but first a powerful Restored Marriage Testimony
My problems began when I started suspecting my husband was in adultery. I was not sure but he had changed. So like all women I started going through his stuff to see what I could find. One day he came home drunk and I managed to get hold of his cell phone. That’s where I found the truth. My whole world came crashing down. I didn’t know what to do. I talked to my friends who, as usual, told me to confront him, and I was a fool and did whatever I was told by someone who didn't know what the right thing was to do.
I confronted him and that’s when all hell broke loose. He told me he was seeing this woman and no one or anything would stop him because she was pregnant with his child. I didn’t stop there. I then foolishly went and told his parents but nothing changed.
My situation got worse. He moved out and started living with OW. He told me I could tell whoever I wanted but no one would help me. That’s when I came to my senses and remembered that actually there was Someone I could tell and He would help. I turned to God and asked Him for help.
I started reading the Bible and praying for God’s guidance. I felt at peace in my heart though it was broken. One day I was on a bus going home from work and there was this lady holding some papers. The heading was praying scriptures for your marriage. I got eager to know what it was and the next day I went to the Internet and Googled the heading. I found so many websites about marriage restoration.
That is where I found YOU! I found out about the RYM book. I read the book and even before I could finish the first chapter I saw what kind of a wife I was. I knelt down before the computer and asked God to forgive me and asked Him to give me another chance in my marriage. I started applying the principles in the book and I felt that the time was coming for my victory. I didn’t care whether the OW was pregnant or not but I knew my victory would come in handy. I used to pray and cry, but this time, I was crying to my God for His mercies.
One month had passed since my husband moved out. He used to come home while I was at work to see the children but all this while I had not seen or talked to him because he told me not to call him. I obeyed like the RYM book says. I kept telling God that I needed to see my husband so he could see the changes in me.
One Sunday morning God remembered me. I received a call from my husband. He wanted to know if I was at home because he wanted to come and pick some of his stuff from the house. I started praising God for I knew it was His plan. I knew it was His plan because my husband would always come in the house during the day and pick up whatever he wanted when we weren't home, but this time he wanted to come while I was at home. PTL!
The reason he came however was because he had lost his job. He wanted me to loan him some money (which I did because as you taught us, we were still married and that is being submissive). That day we talked and had fun, enough that he didn’t end up taking anything with him! When he lost his job, it was the beginning of his troubles with the OW, and the beginning of my victory!
The OW I am sad to say had abortion. I later found that she got pregnant so that my husband would marry her and so all his money would be hers, but now he didn’t have a job so, no money. She became sharp like the book of Proverbs 5:3-5 says. They began fighting and my husband would come over to see me. One time she hit him with a stool and broke his hand. He came over and lied that he had fallen down while on the bus. That’s when he realized she was after his money and there was no love.
He was ashamed of coming back to my house completely so he rented another flat where he lived alone. He told my cousin that he had said a lot of hurtful words to me and he felt embarrassed. He said I was treating him well, but he had hurt me enough, and everything I and his family had warned him of, had come to pass.
He asked my cousin for advice and she told him to do what the prodigal son did but he couldn't. He thought if he came back I would laugh at him because I had won. He stayed alone for quite sometime, but because he didn’t have a job the burden of paying his and my rent became too big. God turned his heart and he finally decided he needed to move back with me and kids!
He called all his family members and asked them to forgive him and he accepted his mistakes. He told them he had learned his lesson and he was starting all over again... if I was ready to accept and forgive him. He wanted us to be a family again. I told him I had forgiven him and I asked him to forgive me too for I was contentious and I was not a good wife to him; we were given his parents blessing!
It hasn't been easy since God restored my marriage. It is not easy because the devil always reminds me of all the pain my husband caused me, but I have learned to overcome him with time with the Lord and my prayers.
My husband and I have become true friends. He began to tell me all his troubles and his plans, which he never did before. When I am not in the house and he wants to go somewhere, he calls or writes a note so I can know where he is and I do the same. It is not always smooth but I am sure that good times are ahead. Even after I lost my job I have something to thank God for—my family is together and complete!
I have learned to be content with what I have and am trusting God because He promised He will supply my needs according to His riches in glory through Christ Jesus (Phil. 4:19). Also, knowing He is my Shepherd, I shall not lack (Psa 23:1).
I thank God for fighting on my behalf. There are so many things He did for me behind the scenes. I thought my husband was happy with OW but I hear he had been regretting everything he had done from the beginning, especially after God said it was time for him to see the changes in me.
God is faithful to those who wait. Ladies, wait patiently on the Lord for He is true to His promises. He will answer your prayers when the time is right. It might seem long, but He will eventually hear your prayers.
Thank Erin also for her ministry. God bless you for using you to show us the truth. I thought I was a perfect wife but I was wrong. I have learned to listen more than talking and I am submissive. Erin, may the Almighty God reward you for your great ministry.
Ladies always look at Jesus and not the water when He asks you to get out of the boat. Because, if you look at the water you will sink but, if you look at Jesus you will walk on the water!!
God bless you all. AMEN!
Vicky in Kenya, Africa, RESTORED
God Brought us Full Circle
Submitted by: Dawn in Ohio; I’ve Experienced a Restored Marriage, I was an RMI Minister.
As I was sitting in church recently with my husband and children, listening to the preacher, God reminded me that we were in this same place two years prior, but with a broken marriage. God truly has brought everything full circle. As the preacher continued his sermon, I remembered being at the very same altar two years ago asking the Lord to please give me peace and to show me what I needed to do. I had no idea that everything that would transpire afterward would be for my own good—for I was nowhere near the kind of Godly woman that the Lord needed me to be.
I was not serving the Lord the way I was supposed to be serving Him. I was neither hot nor cold, but lukewarm. I was comfortable going to church and trusting God for things. However, I was not on fire for Him. I did not take pleasure in nurturing the ministry the Lord gave me (my family) through cooking, cleaning, and other household duties. I did not allow my husband to be the leader of our family. I did not listen nor respect him. I was clean on the outside, but filthy on the inside, and I didn’t even know it. I was gradually tearing my house down until my life and marriage ended up going down into sinking sand.
While deep in the sand, I humbled myself and prayed to the Lord and repented of my sins. I asked the Lord to make me a better wife to my husband. In my cries to the Lord, He had one of my friends send me the link to How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage, and my eyes began opening wide to the kind of woman I truly was and how I needed to be. I was disobedient to God’s Word -- rebellious, contentious, and a Pharisee. Though I asked my husband to forgive me, he already decided that he wanted a divorce and planned to move out of the house as soon as he could. Yet, I knew God would restore my marriage, despite how things appeared, and continued to hold on to His promises. Although I wanted my husband to stop his thoughts and actions of divorce and turn his heart back to me, I began praying and seeking for God’s will in my life.
As I trusted God more and more for His will to be done, He provided me with a complete makeover. He took away the victim coat and showed me that I was actually the perpetrator: I was contentious, hateful, bitter, unforgiving, deceitful and loud. I hated being home. The Lord had a lot of work to do within me. It was painful to look in the mirror and see that I wasn’t the person I thought I was, not the person others thought I was. Chaste and respectful, one of the lessons I studied while reading A Wise Woman, I was not. The Lord was gracious enough to show me that I hadn’t embodied any of these Godly qualities, and was a harlot in every sense of the word. The Lord removed all of my ugly, worldly traits layer by layer, and replaced them with fruits of the spirit; love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. All of the biblical principles discussed in the RMI resources I didn’t know to begin with, so I had to re-study them multiple times to sink in. The tests that I underwent after learning and studying of His Word were much harder and painful than the ones from my school days, but they are also more rewarding. I struggled with several things - learning not repaying evil for evil, keeping my mouth shut, and not defending myself. Though difficult, the best part is that the Lord was always with me. He saved me from the fire, and although He may not have always spoken to me in the midst of my testing and trials, He never left me. These tests stretched my faith (especially when I couldn’t hear Him) and gave me the endurance that I needed to finish this part of my race.
The most difficult obstacle for me to overcome was fear. The Lord addresses fear many times in His Word. In Isaiah 40:10 NIV, it says “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” I clung to my fears - fear of rejection, fear of being hurt again. After the Lord allowed the divorce to go through and He began bringing the wall down between me and my husband and began bringing my husband around, my fear still grew within me and I pushed my former husband away. I pushed him away a few times before the Lord showed me what was happening. He revealed to me that my restoration journey was almost a year longer than it should had because I kept intervening, leaning on my own understanding rather than His. God was putting things back together again, but I was pushing them apart. God was bringing my husband around and allowing my husband to allure me, but I was pushing him away. Once I realized it, I asked the Lord to help me conquer my fear and restore my marriage if it truly was His will.
In His will for my journey, I ended up going through the seasons with the Lord as my Husband twice, due to my fears. The second time around, I learned to relate to every situation and everyone on a different level than before. Each season gave me a deeper appreciation for the Lord as my Husband. While I was going through the seasons with my Love, I was also going through the season with my then former husband. I was and am so in love with the Lord that I had let everything go, but He kept telling me that a life of singleness (as defined by the world) was not His will for me and my children.
The turning point in my journey came about when my former husband continued alluring me, and this time I knew what it was - God’s will. We were in Canaan Valley, ironically, when the Lord told me that despite my mistakes and fears that He was going to restore my marriage. Wow! There were hints hidden in different things the Lord was showing me. After the Lord’s revelation to me, my former husband and I talked even more, but all appeared to stay the same. Then my friend passed away. I was devastated! I watched his marriage get restored not even a month before he died. During this time, my former husband was there to comfort me and my daughter. The Lord used this sorrowful time in my life to bring us even closer together and make our relationship new.
The thought of remarriage to my former husband never crossed my mind. I was happy with the Lord as my Husband and very content living the way that we were. However, the Lord had other plans. My husband decided that he wanted us to get remarried as soon as possible and then the Lord took over from there. This was one of my biggest tests in my journey - overcoming my fears of remarriage and trusting in the Lord. The morning of our wedding ceremony, I was so overcome with fear that when the judge commented about never marrying a bride with cold feet, I nearly passed out. I was praying to the Lord during the entire ceremony to help me conquer my fear and keep obedient to His will; I wanted to run. He reminded me of 1 John 4:18 (NASB) which says that “there is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love.” The Lord helped me through the entire ceremony which lasted two minutes, but seemed like an eternity.
There have been a whirlwind of changes that the Lord has made in me. Changes that I could not have made on my own. God has been using me to help others in their Restoration Journeys from the very beginning of mine. I always enjoyed helping others in their time of need, which is why I am a volunteer firefighter, and helping others with their journey is an extension and a new part of serving others through and for the Lord. I also love being home and serving my family now. I am learning so many things about being home, cooking and cleaning. I am still getting brave enough to learn how to quilt, sew, and crochet, as I love to learn. Although I am a work in progress, I am content with being at home and taking care of my first mission field, my family. This is something I always wanted to do, but didn’t know how until I was led to this ministry.
Now I am starting a new part of this journey with new tests and trials. I am so glad that I had RMI and all of their resources to help me be ready for this part of the journey. I know that this is a lifelong journey and the thing that I want everyone to know is that I love the Lord with all my heart.
I recommend every resource RMI has to offer. They are filled with the truth that every woman coming to this ministry needs. I read all of them at least twice, and keep them for future reference. I also suggest writing out the Bible verses that speak to your heart on 3X5 cards. The resources are so wonderful and give you the raw truth while you are broken to help you build a relationship with the Lord as your Husband.
When I found RMI, I was broken and looking for the truth. I found this ministry just when I needed it, which confirms that the Lord’s timing is perfect. I couldn’t take the RMI courses right away so I reread what I did have from the ministry, and then moved on to other books like workers@home about keeping up with my home -- another part of His plan.
During this journey, which will last for a lifetime, I found something I never had before, a real relationship with the Lord. When He took me as His bride, my life completely changed. Things that used to matter to me no longer mattered. I wanted and want to live to please Him, and do the things He called me to do.
Honestly, I would not change a single minute of the time I spent getting to know my new Husband. It was time that I needed with Him. He is still my everything and now that I obey Him and have a restored marriage as a result. He has been blessing me so much that I cannot even begin to tell you in just a testimony or praise report. He has given me back everything that I lost over the past two years ago—and so much more. Everything that I allowed the enemy to steal from me since I never tithed and was ignorant to the truth.
I hope that each of you all find Him in a deeper more intimate way, a relationship with Him is worth every tear, heartache, and loss that you will endure.
God’s plan is to bring everything full circle as we follow Him along our Restoration Journey.
~ Dawn in Ohio
THE ESTHER TREATMENT
In the Bible, in book of Esther, it begins with the story of Queen "Vasti" who is being removed and he is finding a replacement because of her behavior that infuriated and angered the king. I am sure we can all find a familiarity with that when the men in our lives who no longer wanted us!
After removing Queen Vasti, the next step was for the king to find a NEW queen, which is when Esther comes into the picture. She was chosen to REPLACE Vasti as queen!
Though you were once like a "Queen Vasti" (just as all of us once were) God is NOW calling you to be HIS NEW Queen and HIS bride! We can already see how He has been transforming you, and we suspected this was His plan when we read through your Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire.
God is the One who saw the change He needed to make in you. He wanted to transform you from a Queen Vasti who is not fit due to her insubordinate and contentious behavior. This is why the Lord "turned your husband's heart away from you."
"The king’s heart is like channels of water in the hand of the LORD; He turns it wherever He wishes"—Proverbs 21:1
The next step (if that has not gotten your attention) is to remove him completely from your life.
"You [Lord] have removed lover and friend far from me; My acquaintances are in darkness"—Psalm 88:18
"You [Lord] have removed my acquaintances far from me; You have made me an object of loathing to them; I am shut up and cannot go out"—Psalm 88:8
Due to not being agreeable, you are now locked in an emotional prison.
"Agree with your adversary quickly, while you are on the way with him, lest your adversary deliver you to the judge, the judge hand you over to the officer, and you be thrown into [emotional] prison"—Matthew 5:25
Your husband turned away from you to the point that he may have actually begun to loath you, and in most cases that's when—he gets caught falling for another woman. She usually has been "smooth as honey" but this is only at first. Later she will turn out to be "bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edge sword."
You need to be transformed from the contentious wife you've been in order "To deliver [your husband] from the strange woman, from the adulteress who flatters with her words"—Proverbs 2:16
"For the lips of an adulteress drip honey and smoother than oil is her speech"—Proverbs 5:3
"For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress and embrace the bosom of a foreigner?"—Proverbs 5:20
The adulteress your husband is involved with is not only going to turn sharp and bitter, but also "For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread, and an adulteress hunts for [and has stolen your] precious life"—Proverbs 6:26
Only the gentle and quiet spirit of YOU as his wife will be able to "keep [him] from an adulteress, from the foreigner who flatters with her words"—Proverbs 7:5
That's because "The mouth of an adulteress is a deep pit; he who is cursed of the LORD will fall into [this pit of destruction]"—Proverbs 22:14
HOWEVER dear wife, the ONLY way to fight this is NOT to continue to act like an adulteress woman nor stupidly try to warn your husband (this will set you back years!!). INSTEAD begin to stop acting as the adulteress woman...
"This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth, And says, “I have done no wrong”—Proverbs 30:20
Be willing to look at yourSELF and confess your faults. This will begin to transform you into having a "gentle and quiet spirit" and AGREEABLE spirit, which are what is precious in the sight of God!
"In the same way [as Jesus acted], you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
"Your adornment must not be merely external—[the way you look, fix your hair, or jewelry]— but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God"—1 Peter 3:1-4
HOW IS THIS TRANSFORMATION POSSIBLE?
Now that you're interested in doing things GOD'S WAY, it's time to let you in on what we see He is doing in your life. That way you can work WITH God on the next step of your Restoration Journey, which is VERY EXCITING!!
Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but WITH God all things are possible”—Matthew 19:26
Like all the women who experienced a restored marriage, the Lord wants to give YOU a complete MAKEOVER and He always begins by working from the inside out, the "hidden person of the heart"!
Your heart was broken when you came to us looking for encouragement, and we hope you will pursue becoming closer and closer to with Lord. Because if you do, your heart will heal and very soon SOAR with His Love that will spill over (and be evident) to everyone in your life—just as Vicky shared with us in her Restored Marriage Testimony!!
THE BEGINNING of the TRANSFORMATION
In the book of Esther we see how once Esther was selected to replace Queen Vasti. And right after she was CHOSEN, she basically went into complete SECLUSION to be pampered and bathed and perfumed until God was ready for HIS REVEAL to her king!
And only when He knew that not only was Esther ready to take her place as queen, but He knew that the king was also ready to accept HER ALONE to sit by his side. Only then did God reveal the NEW Queen Esther—AFTER Esther's transformation to a regal queen!
During her transformation neither she nor anyone else reported the progress of her transformation to the king—not one thing about what was being done to transform her. He had no idea how she was slowly but beautifully changing!!
Instead, her makeover was kept a secret from EVERYONE
Now let's focus on that man of yours for a moment.
STEP TWO: MEN will run if they are PURSUED
Almost ALL of the men who leave or want to leave are stopped or chased and pursued by their wives AND their girlfriends! Men were not created to be chased but to be the one to chase and pursue. Men were created as the hunters, not the hunted.
The other woman didn't chase him like you are foolishly doing, instead SHE SEDUCED him with kind speech and her smooth ways to get him. Yet this ends and is only temporary so DON'T YOU try something so foolish!!
What will turn your husband's heart is when GOD does His BIG reveal and a HUGE part is TIMING! If you have created nightmarish memories of things you've said or outrageous behavior, your husband is going to need some TIME to heal and have his memory washed clean.
It's time to hide away in your prayer closet and pray Psalm 9:6 "The enemy has come to an end in perpetual ruins, and You [Lord] have uprooted the cities; the very memory of [all of] them has perished."
Some of the most amazing testimonies have happened due to praying and trusting God for the promise in this verse! One I share on my Be Encouraged videos when my own husband said something amazing to me. After years of being argumentative, of being a contentious woman, he said, "Well, we've never argued!" Again, the reason he told me he left was because of our fighting! But GOD's word are His promises to us, and I believed God could wipe out all the past memories and He did!
Not only did he forget about how I used to be, but he later forgot all about the other woman after he got home. He honestly couldn't remember anything!
Similar testimonies have come in. Early after Michelle's marriage was restored she told me how squeaky clean her husband's mind had been cleansed of his past. However, years later she wrote to tell me that bitterness was hidden in her heart due to the pain her husband had caused HER. So she began praying this prayer for herself and experienced her memories cleansed!
BECOME A CHALLENGE—NOT "EASY" TO GET
Just look at how ALL men seem to have an obsession with sports and/or hobbies that captivate them. WHY? It's because of the challenge. If there were no challenges, just like they are experiencing in their relationship with us (who are often pursuing them), then they would become bored and lose interest.
As soon as our society began encouraging women to be the ones to pursue men, the more women began being treated as a harlot would—used and abused—and abandoned.
We know that GOD CREATED women to be a husband's helper and NOT his harlot. We want YOU to be cherished and NOT CHEATED on.
Unfortunately this will never happen until each of us knows and understands HIS PLAN for the way a woman should be, which makes us attractive to men. And this is why we want to teach you how to work WITH Him in HIS makeover of YOU!
And once your makeover is complete, get ready to step up to YOUR place of honor and get ready to be pursued!!!
"You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her HONOR as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered"— 1 Peter 3:7
Do I have a Man for You!
The only way for your husband to begin to pursue you and for you to be ready for WHEN (not if) the adulteress becomes bitter and cutting— is for YOU to be involved with another MAN.
NOW please don't run away, this is not just ANY man, but THE Man. He is known by many names, because He is a Man like no other.
In Revelation 17:14 they say:
He is Lord of lords
the King of kings
In Isaiah 9:6 they say His name will be called:
Prince of Peace
In Isaiah 54:5 He tells us some more wonderful news:
"For your Husband is your Maker, Whose name is the LORD of hosts; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the earth.
Why would this magnificent, perfect Man become YOUR Husband?
In verse six it actually explains why:
"For the LORD has called YOU, [yes, YOU!] ,
Like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit,
Even like a wife of one's youth when she is rejected,"
Says your God.
God goes on to say in verse four,
"Fear not, for you will not be put to shame;
And do not feel humiliated, for you will not be disgraced;
But you will forget the shame of your youth,
And the reproach of your widowhood you will remember no more."
Amazing isn't it?
And how did He know this was how you felt? That this was what was happening?
Guess what? It's because He was watching and listening!! Read this from the Bible in the book of Malachi:
"This is another thing you do: you cover the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping and with groaning...Yet you say, ‘For what reason?’ Because the LORD has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Take heed then to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of your youth"— Malachi 2:13–15
The LORD had been a witness when you have been treated unkindly, unfairly and without love!
Why Did God Allow this Unkindness to Happen?
Because He has been jealous of the person whom your husband has become in your life.
"You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God"—Exodus 20:5
Husbands are not to be worshiped or served, but submitted to and respected—yet only as "Unto the Lord" meaning, you are supposed to be doing this with the Lord on your mind and in your heart!
• "Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as unto to the Lord—Ephesians 5:22
• "Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord—Colossians 3:18
Not only is God jealous, since Jesus bought you with a price by dying for your sins. But He also created you for fellowship with Him. Yet what He is most concerned about, because it breaks His heart, is to see you USED and ABUSED because you continue to pursue this man.
“For their mother has played the harlot; she who conceived them has acted shamefully. For she said, ‘I will go after my lovers, who give me [what I need].
“Therefore, behold, I [God] will hedge up her way with thorns, and I will build a wall against her so that she cannot find her paths. She will pursue her lovers, but she will not overtake them; and she will seek them, but will not find them. Then she will say, ‘I will go back to my first Husband, for it was better for me then than now!’" —Hosea 2:5-7
Women who are desperate and cling to their husband "out of need" are the very ones that are vulnerable to being abused, used, and mistreated! Yes, our ministry is about restoring marriages, we want women to be WILLING to allow GOD to restore your marriage (remember that is the title the book you read—How GOD Can and Will Restore Your Marriage), but that is not the same as pursuing your lover when your FIRST love must be Him, the Lord your God.
Think about it this way...
Imagine a young girl who arrives in New York City by bus, and has no one and nothing. No one to protect her, no where to live and no money for food. Is she vulnerable to being used and abused? Of course she is!
But what if that same girl had a Father who owned everything? Not only in New York City, but property everywhere? What if this same girl had a Husband who was the Son of a King? How vulnerable do you think she would be to being used and abused? She wouldn't!
Now let's think about this...
What if this same girl had a Father-in-Law who was a King and a Husband who was a Prince, and yet she RAN AFTER a some lowlife man who didn't want her? Would you think she was nuts?!?!? Of course you would!
Have you ever had your husband hug or hold you but you either still HURT inside or didn't FEEL loved? What if I told you that when you asked your New Husband to hold you, you wouldn't (necessarily) feel it on the outside, but on the INSIDE where it mattered?!
What if I told you that you could call on Him without using a cell phone, day or night, and He would be there to LISTEN and speak kind and loving words that counteracted any nasty text, email or phone call from the man who said he wanted out of your marriage and relationship?
It's true because this is the way WE live!
Not only are we incredibly LOVED but many of us are provided for by our Husband and are not working for our "income." We can't even explain HOW but we do know WHY. It's because we are His Bride and because we have put our trust in Him, our hope in Him, and because we LONG for Him above all else and anyone else.
"Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, and therefore He WAITS on high to have compassion on you For the LORD is a God of justice; How blessed are all those who long for Him"— Isaiah 30:18
YES, dear abandoned and cheated one. We are blessed and want YOU to be blessed too!
Sure, people would think we're nuts, IF we told them. Yet a lesson you will learn very soon is about discretion. About keeping things to ourselves rather than what most people do that bring about opposition. We have learned to ONLY share how we live with those who find themselves in the very same emotional gutter we fell into by making so many mistakes—the main one was to worship our marriage and husband—ignoring the Man who had been trying to get our attention for YEARS.
We were unfaithful to Him. We committed spiritual and emotional adultery for years and then were surprised when our earthly husbands were unfaithful to us.
Once we got a hold of this TRUTH and became His Bride, we began to be radiant with His love.
"They looked to Him and were radiant, and their faces will never be ashamed"—Psalm 34:5
And once we looked and became radiant, the change in us caught the attention of our earthly husbands because we were different and glowing!
SADLY, it's very easy to fall for the same guy who once was mean and nasty to us. We see it all the time with our friends and we try to warn them. Once they have decided to let go, very soon, they are back worshiping the guy who doesn't deserve your friend, and all too soon he is even more cruel. Dear friend, this is you!
We care about you and have chosen to be HONEST with you when no one else would. Abuse, abandonment, cruelty and unfaithfulness is beyond an epidemic! GOD wants it to stop and the only way, THE ONLY WAY, is to take His hand and enter into His strong tower where we will be safe!
"The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous runs into it and is safe"—Proverbs 18:10
All you have to do is to call out His name in your heart and find Him right there with you!
Sure, God instituted the union of marriage, but not the way marriages are now! No, we can't change men, but we can change ourselves, and in doing so, God will see to it that we are given not just respect, but HONOR! Just think about that!
"You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered"— 1 Peter 3:7
But this kind of honor is reserved for only SOME women. No, not because you are beautiful or charming, but only if you put the Lord first!
"Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised"—Proverbs 31:30
The word "fear" is not really saying you are to be afraid of the Lord, but to be in AWE of Him. The word in Hebrew is יָרֵא yare' meaning to stand in awe of. And once you know Him the way we know Him, standing in AWE of Him is not only natural, but the only thing you can do—unless you fall on your face or are up dancing for joy!
But aren't you a RESTORATION ministry?
Aren't you trying to get marriages back together?
YES, exactly! But from the very first marriage that was RESTORED, the one that began this ministry back in 1991, women saw their husbands' hearts turning back to them once they wanted THE LORD MORE than they wanted their husbands back or their marriages restored.
Sure, there were a few who got restored in the flesh—their husbands and marriages were their main goal. But with these same women the only way to KEEP their husbands home was to take every bit of their flesh to keep him home and even more work to keep him happy!
The ONLY WAY is to go for the BEST Husband and stay faithful to HIM! And one more thing. Let me ask you a question to prove that God has already begun your Makeover...
Have You Lost Weight?
When women come to our ministry seeking our help one of the questions we ask is if they have lost weight. It may seem like a strange question, but it is actually a good sign we look for that indicates that the woman is indeed broken, and is open to our help.
The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise—Psalm 51:17
So, when you first came here, and you answered ,Yes, you'd lost weight, we want you to know it is a VERY GOOD sign and it's actually very GOOD NEWS. It proves that God has begun His MAKEOVER on YOU!!
The saying "A picture is worth a thousand words" is true. Take a look at these before and after pictures of a few women who submitted new pictures so we could watch the transformation while God did His makeover!
This member said, "The first picture of me that I submitted, each time I saw it I could see the deep sadness in my eyes (as that was at a time before God completely transformed me), the new picture is just recent and it does show God all over me lol."
This member looks so completely happy now.
This member is a new woman too. We can clearly see from her pictures that since she was not willing to get off the potter's wheel (she was homeless and asked no one but the Lord for help) can transform you not only on the inside but also what others see on the outside.
Earlier in our books and videos we spoke about alluring your husband, based on Hosea 2:14:
“Therefore, behold, I will allure her, bring her into the wilderness and speak kindly to her."
What we've seen the Lord do is remove the burden of US having to allure OUR husbands, and instead cause OUR husbands to begin alluring US!! How can this happen? The verse:
“Therefore, behold, I will allure her, bring her into the wilderness and speak kindly to her"—Hosea 2:14 is actually the Lord speaking to us, you and me, as HIS bride! There is no way I can explain to you how much He LONGS to allure us, you and me, and remove all the "Baals" from our mouths. Baals signify anyone or anything we long for more than we long and want Him.
“She will pursue her lovers, but she will not overtake them; and she will seek them, but will not find them. Then she will say, ‘I will go back to my first Husband, for it was better for me then than now!’" Because, "I have this against you, that you have left your first Love"—Revelation 2:4.
Once we embrace the LORD and become faithful to HIM, exactly as you've wanted your estranged husband to want ONLY you, and not the other woman, then I promise He will turn your husband's heart back to you—not one moment before.