💔MM: It was my fault in CD

January 20, 2024 4 Comments

Please leave some encouragement for this bride who filled out an MEQ "Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire." Before commenting, please remember to:

    1. Speak to your Husband, your Maker, to know what He wants to say to this brokenhearted bride.
    2. Keep it SHORT.
    3. Encourage sharing 1-2 Promises.
    4. Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey.
    5. After 3 MM Comments and the comments are CLOSED for this session, please continue to encourage by confirming what the ministers are saying by replying beneath their MM Comments.
      “Every fact is to be confirmed by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” 2 Corinthians 13:1
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Please Note: We ask that you reply to this post ONLY if you are an IOU Student working towards qualifying for your Marriage Minister Certificate.

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Country
Democratic Republic of Congo
What language do you speak
French
I am here:
I am seeking to restore my marriage.
What is your current marital situation?
Married, and my husband lives with me.
Have you read the book “How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?”
No
How did you find our ministry?
By the testimony of a woman whose marriage was restored, on my blog "my couple my relationships"
Now please tell us about your situation and why you came to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship?
My husband loved me passionately, we were so close, I had taken him for granted, I had a casual youth and I lied to him several times about my past. During our 12 years of marriage I behaved very lightly and I lacked wisdom, I was not submissive, a liar, manipulative, I chatted with other men on social networks, we often talked about it my husband and I but I didn't realize that it was hurting him, I was so sure of our love that arguments didn't scare me, I was sure that we would reconcile every time. Then I realized I had feelings for a work colleague and I confessed it to my husband it was very stressful but I was convinced he would forgive me... he got into a situation anger and decided to divorce then the next morning he told me that he had dreamed of our daughter who begged him crying not to divorce but from that day on he became another man, I don't recognize him more, I feel like scales have fallen from my eyes because I realize what a bad wife I have been and for his part he is making me live hell... I am now trying to be better and Lord promised to restore us but he hates me And tells me every chance he gets, he tells me that the biggest mistake of his life was marrying me. He constantly puts me down. I suffer greatly from the fact that I try so hard but every time I think I have moved forward with the Lord he reminds me of all my mistakes by putting me down. he imposed unimaginable rules on me and I accepted everything because I knew it was my fault and I want to save my marriage but at the slightest mistake on my part (even a trivial thing) he reminds me to what extent I repels him. If I didn't have God I don't know what would have become of me. I feel so humiliated
Please use the space below to simply talk to God, in your own words, opening your heart to Him.
My God please come to our aid, heal my husband, support me and restore our marriage, help our children and protect their hearts and please during this time of waiting do not insult me no more and give me your peace, I have no more strength.
So that we can serve you more effectively, please check which concerns apply to you:
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Finally, please choose how you would like us to conduct your marriage assessment from the choices below.
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Pays
République démocratique du Congo
Quelle langue parlez-vous
Français
Je suis lĂ :
Je cherche Ă  restaurer mon mariage.
Quelle est ta situation conjugale actuelle?
Mariée, et mon mari vit avec moi.
Avez-vous lu le livre "Comment Dieu peut et va restaurer votre mariage?"
Non
Comment avez-vous trouvé notre ministÚre ?
Par le témoignage d'une femme dont le mariage à été restauré, sur me blog "mon couple mes relations "
Maintenant, veuillez nous parler de votre situation et pourquoi vous ĂȘtes venu nous demander de l'aide et qu'est-ce que votre mari/partenaire a dit comme Ă©tant les principaux problĂšmes ou problĂšmes qu'il a avec vous et votre relation ?
Mon mari m'aimait passionnĂ©ment, on Ă©tait tellement complices, je l'avais pris pour acquis, j'ai eu une jeunesse dĂ©sinvolte et je lui ai menti Ă  plusieurs reprises Ă  propos de mon passĂ©. Pendant nos 12 ans de mariage je me suis conduite avec beaucoup de lĂ©gĂšretĂ© et j'ai manquĂ© de sagesse, ke n'Ă©tais pas soumise, menteuse, manipulatrice, je tchatais avec d'autres hommes sur les rĂ©seaux sociaux, on en parlait souvent mon mari et moi mais je ne rĂ©alisais pas que ça le blessant, j'Ă©tais tellement sĂ»re de notre amour que les disputes ne me faisaient pas peur, j'Ă©tais sĂ»re qu'on se reconcilierait Ă  chaque fois. Puis j'ai rĂ©alisĂ© que j'avais des sentiments pour un collĂšgue de travail et je l'ai avouĂ© Ă  mon mari c'Ă©tait trĂšs stressant mais j'Ă©tais convaincue qu'il me pardonnerait... il s'est mis dans une colĂšre noire et a dĂ©cidĂ© de divorcer puis le lendemain matin il m'a dit qu'il avait rĂȘvĂ© de notre fille qui le suppliant en pleurant de ne pas divorcer mais Ă  partir de ce jour il est devenu un autre homme, je ne le reconnais plus, j'ai l'impression que des Ă©cailles sont tombĂ©es de mes yeux pcq je rĂ©alise la mauvaise Ă©pouse que j'ai Ă©tĂ© et de son cĂŽtĂ© lui me fait vivre un enfer... J'essaie maintenant d'ĂȘtre meilleure et le Seigneur m'a promis de nous restaurer mais lui me dĂ©teste Et me le dit chaque fois qu'il en a l'occasion, il me dit que la plus grosse erreur de sa vie a Ă©tĂ© de m'epouser. Il me rabaisse constamment. Je souffre Ă©normĂ©ment du fait que je fais tellement d'efforts mais a chaque fois que je pense avoir avancĂ© avec le Seigneur il me rappelle toutes mes erreurs en me rabaissant. il m'a imposĂ© des rĂšgles inimaginables et j'ai tout acceptĂ© pcq je savais que c'Ă©tait ma faute et je veux sauver mon mariage mais Ă  la moindre erreur de ma part(mĂȘme une chose banale ) il me rappelle Ă  quel point je le rĂ©pugne . Si je n'avais pas Dieu je ne sais pas ce que serai devenue. Je me sens tellement humiliĂ©e
Veuillez utiliser l'espace ci-dessous pour simplement parler à Dieu, dans vos propres mots, en lui ouvrant votre cƓur.
Mon Dieu s'il te plaßt vient à notre secours, guéris mon mari, soutiens moi et restaure notre couple, aide nos enfants et protÚge leurs coeurs et s'il te plaßt pendant ce temps d'attente fais qu'il ne m'insulte plus et donne moi ta paix, je n'ai plus de force.
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4 thoughts on “💔MM: It was my fault in CD”

  1. Bonjour chÚre fiancée,
    Je suis dĂ©solĂ© d’apprendre la situation dans laquelle tu vis et je compatis. Je te comprends lorsque tu dis que tu prenais les choses pour acquis et maintenant le cƓur de ton mari terrestre est devenu dur comme la pierre. Je peux te rassurer que j’avais Ă©galement le mĂȘme sentiment avant que les choses ne se gĂątent. Mais il y’a de l’espoir. Ton Ă©poux cĂ©leste veut restaurer ton mariage mais avant Il veut ton cƓur. J’aime ce verset : Nous sommes prĂȘts aussi Ă  punir toute dĂ©sobĂ©issance, lorsque votre obĂ©issance sera complĂšte. 2 corinthiens 10:6.
    LĂšve les yeux vers ton Ă©poux cĂ©leste, passe du temps avec Lui , alors il te donnera ce que ton cƓur dĂ©sire, il t’aidera Ă  traverser toute sorte de situation. Il te fortifiera, les insultes de ton mari seront comme le feu par lequel Daniel est passĂ© et il n’a pas brĂ»lĂ©. Ne crains rien, sois dans la paix,
    Car les armes avec lesquelles nous combattons ne sont pas charnelles ; mais elles sont puissantes, par la vertu de Dieu, pour renverser des forteresses. 2 corinthiens 10:4
    Je veux t’encourager à lire et relire ce cours et faire ton journal, https://aidemaritale.com/cours/c1/ comment Dieu peut et veut restaurer ton mariage.
    Sois puissamment fortifié.

    Hello dear fiancée,
    I’m sorry to hear about the situation you’re going through and I sympathize. I understand you when you say that you took things for granted and now your earthly husband’s heart has become hard as stone. I can assure you that I also had the same feeling before things got bad. But there is hope. Your heavenly spouse wants to restore your marriage but first He wants your heart. I like this verse: We are also ready to punish all disobedience, when your obedience is complete. 2 Corinthians 10:6.
    Look up to your heavenly spouse, spend time with Him, then he will give you what your heart desires, he will help you through any kind of situation. He will strengthen you, your husband’s insults will be like the fire through which Daniel passed and did not burn. Do not fear, be at peace,
    For the weapons with which we fight are not carnal; but they are powerful, by the virtue of God, to overthrow fortresses. 2 Corinthians 10:4
    I want to encourage you to read and reread this course and journal, https://hopeatlast.com/c1/ how God can and will restore your marriage.
    Be mightily strengthened.

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  2. Chere mariée,
    La situation que tu vis n’est pas facile nĂ©anmoins il y a de l’espoir .
    Le fais que le seigneur t’ai conduite ici dĂ©montre son dĂ©sir de vous restaurer. Car rien ne lui est impossible .
    Je voudrais t’encourager à lire le livre
    Comment Dieu peut et restaurera votre mariage .
    Se livre est rempli de vĂ©ritĂ© biblique , et de principe qui t’aideront Ă  restaurer ton mariage .
    Il est Ă  lire et relire plusieurs fois .
    https://encouragingbookstore.com/languages/france/wrym-french/
    Lorsque tu aura terminer le livre je te suggùre de commencer l’un de nos cours gratuit appeler l’espoir enfin
    Ses cours sont trĂšs encourageant ils m’ont donner de l’espoir quand je n’en avais pas les vidĂ©os de tĂ©moignages mon beaucoup aidĂ©e
    https://aidemaritale.com/cours/c1/
    Peu importe se que ton mari dis ou ta situation
    Tu ne sera point honteuse dans cette situation
    Psaume 34:5
    Quand on tourne vers lui les regards, on est rayonnant de joie, Et le visage ne se couvre pas de honte.
    Les hommes peuvent avoir des projets mais c’est Dieu qui decide .
    Proverbe 16:9
    Le coeur de l’homme mĂ©dite sa voie, Mais c’est l’Eternel qui dirige ses pas.
    Accroche toi Ă  ton Ă©poux cĂ©leste , il ne t’abandonnera jamais il veut te consoler , t’encourager , ĂȘtre lĂ  pour toi . Prend sa main et laisse te guĂ©rir et tout restaurer
    Esaie 54:6
    Car l’Eternel te rappelle comme une femme dĂ©laissĂ©e et au coeur attristĂ©, Comme une Ă©pouse de la jeunesse qui a Ă©tĂ© rĂ©pudiĂ©e, dit ton Dieu.
    P.S Jai moi aussi eu la grĂące de lire les tĂ©moignages sur le blog mon couple mes relations . Alors que je ne vais plus sur le blog j’ai reçu un e-mail qui m’invitais Ă  lire le tĂ©moignage d’une femme qui avais Ă©tĂ© restaurĂ©e au travers d’aide maritale . J’étais tellement heureuse pour la dame et se qu’il a fais pour elle je sais qu’il le fera pour toi pour moi et pour nos toutes .
    Si tu est à la recherche de plus de témoignages
    Il y a des témoignages disponibles en anglais
    Disponibles au travers de la séries de livres By the Word of their testimony .
    https://encouragingbookstore.com/women-resources/wot-enter-his-gates-with-thanksgiving/
    Et en français
    https://aidemaritale.com/?s=TĂ©moignage+
    Sois abondamment
    bénie

    Dear bride,
    The situation you are experiencing is not easy, however there is hope.
    The fact that the Lord brought you here demonstrates His desire to restore you. Because nothing is impossible for him.
    I would like to encourage you to read the book
    How God can and will restore your marriage.
    This book is filled with biblical truth and principles that will help you restore your marriage.
    It should be read and reread several times.
    https://encouragingbookstore.com/languages/france/wrym-french/
    When you have finished the book I suggest you start one of our free courses calling hope at last
    His classes are very encouraging, they gave me hope when I didn’t have it, the testimonial videos helped me a lot
    https://aidemaritale.com/cours/c1/
    It doesn’t matter what your husband says or your situation
    You will not be ashamed in this situation
    Psalm 34:5
    When we look towards him, we are radiant with joy, And our faces are not covered with shame.
    Men can have plans but it is God who decides.
    Proverb 16:9
    The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.
    Hold on to your heavenly husband, he will never abandon you, he wants to console you, encourage you, be there for you. Take his hand and let you heal and restore everything
    Isaiah 54:6
    For the LORD remembers you as a woman abandoned and sad in heart, as a wife of youth who has been put away, says your God.
    P.S I also had the grace to read the testimonies on the blog my couple my relationships. While I no longer go to the blog I received an e-mail inviting me to read the testimony of a woman who had been restored through marital assistance. I was so happy for the lady and what he did for her I know he will do it for you for me and for all of us.
    If you are looking for more testimonials
    There are testimonials available in English
    Available through the By the Word of their testimony book series.
    https://encouragingbookstore.com/women-resources/wot-enter-his-gates-with-thanksgiving/
    And in French
    https://aidemaritale.com/?s=TĂ©moignage+
    Be abundantly
    blessed

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  3. Dear precious bride from Congo, I am so sorry for what both of you are going through, but there is hope because with our Darling Lord nothing is impossible.
    For nothing will be impossible with God. L1:37
    Dear precious bride I want you to please start changing your words, because I also always said that my husband hated me and one day it came out of his mouth and then my Darling Lord led me to this verse:
    The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. P18:21 https://biblehub.com/proverbs/18-21.htm
    Put all your focus on our Darling Lord and allow Him to lead you and make Him your First Love and He will be the One to bring healing in both of you and healing in your marriage – https://loveatlast.org/
    ~~~~~~~~~
    ChĂšre prĂ©cieuse Ă©pouse du Congo, je suis vraiment dĂ©solĂ©e pour ce que vous vivez tous les deux, mais il y a de l’espoir car avec notre Seigneur ChĂ©ri, rien n’est impossible.
    Car rien n’est impossible Ă  Dieu. L1:37 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luc%201%3A37&version=LSG

    ChĂšre prĂ©cieuse Ă©pouse, je veux que tu commences Ă  changer tes mots, car j’ai aussi toujours dit que mon mari me dĂ©testait et un jour cela est sorti de sa bouche, puis mon Seigneur chĂ©ri m’a conduit Ă  ce verset :
    La mort et la vie sont au pouvoir de la langue; Quiconque l’aime en mangera les fruits. P18:21 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbes%2018%3A21%2CProverbs%2018%3A21&version=LSG;NIV
    Concentrez-vous entiĂšrement sur notre Seigneur chĂ©ri et permettez-lui de vous guider et de faire de lui votre premier amour et il sera celui qui apportera la guĂ©rison en vous deux et la guĂ©rison dans votre mariage – https://aidemaritale.com/amour-enfin/

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  4. “Thank you, we have a 3 Cord of comments supporting \o/\o/\o/ this bride. This session is now CLOSED.”

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