Name:
Violet
| Country: |
| USA |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my marriage. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Separated: I am married, but my husband does not live with me. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| Yes |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| Google search |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| My husband wants divorce, I do not, I want restoration. We are both strong believers in Jesus Christ. We do not have kids and he desperately wants kids ( I am older but not infertile except in his eyes). I have children from a previous marriage. He got a girl pregnant in an adulterous relationship and wants to go start a family with her. I have been in constant prayer since he left 7 months ago. He says God told him to leave me and start a family with her, I can't imagine God telling him this based on what I read in Scripture. We have businesses together and I read Erin say don't sign the divorce. He wants to meet and agree on how to split our life, I don't want to split. He wants to keep working together as it is a ministry, but we are not pastors, and we were brought together for this mission, which he admits to. He doesn't love the OW but is convinced the right thing to do is to leave me, the woman he loves and has a calling with, to raise the child in a married household and have more kids. He thinks he can make the relationship work for the sake of the kids. He is anxious to push for divorce so the birth certificate says they are married (I assume to cover his sin). Do I let everything including the business go? Do I stop working with him even though God is telling me this is my calling and His will for me? I don't hear the Lord telling me what to do when I pray and cry out but a few months ago I heard the Lord tell me His will is not for us to be separated. The only time I have peace is when I pray that I don't want divorce and God's will is for us to be together. I know God doesn't change His mind but if both my husband and I are calling out to God for direction how can we be hearing two opposing words? Is God allowing my husband to leave me as his greatest desire is children? I know this is complicated and a lot to unpack but it's very difficult to know what the Godly thing to do is. |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| Lord Jesus, I do not want divorce and it is written that You hate divorce. You joined us together for a calling and your purposes and it is written let no man separate what God has joined together. You showed me in dreams that he is coming home. You confirmed in my spirit that your will is not for him to be with her. You would not tell a husband to leave his wife to go have children. I understand the pain in his heart but this does not seem like you based on Your Word and Your law. If he is decided by the enemy then I pray you open his eyes to see your truth. If she entrapped him because she broke up with her boyfriend if five years and got pregnant two weeks after then I pray You shed Your light and reveal the Truth to him to see how he was manipulated and she is not althe good Christian girl he thinks she is that he believes God brought into his life because of his pain and his cry. Restore this marriage Lord and restore the Love, Marriage, destiny, children, happyness, Peace and Joy that the enemy stole from us. Almighty Father God, Lord Jesus, and Holly Spirit, you are the only one that can change the situation and circumstances and you can do it suddenly. Do not allow the divorce and stand against it. Do your will with the child but bring your justice upon the wicked that have divided your chosen. Turn all their hearts to repent and turn from their wicked ways and leave each other. |
| In order for us to minister more effectively to you, please check what concerns apply to you: |
| Depressed. Thankfully I have no other concerns other than my relationship at this time. |
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Dear Violet, I know some of what you are going through. I was once in your shoes of being married but my husband living elsewhere. We have been restored 2x. The first time He said he loved me but wasnât âin loveâ with me anymore and left, the second time I told him to leave. There was another woman both times. I also did not appreciate my husband and was always complaining. I was full of pain, sadness & bitterness. Itâs hard but his Word does say that He hates divorce. He has all the control and with Him ALL things are possible.
I know that you are praying for your husband to come home, but most of the time He takes our loved ones away for a while to bring us closer to Him. He wants to be FIRST in your life. https://hopeatlast.com/c3/day-2-chapter-2-first-love/ I believe that God is a God of restoration, and I know that He can heal your marriage. I encourage you to continue to pray and trust in Him. He is the only one who can truly help you in this situation.
Before my restorations the chapter from the Wise Woman Book helped me tremendously. https://hopeatlast.com/c3/day-10-chapter-5-won-without-a-word/ and chapters from the WW are in audio if you need to listen while driving, as I enjoyed.
Also if you havenât already started please do the courses and journal, as they will help renew your mind. https://hopeatlast.com/rrr/.
https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d16-dealing-with-adultery/
“He is our protection and our strength, He always helps in times of trouble. So, we will not be afraid if the earth shakes, or if the mountains fall into the sea. We will not fear even if the oceans roar and foam, or if the mountains shake at the raging sea.” Ps46ICB
Dear Violet, after reading your MEQ I asked the Lord what encouragement HE would like me to share with you? But instead, He reminded me how much like you I cried out for answers to why my marriage was falling apart. Like you I was in prayer constantly searching for answers. My heart was broken and so heavy! After I posted a prayer on a website a woman sent me the “How God Can and Will Restore” book which helped answer some of the questions I had but not all… That is why I want to encourage you to not only read the book but please move on to our many courses found here at Hope At Last https://hopeatlast.com/rrr/. Take the time to read through our resources found online by clicking on the links.
You mentioned that your husband wants a divorce but that this is something you do not want. Please seek the Lord and have a look at our Facing Divorce Course. You have been crying out to the Lord looking for answers and HE led you here just like HE did me. https://hopeatlast.com/c3/facing-divorce-course/
I started working through the courses as the Lord led me and it took a huge investment of my time and His help but I found all the answers I was looking for but most importantly all my fears started going away as I developed a close and intimate relationship with the Lord when I found true love at last because I was the wife forsaken and grieved in spirit https://loveatlast.org/.
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Isaiah%2054%3A6-8&version=KJV;AMP
What we offer you may have already read is not a quick fix but it will be so worth it.
Dear Violet,
I donât know all that you have experienced, but I too have dealt with my EH having a child and struggled with the same thoughts. But as you seek your HH more, He will heal and comfort you.
Right now, your HH is calling you to grow closer with Him. Turn away from what your eyes see and let your heart be filled with His love. It will make this journey be much easier once you are filled with His Love.
âFor your Creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heavenâs Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth. For the Lord has called you back from your griefâ as though you were a young wife abandoned by her husband,â says your God.â
ââIsaiah⏠â54âŹ:â5âŹ-â6⏠âNLTâŹâŹ
Hello Elda, how long has your husband been gone and are you still waiting for your restoration?