Please leave some encouragement for this bride who filled out an MEQ "Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire." Before commenting, please remember to:
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| Country: |
| United States |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my marriage. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Separated: I am married, but my husband does not live with me. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| Yes |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| Online |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| I am 60 years old and have been married for 38 years. My husband is 60 also. On November 20, 2023 he walked out and said he didn’t want to be married anymore, he wanted to be free, he didn’t want to answer to anyone anymore, and that he loves me but not in love with me anymore. He said he had been feeling that way but kept trying to make it work but he just couldn’t anymore. He said I was controlling and I handicapped him. He wanted to learn do things for himself. My husband also suffers from ED, which was never a problem for me because I love him just that much. I THINK he is seeing someone else but I can’t be positive. He did the same thing back in 2015 but came back after about 3 months. He said he is filing for divorce and how he’s not going to change his mind. He lives next door to me in our other house. His phone has been one of our MAJOR problems for a while now. He also has female friends and is the type of person who will go out of his way to help others and hesitates when it comes to his family. His mom passed away 5 days before Christmas and 50 days later his stepdad passed away. I am a God fearing woman, raised in the church and has accepted God as the head of my life. I asked my husband if he went to God about his decision and he said yes and God told him he was right. I told him in the Bible God said he hates divorce and he turned around and told me that whatever fate God has for him he was willing to accept. These are just part of the issues that I am dealing with right now. I am depressed, hurting, confused, loss, and having anxiety. I have gone to my doctor and she prescribed me Zoloft to help me. So my reasoning for coming to you is because I love my husband and I really would like for God to restore our marriage and family better than it was before. For my husband to REALLY turn to God instead of just lip service and to mean it from his heart. I have spoken with our pastor about this and he advised me to keep praying for him because he seems to think that this is not only a bloodline curse but the enemy wishing to sift him like wheat, along with a chemical imbalance in his brain, and I tend to agree with it all. This just happened so fast I don’t know how to deal with it. Please help ASAP. Thank you and God bless. |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| Dear God, I am coming to you today to ask for your help for your mercy for a few things in my life. I’ve always tried to do things in my life to please you and to live a decent life abiding by Your way. Right now, I am hurting really bad and I feel lost and confused. I feel like I am only existing in life because this man, my husband has altered my life in an unimaginable way, as well as unexpected. I know in Your words, it says that You see my tears, if You do, I don’t understand why You are allowing this to happen. I need Your help right now more than anything in this world because You are the only one that can fix this and make it better than it was. Dear God, there are times that I become so overwhelmed with this, that I just can’t begin to imagine him with another woman, that type of anxiety is severely painful, but You already know that. I can only continue to humble myself to You and continue to pray the best way that I know how. I don’t know what I’m not doing correctly and I know that all of this is in Your hands and Your timing, but I’m asking for mercy. I pray for my husband, and I pray for his deliverance and his salvation but I don’t know what’s wrong with him and only you do I would be lying if I said, I didn’t love him and I didn’t want my marriage to be restored. I read the Bible and I look at the different scriptures that says what is expected in a marriage by You and what scripture says about divorce and restoration and reconciliation right now I feel a little forsaken in that department. Sometimes I sit and wonder and ask You why you are allowing this and I’m not sure if I’m allowed to question You but I do. This hurt feels like death and sometimes I wonder if it was easier if You had simply called him the glory, not that I want anything to happen to him. By him living next-door and having to see his coming in and going out doesn’t help. I’ve asked him to move and You know this already and when I think about it, my stomach starts turning my legs and my feet grow cold and my heart aches and I cry a lot and I’m asking You to please fix this, fix me, strip me and break me to remake me into what You want me to be for You. Right now, my two major things are to make the pain stop and to restore and reconcile my marriage, and to have us to be a truly Godly couple like we used to be before all of this started. We were in church as a family and praying and You have gotten us through things in the past that it was clear that it was all Your blessings. Please, God, please help me |
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| Depressed. Thankfully I have no other concerns other than my relationship at this time. |
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Precious bride, I am so sorry for the pain you are experiencing right now.
I want to encourage you to read How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage over and over again. Meditate on His word. He wants you to Himself.
“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you” (Matt. 6:33).
Just read what He longs for you to hear, Words meant just for you,
“Fear not, for you will not be put to shame;
And do not feel humiliated, for you will not be disgraced;
But you will forget the shame of your youth,
And the reproach [disappointment] of your widowhood you will remember no more.
“For your Husband is your Maker, Whose name is the Lord of hosts;
And your Redeemer Who is called the God of all the earth.
“’For the Lord has called YOU,
Like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit,
Even like a wife of one’s youth when she is rejected,’
Says your God.”
Lastly, I want to encourage you to read Psalms and Proverbs: https://encouragingwomen.org/psalms-proverbs/
Dear beloved bride. I’m sorry for the pain you go through. The Lord love you unconditional and He is with you, He hold your hand and wil help you.Give everything for the Lord. Let go and let God. Dear beloved He want to heal your pain and want to hold you with love.
I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean; I will cleanse you from all your impurities and from all your idols. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. Ezekiel 36:25-27 NIV
https://bible.com/bible/111/ezk.36.25-27.NIV
I know some of what you are going through. I was once in your shoes of being married but my husband was living with the OW. We have been restored 2x. The first time He said he loved me but wasn’t “in love” with me anymore and left, and he filed for divorce. The night before the first court date (I wasn’t planning on attending) my husband came and spent the night and slept through the hearing. I know the situation you are facing feels very frustrating, but with the Lord, there is always hope! He knows what you’re going through and He’s working all things together for your good. This is an opportunity for you to grow closer to Him, take him as your Heavenly Husband as you await restoration.
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One of my favorite verses of what love is…it’s not full of pain, sadness or bitterness but: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1Co13:4-8
Allow Him to wrap you in His robe of righteousness. His love has the power to heal everything. 💕
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