💔MM:  Huge Problem in US

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1. Dear bride,
   I experienced a similar situation when I was married. My EH wanted a lot of private moments more than me. Because I was busy with the children, work, home and I had just given birth. I was so ignorant at that time because the word of God says: “For the husband is the head of his wife, just as Christ is the head of the Church. Christ is the Savior of the Church which is his body.”
   Ephesians 5:23 PDV2017
   https://bible.com/bible/133/eph.5.23.PDV2017
   Segond Bible
   Do not deprive yourselves of one another, except by mutual agreement for a time, in order to attend to prayer; then return together, lest Satan tempt you with your incontinence. 1 Corinthians 7:5. This is exactly what happened to me, the enemy used the lack of intimacy to destroy my marriage. I would like to encourage you to read this book: https://hopeatlast.com/c3/ He revealed to me the principles of speaking about building your house.
   A wise woman builds her house but a fool destroys it with his own hands Therefore everyone who hears these Words of Mine, and acts upon them,
   may be compared to a wise man, who built his house upon the rock.
   And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew,
   and burst against that house; and yet it did not fall,
   for it had been founded upon the rock.”
   Matt. 7:24-25.
   Be strong

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   Dear bride,
   J’ai vécu une situation similaire lorsque j’étais mariée. Mon EH désirait beaucoup de moments d’intimité plus que moi. Car j’étais occupée avec les enfants, le travail, la maison et je venais d’accoucher. Jetais tellement ignorante à ce moment là car la parole de Dieu dit: «En effet, le mari est le chef de sa femme, comme le Christ est le chef de l’Église. Le Christ est le Sauveur de l’Église qui est son corps.»
   ‭‭Éphésiens‬ ‭5:23‬ ‭PDV2017‬‬
   https://bible.com/bible/133/eph.5.23.PDV2017
   Segond Bible
   Ne vous privez point l’un de l’autre, si ce n’est d’un commun accord pour un temps, afin de vaquer à la prière; puis retournez ensemble, de peur que Satan ne vous tente par votre incontinence. 1 corinthiens 7:5. C’est exactement ce qui m’est arrivé, l’ennemi a utilisé l’absence d’intimité pour détruire mon mariage. J’aimerais t’encourager à lire ce livre: https://hopeatlast.com/c3/ Il ma révèle les principes de la parole sur la construction de sa maison.
   La femme sage bâtit sa maison mais l’insensé la détruit de ses propres mains Therefore everyone who hears these Words of Mine, and acts upon them,
   may be compared to a wise man, who built his house upon the rock.
   And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew,
   and burst against that house; and yet it did not fall,
   for it had been founded upon the rock.”
   Matt. 7:24-25.
   Sois fortifié

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2. I have felt most of the emotions you have mentioned. I once was tired, disgusted, using it as an ultimatum. I once told him I wasn’t being intimate anymore until he changed his ways. (about 6 months later we had a huge argument and he left, which pushed him into the arms of the OW). While the Lord took my husband away for a few months, the closer and more intimate I got to the Lord, He began to soften my heart and give me that loving feeling back for my eh. I encourage you to make time for the Lord everyday, read His Word and if you haven’t already started please do the courses and journal, as they will help renew your mind. https://hopeatlast.com/c1/
   It’s understandable that you’re feeling sad and hopeless. But I want to encourage you to keep praying to the Lord and to never give up hope. He loves you and wants what’s best for you. I know it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel right now, but I promise you that it’s there. He will see you through this.
   He knows what you’re going through and He’s working all things together for your good.
   This is an opportunity for you to grow closer to Him. It’s a chance for you to learn more about His love and faithfulness.

   By reminding myself of this verse below, it helps serve as a compass, guiding my actions and intentions towards a more understanding way of being towards my husband “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1Co13:4-8

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3. Dear Bride, I went through a similar stage as well, especially after giving birth. I thought I was justified in my resistance because the all the changes I went through but that is far from truth. Please consider journaling this lesson –
   https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d8-married/intimacy-while-still-married/
   The restoration book has taught us to stop all arguments. “Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.” Proversb 17:14 I know it’s not easy but remember “Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.” Matthew 5:25
   Seek the Lord with all your heart because He has all the answers!

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