Please leave some encouragement for this bride who filled out an MEQ "Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire." Before commenting, please remember to:
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- Speak to your Husband, your Maker, to know what He wants to say to this brokenhearted bride.
- Keep it SHORT.
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- Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey.
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| Country: |
| United States |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my marriage. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Separated: I am married, but my husband does not live with me. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| Yes |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| Reading a book on kindle |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We had our first baby this year in January. Before finding out I was pregnant we were a military family. My husband and I were deciding whether or not he was going to stay in the military. We then had chose not to stay and we were going to move to Texas. Well we found out about two months later that I was expecting. I then no longer wanted him to get out of the military because his back up plan that he had created did not go through. The day we found out the sex of the baby is the day my husband also found out within minutes of the news that his best friend had died in a fiery crash with his 18 wheeler. This was devastating. My husband had knee surgery that August. His separation date from the military was scheduled for September. I was 5 1/2 months pregnant at the time and my husband promised me we would not go without insurance. Two days before he let me know that we wouldn’t have insurance because he could not qualify for the guard due to knee surgery. I felt the security blanket was ripped from under me at that point. Things became rocky from then on. We packed our things and moved back home to TN although I did not want to at this point. 1 hour into the drive the UHAUL broke down and delayed us getting home for another two days. When we made it to our new place we found out we had Covid, I had been feeling sick but I thought it to be pregnancy symptoms. I was forced to go to the ER after my nose bled for the 6th time. I had no insurance then. I was then referred to an OB. On my first visit the OB looked over my paperwork and I immediately sensed something was wrong. Fast forward, I went to be checked out by a high risk OB and my son was teetering on being below the 10% in weight for his gestation. My husband had no job yet so we were using our savings which was rapidly depleting. My parents moved in because there house was being renovated. I was able to get on state insurance. Things were just hard. My husband also had a particular friend back home whom I felt was no good. The more he began to hang around and communicate with him the more I started to see some things I did not like. My husband got a job overnight, I was being monitored twice a week with Dr.visits and things we’re looking up. FF we were told the baby needed to come out and that he had dropped below the 10%. We went to the hospital two days later, I labored until the baby started having complications and then ended up getting a C-section. My husband was amazing and took care of me and the baby the next two weeks. O things were going great:l. On April 5 my husband found an ig message from my affair partner of years ago where he had said happy valentine day Mrs. and I stupidly replied back Happy Valentines Day. From that point forward my husband stated he did not want the marriage and he began talking to and seeing other women instantly. He would deny, even tried to hide it, get other phones, and I even found boxes of protection. I had finally had enough and moved me and the baby out because I no longer felt that he was trying to work on our marriage. Things got even worse and he abandoned me and the baby. He moved into his own apartment. I would tell the other women he was married and that he wasn’t helping with the baby. They didn’t care and it only made him madder at me. And it only hurt him spending time with our son even more. I would reach out to family for help and advice. It got me nowhere and I found out that people really do lack morals these days and the ability to care for others. I saw my husband in a whole new light. One I had never recognized before. He blamed me for the way our marriage was and kept saying he wanted a divorce and is still saying that 7 months later.
The bottom line is I want my husband back and our marriage restored. The main problems he stated are feeling respected and believing that a former affair partner will pop up again. |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| God I am not without fault in this marriage. I was stubborn, I was mean sometimes, and at times I did not show my husband the proper respect. When this first happened I was so busy looking at my husbands sin and wrongdoing that I couldn’t see how I was further contributing to the destruction of our marriage. God forgive me please. I now know the error of my ways and just submit to you and your will for me, for us, for this marriage. I forgive my husband and pray that from this day forward when I speak of him only sweetness drips from my tongue. I love my husband and I don’t want to be without him Lord. Please make me over again as I humbly submit myself to you Lord. Soften our hearts Lord and make us anew. |
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There precious bride I am so sorry for al the hurt you are going through. I want to start of with this promise from our Darling Lord to you: “He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” P46:10
I too made the mistake and contacted the other women and looked for help from family and even friends and that was a big mistake, but that didn’t catch the Lord off guard, so I want to encourage you from now on to just go to the Lord and pour out your heart to Him and only Him.
I also want to encourage you to please do Course 1 https://hopeatlast.com/c1/ which includes so many testimonies and I want to encourage you to journal at the end of each lesson, where you will get the change to pour out your heart towards our Darling Lord.
I know our Darling Lord is going to free you from depression, just like He did with me, please listen to the podcast how our Darling Lord set me free from depression – https://encouragingwomen.org/alive-with-a-purpose/
My Heart goes out to you. I know all too well what it’s like to have so many things happen at once, with a baby. I want to encourage you today, to be loved. Draw near to your HH and let him fill you with what you need he will give you the freedom to let go as he works in your favor.
https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d15-the-freedom-of-letting-go/
“You need not be afraid of sudden disaster or the destruction that comes upon the wicked, for the Lord is your security. He will keep your foot from being caught in a trap.”
— Proverbs 3:25-26
Dear bride, I am so sorry for what you are going through, dealing with adultery is heartbreaking and devastating, and going through it while you have small children is even more difficult. I know because I have been there, but I made so many mistakes in dealing with the adultery that increased the hate wall between us and led to more devastation in the end.
I agree with what Janine and Belissimma shared, and would like to share one more lesson with you: https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d16-dealing-with-adultery/
Focus on your relationship with the Lord during this season, He wants you to run to Him, He wants a close relationship with you, He wants to fight for you, you only need to be still and let Him be God in your situation.
“For the eyes of the LORD move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His”—2 Chronicles 16:9
“The king’s heart is like channels of water in the hand of the Lord; He turns it wherever He wishes”—Proverbs 21:1
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