Please leave some encouragement for this bride who filled out an MEQ "Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire." Before commenting, please remember to:
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- Speak to your Husband, your Maker, to know what He wants to say to this brokenhearted bride.
- Keep it SHORT.
- Encourage sharing 1-2 Promises.
- Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey.
- After 3 MM Comments and the comments are CLOSED for this session, please continue to encourage by confirming what the ministers are saying by replying beneath their MM Comments.
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| Land |
| South Africa |
| Watter taal praat jy? |
| Afrikaans |
| Ek is hier: |
| Opsoek na herstel vir my huwelik. |
| Wat is jou huidige huwelik status? Maak asseblief seker dat jy die een kies wat jou situasie DIE BESTE beskryf. * |
| Getroud en my man woon by my. |
| Het jy die boek "Hoe God Jou Huwelik Kan en Sal Herstel" gelees? |
| Nee. |
| Hoe het jy ons bediening gevind? |
| Tydens Bybelstudie tekste gaan soek wat aansluit by die studie waarmee ek besig was |
| Vertel ons nou asseblief van jou situasie en hoekom jy na ons toe gekom het vir hulp en wat het jou man/maat gesê is die hoofkwessies of probleme wat hy met jou en julle verhouding het? |
| Daar is gereeld van sy kant af uitlatings oor ons intieme lewe, hoe die huishouding gehandaf word en ons finansiele situasie. Hy vind dat ons kinders teveel is vir ons verhouding en dat om tyd saam my te spandeer te veel van ń Las geraak het. |
| Gebruik asseblief die spasie hieronder om eenvoudig met God te praat, in jou eie woorde, en jou hart uit te stort na Hom. |
| Here aan U kom die lof en heerlikheid toe en ek vra dat u wil op hierdie huwelik en gesin sal geskied.
Here U ken ons situasie, U ken ons harte en behoeftes. Here ek is moeg tot in my siel in moeg. Met elke tree na ń better geloofslewe voel dit asof ek net so vinnag dit weer verloor. Here ek as ma trek swaar ek as vrou weet nie meer hoe om my man te help nie. Elke poging tot tyd saam hom verval in trane en seer. Here my man is so verbitter teenoor die wêreld, hy sien nie meer die liefde en omgee om hom raak nie. Here my seuns kort hulle Pa se liefde. Here U ken my man U weet hoeveel goed daar in Hom is, Here ek wil weer na my man kan kyk soos ek eens het, weer posetief oor ons voel. Ek wil my kinders in ń huis van liefde, omgee en U woord opbring. Here ek dra swaar aan die verantwoordelikhede teenoor my gesin. Ek voel uitgeput ek kan nie meer alles op my eie dra nie ek het my man en sy leiding nodig ek is swak Here asb help my hierdie dinge bakly met geloof, help my om my Man van U wee en liefde te oortuig want soos dit nou gaan sal ons huwelik nie oorleef nie ons het U nodig, ek het U nodig. Here help my om my man te vergewe vir wat hy aan ons as gesin en my as vrou doen, help hom om my te vergewe vir my swakheid en sonde teenoor hom as die man van ons huis. Here U is almagtig en ons is tot alles instaat deur U wat ons krag gee. Amen |
| Vir ons om meer effektief aan jou te bedien, kyk asseblief watter bekommernisse op jou van toepassing is: |
| Depressief. |
| Ten slotte, kies asseblief hoe jy wil hê ons moet jou Huweliksevaluering doen uit die keuses hieronder. |
| Plaas jou vraelys privaat aan 'n toegewysde IOU Huweliksbediening-student. “Voorbeeld" |
| Country |
| South Africa |
| What language do you speak? |
| African |
| I am here: |
| Seeking recovery for my marriage. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to select the one that BEST describes your situation. * |
| Married and my husband lives with me. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage"? |
| No. |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| During Bible study I went looking for texts that connected with the study I was doing |
| Now please tell us about your situation and why you came to us for help and what did your husband/partner say are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| There are frequent statements from his side about our intimate life, how the household is handled and our financial situation. He feels that our children are too much for our relationship and that spending time with me has become too much of a burden. |
| Please use the space below to simply talk to God, in your own words, and pour out your heart to Him. |
| Lord, to You belongs the praise and glory and I ask that Your will be done on this marriage and family.
Lord You know our situation, You know our hearts and needs. Lord I am tired to the core of my soul. With every step towards a better life of faith, it feels like I'm just losing it again. Lord, I as a mother struggle, I as a wife no longer know how to help my husband. Every attempt at time with him ends in tears and hurt. Lord, my husband is so bitter towards the world, he no longer sees the love and care for him. Lord my sons need their Father's love. Lord You know my husband You know how much good there is in Him, Lord I want to be able to look at my husband again as I once did, to feel positive about us again. I want to take care of my children in a home of love and bring up Your word. Lord, I carry the responsibilities towards my family heavily. I feel exhausted I can no longer carry everything on my own I need my husband and his guidance I am weak Lord please help me fight these things with faith, help me to convince my Husband of Your woe and love because as it is now go our marriage won't survive we need You, I need You. Lord help me to forgive my husband for what he does to us as a family and to me as a wife, help him to forgive me for my weakness and sin towards him as the man of our house. Lord, You are omnipotent and we are capable of all things through You who give us strength. Amen |
| For us to serve you more effectively, please check which concerns apply to you: |
| Depressed. |
| Finally, please select how you would like us to conduct your Marriage Assessment from the choices below. |
| Submit your questionnaire privately to an assigned IOU Marriage Ministry student. "Example" |
Kosbare liewe vrou van Suid-Afrika, ek is dankbaar dat die Here jou na ons bediening toe gelei het en ek wil jou aanmoedig om alles oor te gee aan ons lieflike Here wat alles vir jou wil dra, met die belofte dat jy dit nie meer hoef te dra nie – Kom na My toe, almal wat vermoeid en belas is, en Ek sal julle rus gee. Neem my juk op julle en leer van My, want Ek is sagmoedig en nederig van hart, en julle sal rus vind vir julle siele; want my juk is sag en my las is lig. M11:28-30 https://www.bible.com/af/bible/5/MAT.11.28-30.AFR53
Ek wil jou aanmoedig om Kursus 1 – Herstel Jou Huwelik https://uiteindelikhoop.com/kursus/ te doen en te joernaal, wat van groot waarde is, want daar stort jy jou hart teenoor ons Sagmoedige Lieflike Here uit. Jy noem dat jy depressief is en omdat ek self met depressie gesukkel het, wil ek jou aanmoedig om God se woord in jou lewe in te spreek want: “Dood en lewe is in die mag van die tong; en elkeen wat dit graag gebruik, sal die vrug daarvan eet.” S18:21 https://www.bible.com/af/bible/5/PRO.18.21.AFR53 en ons lieflike Here het my vry gemaak deur Sy woord en ek glo Hy wil dit vir jou ook doen.
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Precious dear woman from South Africa, I am grateful that the Lord has led you to our ministry and I want to encourage you to surrender everything to our sweet Lord who wants to carry everything for you, with the promise that you will not need not bear – Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn of Me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls; for my yoke is easy and my burden is light. M11:28-30 https://www.bible.com/af/bible/5/MAT.11.28-30.AFR53
I want to encourage you to do and journal Course 1 – Repair Your Marriage https://uiteindelikhoop.com/kursus/, which is of great value, because there you pour out your heart to our Gentle Loving Lord. You mention that you are depressed and because I have struggled with depression myself, I want to encourage you to speak God’s word into your life because: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and everyone who likes to use it will eat its fruit.” S18:21 https://www.bible.com/af/bible/5/PRO.18.21.AFR53 and our lovely Lord set me free through His word and I believe He wants to do the same for you.
Liefste bruid.
Eerstens wil ek se ek is so jammer vir jou seer.
Weet asseblief jy is nie alleen nie. Ons Hemelse Vader is altyd by jou en Hy is lief vir jou.
Ek wil aanmoedig om die boek: Hoe God kan en sal jou huwelik herstel te lees, vat dit dag vir dag. Pas dit toe in jou lewe. Soek na God in alles wat jy doen, gee jou gebroke hart vir Hom en Hy sal jou lei.
Ek deel graag met jou n deel uit Hoofstuk 3 van die boek: Jy moet geloof in God he:
Vrees is een van die grootste aanvalle wat jy sal moet oorwin. Rom. 12:21 sê vir ons: “Laat jou nie deur die kwaad oorwin nie, maar oorwin die kwaad deur die goeie.” Vrees sal jou geloof steel en van jou ‘n kwesbare teiken maak vir die vyand. Wanneer jy na ander luister oor jou eggenoot se doen en late, instede daarvan dat jy, jou oë op Jesus en Sy Woord hou, sal jy begin sink!
Uit Hoofstuk 8: Sonder Woorde:
Maar ek wil hê dat julle moet weet dat Christus die hoof is van elke man, en die man die hoof van die vrou, en God die hoof van Christus” (1 Kor. 11:3).
Daar is so baie uit hierdie boek uit wat ek vir jou hier kan skryf, maar ek moedig jou aan om dit te lees en uit te leef.
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Dearest bride.
First of all, I want to say that I am so sorry for your pain.
Please know you are not alone. Our Heavenly Father is always with you and He loves you.
I would encourage you to read the book: How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage, take it day by day. Apply it in your life. Look for God in everything you do, give your broken heart to Him and He will guide you.
I would like to share with you a part from Chapter 3 of the book: You must have faith in God:
Fear is one of the biggest attacks you will have to overcome. Rom. 12:21 tells us: “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Fear will steal your faith and make you a vulnerable target for the enemy. When you listen to others about your spouse’s doings, instead of keeping your eyes on Jesus and His Word, you will begin to sink!
From Chapter 8: Without Words:
But I want you to know that Christ is the head of every man, and the man the head of the woman, and God the head of Christ” (1 Cor. 11:3).
There is so much from this book that I could write for you here, but I encourage you to read it and live it.
Liefste Bruid, ek stem saam met wat Janine en Elora met jou gedeel het. Jy is nie alleen nie en in hierdie moeilike tyd is daar Iemand wat wag dat jy alles aan Hom sal oorgee. Iemand wat jou na waters van rus toe wil neem ten spyte van jou situasie. Wat jou met vreugde, vrede en liefde wil vul en jou wil help jou las vir jou wil dra.
Ek wil graag twee skakels met jou deel wat vir my baie beteken het deur die moeilikste tye: https://uiteindelikhoop.com/vind-die-oorvloedige-lewe/h3/ en
https://uiteindelikhoop.com/ewige-liefde/
“Hy laat my neerlê in groen weivelde; na waters waar rus is, lei Hy my heen. Hy verkwik my siel; Hy lei my in die spore van geregtigheid, om sy Naam ontwil.” PSALMS 23:2-3 (https://my.bible.com/bible/5/PSA.23.2-3)
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Dearest Bride, I agree with what Janine and Elora shared with you. You are not alone and in this difficult time there is Someone who is waiting for you to surrender everything to Him. Someone who wants to take you to waters of rest despite your situation. Who wants to fill you with joy, peace and love and wants to help you carry your burden for you.
I would like to share with you two links that have meant a lot to me through the most difficult times: https://loveatlast.org/ and https://loveatlast.org/finding-the-abundant-life/chapter-3-the-love-of-my-life/
“He makes me lie down in green pastures; to waters where there is rest, He leads me. He refreshes my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness, for his name’s sake.” PSALM 23:2-3 (https://my.bible.com/bible/5/PSA.23.2-3)
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