My Restoration Journey

KEY # 1 You have Someone to Guide You. This has to be the most important KEY you need to remember. Anytime you have a question or concern or doubts or anything else you would normally go to someone else to ask, just stop and ask God as James 1:5–8 says we are to do. HE LEADS ME “The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures; HE LEADS ME beside quiet waters. He restores my soul.” 

📌 Are you opening each link—especially those opening to GOD'S WORD? Remember... "cleansed her by the washing of water with His Word... Are you gathering each and every one PROMISE that ministers to you so that when you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed you can BATHE in His soothing Words of truth—heal you as only your Compassionate Physician can?

It's actually much better if you don't recite any formal prayer but simply talk to Him. Just get away by yourself and ask Him anything and everything— you’ll be surprised how you’ll soon know and understand what to do. Even if it’s simply to wait and do nothing.

“But they that WAIT upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary, and they shall walk, and not faint.”

PLEASE be careful not to make a common mistake by asking your husband/partner anything—especially a common scheme of the enemy—asking your husband/partner what his plans are or how he’s feeling because God said, "People can plan what they want to do, but it is the Lord who guides their steps." ONLY GOD knows what is up ahead and his feelings are entirely messed up, right? Emotions are controlling both of you—your hurts and his anger/frustration—right?

Even though we don't admit this truth—our feelings continually change—which means in an instant our feelings can be entirely the opposite than they are now. Read these verses in Proverbs 7:21-27 that prove your husband/partner has no clue what path he’s on— especially if he’s fallen for another woman. Instead of asking men anything that will always end up hurting you terribly and will be sure to lead you to do something that will destroy, rather than help you and prevent YOU from healing, ask your HUSBAND what's up ahead, how HE feels about you and every other question you have. That's the Promise God gave all of us for 2022. So learn to be wise and don’t ask or snoop around. As God says, "The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands."

Read what a restored bride says:

Dear brides, please just #let go of your earthly husband/partner. Do not snoop into his life, do not try to find out what he is doing. Occupy your thoughts and your life with your new Husband and cleanse your heart by reading through your Bible because this is where you'll discover His love letters to you! He is the only Man capable of making you truly happy. Not only does this allow your flesh to be killed each day, not feeding your flesh with what has made you sick and riddled with pain and shame but you will be showered with more of His love that will heal you. This is the only way to stay in perfect peace, not give up, keep moving along your journey and in everything, be thankful to the Lord. The closer you are to your Heavenly Husband, the closer you will be to your restoration until you even question if you want restoration anymore—you feel so good!

~ Danielle, restored, “Weeping Lasts for a Night, Joy Comes in the Morning!” from one of many By the Word of Their Testimony books.

The reason so many of us have experienced our miraculously restored marriages (and why we see so many miracles in our ministry) is that we each went to our HUSBAND to guide us. "He Leads Me" and we continued speaking to Him, asking Him, listening, and reading His Word so we could be cleansed and washed from our pain. And while on our journeys, that’s when He called us to travel ahead of you— so that we could be prepared to minister to you, to encourage you. Now we see so many more women who are able to get out of crisis even sooner based on what we learned and shared with them.

The first thing we learned is that restoration is a very narrow road, maybe one of the NARROWEST a woman will ever travel along. And all of us were ridiculed by the people closest to us for even wanting or thinking our hopeless marriages/relationships could be restored. But what each of us was able to do, what we know He has called you to do, is to take the narrowest path of all— because only we, not our husbands/partners want our marriage/relationship restored. In other words, almost ALL of our restored marriages have been truly the most hopeless, dead marriages (many after a divorce) that were brought back to life. We were not like couples who both wanted help.

That’s why this is such GOOD NEWS!

Our ministry was designed to help restore truly hopeless marriages—relationships when ONLY one person wants their marriage/relationship restored. Our husbands/partners wanted OUT of our marriage, out of having a relationship with us and most had left completely (physically, emotionally, and mentally)! The greatest majority of our husbands/partners were involved with other women—sometimes unknown to us until later in our journey—by the grace of God. Any earlier we would have been destroyed or in our rage—entirely destroyed the relationship or ourselves. This is why we say not to snoop but keep your eyes and focus on HIM.

This is what makes our ministry unique, and also extremely powerful and why the enemy will do his best to get you to leave where He's brought and is planting you. What we never do, and discourage you to do, is to pursue your husband/partner or even talk to him about what you’re hoping for. Nothing will drive a man farther away than a needy, clingy, desperate woman who is chasing after him and not letting him go.

Instead, we each learned to remain quiet and tell no one about what we were hoping for—since whatever you say always makes its way back to your husband/partner, right? Or you get opposition, which is something you do not need right now! So, if you have told anyone about what’s going on or even what you’re hoping for—use this KEY to unlock your peace—and commit to saying no more about your restoration to anyone. 

And as we said earlier, instead of offering any counseling other than who GOD says are our counselors AND because He IS the Mighty Counselor and you deserve the best! Don't let anyone who knows nothing advise you. Read what other women like you have done to find the narrow path..."in an abundance of [wise] counselors there is victory and safety" that you can find in all our By the Word of Their Testimony books!

Your MIGHTY COUNSELOR is Someone who knows the future, Someone who can change the present, and the One who sees and knows everything that's going on. No counselor has the power! Instead, we offer powerful lessons to heal you "by the washing of His Word" and renew your mind in His principles, while reading His Promises. Going to Him is another powerful KEY that will unlock your restoration.

KEY # 2 Go to the Mighty Counselor with each and every question. He will make your rough, crooked path straighter and therefore you will reach your destination sooner. He even knows exactly where there are landmines that most women fall into and He’ll help you to avoid them. As Lilliana, now restored, says:

"Fall in love with your Heavenly Husband, look to Him and His Word for all your answers, He is waiting for you...He is good, He will never leave you nor forsake you. He has to be your Mighty Counselor. Stay close to Him, hold onto Him tightly...He is your only hope, don't give up no matter what."

~ Lilliana, restored, "We Made a Mistake Marrying Each Other"

This is why we strongly urge you to settle for nothing else but the Best—your future (your children/grandchildren's future) depends on it—and if you have questions once again, simply stop to ask Him. Not only will He answer and guide you, very often He will take care of whatever it is you’re concerned about. You're left having to do nothing but praise Him!!

Again, we want to encourage you to stop asking for help or asking questions BECAUSE only HE knows correct answers that will both heal you and guide you on the direct route to the Promised Land. Why ask a paid counselor or therapist, or a friend or family member when your Husband knows everything that’s going on and how to lead you to a bright future?!?! "Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, and He will do it"!

This means stop speaking to and sharing anything with anyone that has to do with your marriage/relationship.

Begin today to speak to your HUSBAND, only HIM, as well as pour out your heart into each of your journals, which we provide at the end of each lesson during all of our courses that are designed to heal you, lead you, and transform you.

Even though everyone encourages the typical "counseling and support groups" or having just "someone" to talk to, we know that the Person Who you should talk to, Who matters the most is also the most IMPORTANT relationship you need to develop. No, it's not with us or your husband/partner (or ex) because difficult relationships need time to heal and then be built on the Rock so the next time the rains come, it will remain standing.

“And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and burst against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been built upon the Rock.”

Once again, the MOST important relationship that you need to develop right now is with the Lord, your Heavenly Husband—because this ONE relationship is always the determining factor to whether or not each Marriage is RESTORED. It's also the relationship that needs to be strong, solid, especially after you're restored, which you can read in so MANY restored marriage testimonies.

As proof, when you read each of our lessons, you'll begin by reading a Restored Marriage Testimony and if you look, you'll begin to notice one KEY principle—that each relationship with the Lord, their Husband, became #1 in their lives.

KEY # 3 Your Heavenly Husband. All of us felt the pain of being rejected when we began our restoration journey. That's why it's so important that you grab hold of this life-changing principle and concept. No doubt you've read it before, but read it again until you've hidden this truth in your heart.

“Fear not, for you will not be put to shame and do not feel humiliated, for you will not be disgraced; But you will forget the shame of your youth, And the reproach of your widowhood you will remember no more.

“For your Husband is your Maker, Whose name is the Lord of hosts; and your Redeemer is called the God of all the earth.

“'For the Lord has called you, Like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit, even like a wife when she is rejected,' Says your God"

As you read on Hope At Last, this is a Divine Appointment, because you cried out for help. He continues calling you to take this journey with Him—so you can experience the LOVE that casts out all fears and heals us of all our wounds.

The more you focus on HIM, we promise, the faster you will cease from the pain and begin to find peace—so you are prepared for restoration as Julie, now restored, says:

More than the restoration with my husband, I want to know the voice of my HH "Heavenly Husband", I want to hear Him speak to me. I want to have a relationship with Him above all else. I long to be His bride and I want Him to be my Heavenly Husband because this is where I've found real peace and love.

The process of marriage restoration is not over when your husband comes home, even after he repents. Once he's home is only the beginning. If you don't have Him as your HH, and He truly is, then you and I can't expect to stop our foolishness and spiritual arrogance. We need to continue clinging to the only One who can help us with our lack of forgiveness, our contentiousness. Only He can help us put into practice the wisdom found in the books, lessons, and testimonies we have each found here at RMI. Without ongoing support, I would surely continue to push my earthly husband into the arms of yet another OW [other woman]. 

~ Julie, now restored "Our Daughter's Illness Made Me Run Back"

So the sooner we can encourage you to focus on your KEY relationship, with your Husband (for comfort and assurance and guidance and for answers), especially pressing into HIM and His Word for your answers, not looking to us (or a paid counselor or a friend or anyone else)—the SOONER your marriage will be RESTORED—guaranteed!

We have been updating and refining our ministry based on the rising epidemic of divorces and failing marriages—and what we have witnessed works no matter how horrible the marriage crisis is!