even stand behind a pulpit!
Why would we highly esteem this so-called science as Christians and followers of Christ?
Psychology is wrong and dangerous because it uses therapy through a counselor rather than dealing with the soul of man, the sinner, as the Bible teaches. It focuses on the soul as the psyche or the mind of man rather than the soul that He restoreth!
You’ll hear the soul referred to as the mind, will and emotion. Where is that in Scripture? It's not there, I searched.
Alcoholism and drug addiction are no longer sins to repent of, and be delivered from, but sicknesses that need therapy. Even homosexuality was at one time considered a sickness until it took the next step of being no longer called a disease, but deemed as normal!
Matthew 7:24 says "Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine, and acts upon them, may be compared to a wise man, who built his house upon the rock."
We KNOW what God's Word is built upon, but what is psychology’s foundation?
Sigmund Freud, one of the most popular founders of psychology, believed that the Christian church was a threat; therefore, he decided to deal with the problems of man from a non-Biblical perspective. He writes about it in his early work, saying that he wanted to come across as a scientist, but it was his stated "mission" to "inflict vengeance on Christianity."
Freud was Jewish by descent and he believed that his suffering stemmed from the church. Freud’s desire was to create a system to not only compete with Christianity, but to stamp it out. However, a science MUST be unbiased and able to be measured—neither of which is true of psychology.
Freud’s desire was to prove that Christianity was wrong or lacking in order to "lure Christians" to follow his beliefs. His own wife wrote after his death that Freud ACTUALLY KNEW that most of his theories were wrong!
Unfortunately, these false theories are still used today—shockingly—even in the church! They are lies that YOU may have accepted as fact!
Another founder, Carl Jung, who was a student of Freud’s, was a back-slidden Christian. He rejected his Christian upbringing and embraced this alternative to Christianity.
Most of Jung’s books (which are read in our seminaries and Bible colleges today!) were written, he says, with the help of his "familiar spirit" whom he named Philemon! Jung readily admitted that psychology was a religion, not a science, and it was indeed built to attack and destroy the church! The "deity" (or god) that Carl Jung unashamedly worshiped was the "collective sub-conscience."
We now, as a society and even within the church, have come to believe that God's Word and His Holy Spirit are incapable of dealing with people’s problems; so we refer them to psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists or counselors. Why are we not ashamed of ourselves?!?!
This has so weakened the church and has caused the church to become a referral service. Why? Because the church is no longer capable of caring for the real needs of their congregation. The church sends those in need to counselors and suggest books that are filled with psychology, NOT the Word of God! Enter the Christian psychologist!
PLEASE, PLEASE, If you doubt that what we're saying is true, we would LOVE for you to seek the truth and read a book that goes into this in depth. The Seduction of Christianity by Dave Hunt is on Amazon. As I said purchasing it used will cost you just pennies and you'll just pay for the postage. And for all of you who were a psychology majors, I would beg you to read this book and discover the truth for yourself. It was one of those life-changing books that I PRAISE GOD He let me find when I was searching for the truth!
Part 2 What's His way of helping women in crisis?
Honestly, is what you're saying about psychology really true??
"Your testimonies also are my delight; they are my counselors"— Psalm 119:24
This chapter for me was probably beneficial. Well , whenever i read it , it reminds me of all the sins that I have committed . Although our marital problems lasted only short time , before my husband and separated , I wanted to solve the situation immediately and the only solution to the problem I saw in counseling . But the Lord has been so faithful and merciful ,He didn't let this ruin , to destroy our lives . Husband went to the counselor- was only 2 times , and the counselor did not see that he need to continue . Thank God . Then I therefore I agreed to meet with Christian psychologist , but five days before the meeting I had to go out of the house and I could not meet with a psychologist . Now for that I praise the Lord that He took care of that ,He loved us so much, He protected us , but I didn't feel His love that time , I didn't know, it was His protective hands, so i still complained ... I went to a friend , she also gave me advice o n what to do , despite the fact that I something inside me said that I can not listen to her advice , or advice of the priest , although I have listened . So Lord had to completely remove me from my husbands life I had to go back to my country and in silence , because I had no one to know about my situation , I learned to speak only to Him , the best counselor. and then I found RMI and I finally saw all the evil that I caused with my own hands .
This lesson certainly opened my eyes and I can see the truth . As I said , I did not know how psychology is very dangerous . In this year, which Im in this ministry, I learned that my problems (actually I do not have any problems anymore) is not discussed with anyone else, only with the best counselor, who not only hear, but things turn to my favor.
This lesson and this ministry completely changed the way I thought about it before. Before I heard that I have to tell all the problems to fell reliev inside. Now I know I do not have to speak, because the Lord knows what I mean, He knows my thoughts, my downs, my injury. He knows everything. I dont take advice from anybody anymore, I give everything into His hands.
The Lord is my everything, He healed me, healed my sick heart, gave me peace, joy and love, that I found only in Him because of the relationship which we have and His never ending love towards me. I know, nobody will ever love me the way He loves me. I do not recommend anyone to every go to any adviser - a priest, a psychologist, magazines. i also dont take advice from anybody, just from His word. My advisor lives within me, knows my past, my present and future and knows what can hurt me, and what will help me. I only trust Him and thank Him for each test that came into my path, because the most testing the more trust i have in Him.
And i only agree that psychology is a relationship killer. Doesn't help, only make more trouble, pain, and heartache. I went through all this. It was the worst experience to listen to things , why my husband is unhappy in our relationship .
Amalia in Poland is our Slovak translator and a Minister in Training. Soon after finding RMI she began working to translate Erin’s books and the RMI website into her own language to help other women.
This Praise Report was posted in our Encourager.
Today's Renewing the Mind lesson covered counseling. Over the past few weeks, I had been convicted about returning to school a few years ago, to major in Psychology. I told myself that I wanted to 'help people', because I endured such a horrific childhood. I was only one semester away from my bachelor's degree after this semester, but I have been led to drop out of college. And not because of my grades; I was on the Dean’s List!
Most would consider this move drastic, but I am learning that it takes zealous obedience to walk the narrow path. Colossians 2:8 says, “Beware lest anyone cheat you through philosophy and empty deceit, according to the traditions of men, according to the basic principles of the word, and not according to Christ.” I allowed myself to be pulled into this deception, increasing my head knowledge, but literally choking out the word that had been planted in me; so very, very dangerous!
Really, I wanted to seek recognition for myself and my academic success, because the Lord was missing from my life and I was trying to fill the void. So my motives were actually vile and selfish. I see that returning to school and putting my academics first, was VERY detrimental to my marriage. The countless nights I spent pouring over textbooks, while neglecting my housework, my husband, and my duties as a wife, make me shudder now. I was far from being a good wife, as Proverbs 12:4 says: “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness to his bones.”
I was not in the will of the Lord, and it took the destruction of my marriage, for me to wake up and serve God alone. I became more arrogant, self-righteous, angry, bitter, contentious and selfish than ever, seeking only to please myself.
Much of what I learned, even in my general education classes, directly contradicts the word of the Lord. I even got to the point where I doubted the existence of God because of all of the garbage that was being fed to me; and I was going into debt to learn this! I see that in me, somewhere, was a true desire to help others, but as I examine myself, I see that the desires I have are not to counsel, as I once thought. Instead they are to direct other women to live under, and take solace, ONLY in the word! This pit I fell into almost destroyed me! Still, I am thankful for what I learned, because now I know a lot of "tricks of the trade", and what garbage psychology is, that I plan to use to warn others.
Erin's lesson today was spot on! I was told I was bipolar, had borderline personality disorder and was recommended extensive counseling. I went to one session after I was released for my suicide attempt. Yes, that is correct; I was in such a mess that I desired to end my life. If my schooling was so accurate, how did I end up in a mental hospital?
I had just came back to the Lord, and even then, something did not feel quite right in my spirit about sitting with a stranger, going over and over my problems! They even tried to plant thoughts in my head, suggesting that I "get angry." Who knows better to counsel me than my Maker, my Husband, and My Savior? NO ONE! I quit counseling despite the extensive suggestions from well-meaning friends and family, that thought I should go. This was even before God led me to RMI!
I am thankful now that my husband denied my request for "Christian" counseling, before he left! I have also been delivered from anti-depressants, and went off of them with no side effects. Instead, I am now more peaceful, joyous, and even-tempered than EVER before! Praise You Lord!
“Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.” Psalm 51:10
Thank you Lord for delivering me from the lie of psychology! I praise You!
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In RMIOU "Restore Ministries International Online University" we not only teach our MITs "Ministers in Training" but we also look for the "specialties." Unlike most universities where people "choose" their course of study based on their interests, we look for the specialty that God chose for them. And that is ALWAYS the valley or crisis the Lord brought us THROUGH.
Hilary and I always believed that she was just to head up the continent of Africa so we never actively were looking for her "specialty" in ministry. Having gone through divorce and remarrying her husband again as part of her restoration, I always believed was MORE than enough of a specialty to help women. However, just recently when we were helping one of our MITs, I discovered something very special! She had made it through having first hand knowledge, wisdom, experience and a wealth of "inside information" where most whistle blowing is done. Here is what she'd like to share with you, and what she shared recently with one of our MITs:
"Having worked for Psychologists for 7 years, it always disturbs me whenever someone declares that they have been labeled with one or other supposed disease! I know for a fact that the personality tests given by Psychologists are a load of drivel. In fact, when I had nothing to do at work, I used to go through them and then mark them to see what they would say. It became a huge game to me, as every time I changed the answers which I filled in, so that I could control the outcome... Yes, you absolutely CAN do that and I did... which means that depending on your mood the day you take the test, the results can be completely and totally different.
Often, we used to sit around and gossip about the clients, and they would sometimes discuss some or other prognosis and what to do about it. It didn’t take me long to figure out that the doctors really didn’t have a clue how to cure anyone, but would try all sorts of mediums like hypnosis, medication, etc in order to get someone to change. I didn’t know about the Lord at that time and it didn’t really strike me as odd that they were trying to play God themselves. It was only when my own marriage started falling apart and they tried to psycho-analyse me and then pile me with work (to take my mind off my depression - they said) that I realised it was all such a scam.
It wasn’t long after that I resigned... As we all do, when we are just starting out on our journeys, we make a lot of mistakes, but the most foolish one of all was when I agreed to go with my husband to a Psychologist to try to work things out. Oh, what a horrid little man this doctor was. He caused so much damage, you wouldn’t believe it. You would think that I would have known better from working with these frauds for 7 years, but NO! I always have to do things the hard way...
In any case, they started scratching in our lives and opening up old wounds that should have rather been left for the Lord to heal. As a result, my husband went from bad to worse, I was treated like some type of mental person, until I decided that enough was enough and I refused to go.
You see the thing is that Psychologists can’t really heal you at all! They stick their big noses in where they don’t belong, make all sorts of recommendations, label you with a whole load of disorders and blame your genetics for your current behaviour. NO! That is just not true. If you are being labeled as depressed, bipolar, post traumatic stress syndrome, or any other disorder, I can honestly tell you that there is JUST NO SUCH THING! There is sin and demons, yes. But all these freaky disorders... NO.
The other day I got an email from a friend who is also one of our Ministers in Training and this is what she wrote:
Hello, dear Hilary,
Thank you for once again for being honest with me and strengthening me towards the right path. Due to my suicide attempt last year, I have to go and see an Psychiatrist. The Lord has protected me a few times from doing this, but eventually I had to go. They diagnosed me with Bipolar Disorder or what they call Borderline Personality Disorder. I was shocked and could not believe it. I felt scared and lost, and also abandoned.
I know God is still here with me and loves me. I have not turned back from Him and continue in my prayers to Him. Also I was scared and afraid of what would happen if the diagnosis is true. I do not think you are going to want me to be part of this wonderful "family" and that scared me and made me even more sad. But I was praying about it and I knew I have to tell you all this, so you know the truth and are able to make a decision. I also know that whatever happens is God's will for me and I have to follow it.
Thank you again for all your prayers and support, it means very, very much to me.
My reply to her was as follows:
Hello my darling friend,
No you are wrong... We don't want you to leave and we don't want to suspend you at all.
You see the thing is, I know that you felt you had to go and see a Psychiatrist, that it is a requirement for you because of your attempted suicide. I also know that you know how we feel about all Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Counselors, etc otherwise you would not have been concerned about what we would think. The truth of the matter though is this... That by going to see the Psychiatrist he has actually caused you more harm than good and it literally broke Erin and my heart when we read it...
Honestly, if I were to go to a Psychologist, I am sure that I would also be stamped with a Bipolar label, because that is what they do - they label you with some ridiculous DISEASE because they don't know what else to do with you. The truth of the matter is though, that there is no such disease as BIPOLAR or Borderline Personality Disorder or Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, or an Avoidant Personality Disorder!!! THE TRUTH is - there is God and WHAT HE SAYS about us and then there is satan and his horde of simpletons who will speak lies into your life... Who are you choosing to believe?
Don't accept it, don't believe it - there is nothing wrong with you. You were and are sad and not in the best place, but the Lord has begun changing you and LOOK how FAR you have come! Yes girl you most certainly have!! So going to this Psychiatrist is just another evil plot against you that you need to avoid at all costs if possible and put it ALL out of your mind each and every time the enemy tries to remind you of it.
The other thing is that when we are down to nothing, not feeling we have anything to give to anyone else, is when we need to turn around and give that last bit of hope away - remember what you GIVE you will RECEIVE... And yes, your Encourager was great! You are an amazing person, I just wish you could see yourself from our point of view... Now if WE as humans feel this way about you - then I doubt that we can fathom just HOW WONDERFULLY the Lord feels about you...
We are always praying for you dear one... Stay strong, keep ministering and doing what is right 🙂 pressing toward the goal of knowing and experiencing Him more and more.
Hilary (and Erin)
After I sat and thought about it I realised that God really is the only One who knows and understand each one of us. He knows how we were put together, because He made us. Only He can change us from the inside out. There is no other way to be changed. We can’t even change ourselves... We are just plain stupid to even try.
You know, words are very powerful. God used words to make the world, Jesus used words to perform miracles. Therefore, we should be very careful with the use of our words and allowing other people to speak a bunch of lies over our lives—ultimately they are “cursing” us. We need to break free from these curses upon our lives and not accept these diagnoses which are made by others.
I know for certain that this is just a ploy from satan and that if I even start to believe or think on it for a second, then I am allowing it to take root in my life and grow. The minute someone says things like that about my life, I speak the truth into my life, because I know that the truth will set me free.
• The truth is that there is no demon in me - by the name of Jesus Christ it has come out, since the Lord resides in me!
• The truth is that I am not sick, if anything is wrong with me it's because I am sinning...
• The truth is depression is selfishness. It's when I think all about me! How sad I am, how bad my life is, how I can’t help myself...
What does God tell us to do to rid ourselves of depression? To focus on others, to give, to help...
It’s when we walk in those truths that we start to feel better, that we find peace, that we aren’t selfishly thinking about ourselves all the time and before we know it, we aren’t depressed anymore and we are healed!!!!
Psychology is an extremely harmful practice that was invented with the focus on destroying God’s Word... Thankfully the Lord opened my eyes before any more of my family members were harmed. Yes, the TRUTH did set us free!
~Hilary in South Africa, RESTORED and healed from the ravages of psycho-lies.