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We received the following question on EncouragingWomen:
I am frustrated with myself today.
I keep thinking about my EH. It’s very frustrating. I genuinely don’t want to. I keep asking, keep repenting, keep telling my Beloved he’s all I want and all I need and then I keep thinking on things regarding my EH.
I watch my kids in His house every day while he works. (Praise I am with them!)
So I see him 2x a day.
I am wanting to confess my weakness here. I cannot in my own power stop my mind. I can keep turning my thoughts back to Him and away from my EH.
I am praying He will remove my EH from my mind and heart because I’m tired of it and weary of it.
Praising God now for helping me in this.
Thank you for any comments anyone else experience this? I’m sure I’m not alone in this.
I too have experienced this same feeling of wanting to let go of my EH, but not fully being able to. It took some time and it didn’t happen over night, however I decided to do something every time my EH came to mind. This is something I learned from Course 2, the Freedom of Letting Go. https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d15-the-freedom-of-letting-go/ We must spend more time with our HH and less time focusing on our EH. This can include reading His Word, praying and talking to Him, praying for other women, journaling, and ministering to other women. If we fail to replace something in its place, the urges or cravings will be even stronger. Be encouraged to know the minute you shift your focus on Him, He will see your heart is no longer with your EH, and your EH will begin to pursue you. But don’t allow this to stop your progress down your restoration journey, keep looking forward at Him. He loves you more than you can ever know.
”Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.“
Matthew 6:33 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/mat.6.33.NLT
”Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires.“
Psalms 37:4 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/psa.37.4.NLT
“Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.” C3:2:
It’s understandable to feel frustrated when you’re struggling with unwanted thoughts and it’s good that you are acknowledging your weakness and that you are praying to God for help.
I too have been in that situation. The Lord had me start to fast a couple days a week (maybe to get me too weak and hungry to think about anything else but asking Him for strength).
He also had me to think about my thoughts. As soon as thoughts regarding eh came to my mind, I would “shake it off” (I often do this when I have any negative thoughts too) and I would recite scripture or pull out my index cards to get my mind on the Lord. Sometimes I would have to do this a few times a day and sometimes a few times an hour!
“Forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forward to those things which are ahead” Ph 3:13
Don’t ever give up because He is changing you, it might just be little bits at a time.
“And let us not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen and relax our courage and faint.” Gal 6:9
I have to share this with you! Today I asked my Beloved to help me understand more about him being my husband. what is it that I desire from a man etc and He did show me wonderful and marvelous things. I did a praise report on it, but I am on a high right now! thank you two for your wonderful encouragement.
Hello Dear Sister,
I too went through my season of not knowing how to let go of EH . I woke up thinking about my situation , I dreamt about it while I slept, I carried this through my day even going to bed . I knew in my spirit I couldn’t continue in this type of mind frame but I didn’t know how so I fasted for 21 days . I made my request known to God that all I wanted was him to know him , love him I devoted my time and attention to the things concerning God only and he has done remarkable things . I was in bondage in my own mind but he set me free now I only desire my HH and the things concerning his kingdom. I learned once we replace things concerning our HH we are taking our thoughts captive and he will give us peace this is going to take complete and constant surrender and humility and your going to have to fight for it . Whatever is pure , just, of good report think on these things .
Dear Bride, you are not alone! I went thru this stage as well and it’s frustrating when I felt “stuck” and could not help myself. I agree with other brides – it’s going to take time to get there and it cannot be done without renewing your mind. Even when I fully let go, there were still times I was tempted to think about EH, so really it’s so important to continue renewing your mind on a daily basis. For me what really helped is focusing on getting to know the Lord and being grateful everyday that He is for me. I used to place my happiness on EH (which is very wrong) but I understand now that the fruits of the spirit come from the Lord. The Lord is the source!