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| Country: |
| USA |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my marriage. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Divorce filed and my husband does NOT live with me. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| Yes |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| Someone shared your book, How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage, with me. I have read the first six chapters so far. |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| I was an unhappy, grumpy woman. I felt my husband didn't love me because he would not dedicate time to me, such as date night, movie night, showing up when we scheduled to sit down and talk about things. My mother passed unexpectedly and I fell into a deep, long depression. I became bitter. I said horrible things like "If you dont pay attention to me, one day I wont care and wont love you anymore!" I called him horrible names and let the devil control my mouth and attitude. Instead of turning to God and loving my husband harder, I retracted my love and became a cold-hearted. I stopped sleeping in the same bed with him. I created a life without him. Three years passed with this strife in our home. I felt I couldnt breathe with him around and he wouldn't follow the rules like not leaving a bicycle in the entryway and taking the trash out every night. I complained all the time. I told him he had to leave. He left to his parents' house over a year ago. I felt horribly for our kids and had a dark cloud on me this whole time. I refused to turn to God. I knew better than God (yeah, right!) AKA I was foolish and led by the devil. I through we were DONE. I got a boyfriend. I never brought him around the kids or family. He was not comfortable with me still being married and often asked if I was sure I didn't want to go back and reconcile with my husband. I would say "No way!" but had a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. November 2023 we filed for divorce. We started the paperwork in May and took 6 months to fill out and submit. Who takes this long without attorneys involved? I started having thoughts that this was the wrong thing to do, but I brushed them off, still feeling sick about the whole thing. The night before my husband came by with the final paper to sign and submit, I had a quick vision. It was my hand with my engagement and wedding ring on my finger. It flashed so quickly and strongly. I also had a quick dream of my husband with another woman. I woke up feeling so sick from the vision of the ring. I hoped he wouldn't show up with the papers. But he did. I made him coffee and signed, feeling nauseous. Then he submitted them. the bad feeling grew stronger and stronger. After a couple of weeks, I had to tell him. I said "we are making the wrong decision. This is the wrong thing to do. We never sought any help. we never even tried counseling." He was so shocked he had to go lie down. Then he got mad: "Why after four years do you now say this?! You used to get mad at me for everything. I cant talk about this right now." He left and I had to later on bring it back up and ask him to go with me to talk to someone. I said I wanted to put the divorce on hold. He reluctantly said he'd go with me to talk to a pastor we kind of know. This meeting was not good. The pastor did not recite a single scripture. He asked us how we "felt" only. My husband said he felt like it was over and had moved on. The pastor asked if he was seeing someone. He said yes and the pastor said that if my husband and the strange woman had fallen in love that it'd be another thing I'd need to consider. This was NOT Biblical! He offered us 3 free marriage counseling sessions with a professional. After that, my husband started avoiding me except for 2 times he has been around and said he shouldn't be there and didnt want to see me because he knew he'd want me and feels so attracted to me and something comes over him. He said I do something to him and he cannot help himself. He said I told you Im seeing someone and I actually like her and dont know whats going to happen (Well I do and GOD knows that is being broken up!) I went ahead and filed a voluntary dismissal to stop the divorce on Dec1. Somehow, on Dec 6, the divorce was finalized by the judge. I have called many times and gotten the runaround. One person at the court told me the case manger messed up and didnt give the judge the dismissal. You cannot approve a divorce once it's been dismissed. The dimissal was added to the divorce record 2 hours after the final judgement, so now it says dimissed on dec 1, final judgement dec 6." I do not have an attorney to help get this error resolved. But I had 2 visions (never had a vision before) that same day. One was our marriage certificate and I heard "there's too much junk in THAT marriage.", not meaning to give up, but not to focus on THAT paper. This is a SPIRITUAL battle and a fixed paper does not mean a fixed marriage. Next was a vision of a heart, my husband's heart and I heard that I need to pray for his heart to be healed. I hurt him a lot and didnt even know. I need to first of all pray for his salvation and his heart to be turn from a spiny heart to a heart of flesh. Also, he has not been showing up for our kids (the timing lines up with him seeing that other woman) these past few months. He has left them waiting and waiting, not showing up, and has refused to commit to plans with them although he said he wants to have them 50 percent of the time. (When he told me about the other woman, I barely gave attention to it). I did accidentally see a photo of them at a party for a friend of a friend of a friend, but I am avoiding further snooping because that is a distraction and discouragement of the devil). I need to ask God to send his angels to minister to my husband and bind the chains that Satan has put on him and that other woman. God will turn the hearts of the children to their fathers and the hearts of fathers to their children. Forgot to mention I told the man I was seeing that I could no longer see or talk to him and that I felt it was best to reconcile my marriage. I pray God will heal his heart and forgive me for bringing him into a hurtful situation. Please pray for God to restore our family. The fight has been on my shoulders and I need faith and strength and peace. I also need to remember "The Lord shall fight for you. And ye shall hold your peace. Thank you for listening and God bless you! |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| Lord, I was running from you. Please forgive me for what I did with our holy covenant of marriage, what I did to my husband and children. Thank you for forgiving me and setting me straight. It is NOT too late. If you could turn my hard, cold heart back into the loving heart of a good wife and mother, you can do the same for my husband. Please, let me trust in you with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding or what I see happening in this world, what the court says, what my husband says or doesnt say or who he chooses. You have the final word. You said wives should not leave their husbands, but if they do, they should not marry, but should reconcile. Your instructions couldn't be any clearer. I had to be knocked off my high horse and flat onto my face for you to get my attention, to open the Bible that sat there for years even though my mom was a powerful intercessor. Thank you for bringing me close to you, Lord. Please show me what to do. I promise to serve you forever. My husband and I will share our marriage testimony with others. Our children will bear witness to this miracle and our whole family will serve you faithfully. Please loose your angels to my husband Felix to comfort him, to convict him, to minister to him, and to break the chains, schemes, punishment for ancestral sins, curses, spells, soul ties the devil has placed on him. He is released in Jesus' name. Please bless the other woman as she immediately departs my husband's life forever. Convict her heart, bring her salvation, and send her the correct man for her walk with you in life. Place your protection over our children as we believe for their father's peaceful and Godly return home. Let them marvel in your goodness as they see this miracle in our family. Remind me to put on the armor of God EVERYDAY! Thank you for sweet sleep at night. The devil cannot have me or our family! Please send me some Christian friends for me (thank you for sending my mom's friends for counsel). I ask this in your name and I RECEIVE it. In Jesus' name I pray and praise you, Lord. Amen! |
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Dear Precious Sister, i know that right now everything seems so overwhelming but the main thing is that you have reignited your relationship with the Lord 🙌❤️ and that is the GOOD that comes out of everything bad that has happened. As you take each worry and concern and your broken heart to the Lord building on the intimacy and your relationship with Him you will see how He works everything out for you!! And your precious family. Right now it is important to understand the many bibical principles in His word because si many of us ignored his wkrd or had no knowledge or understanding so we broke down our own homes.
Continue reading and complete the book and then move onto our Facing Divorce course as this will help you to understand Gods word regarding what you are facing and how to handle it with Godly wisdom you will be very surprised at how this course will help and encourage you https://hopeatlast.com/c3/facing-divorce-course/
“Look at the nations and watch—
and be utterly amazed.
For I am going to do something in your days
that you would not believe,
even if you were told.
https://biblehub.com/habakkuk/1-5.htm
Dear Bride, so much of what you have said reminds me of my old self. Always complaining and nagging about the little things that seemed so big at the time. My very close uncle passed away and I also became depressed and bitter and would lash out on my husband about anything and everything. We also started sleeping in different rooms.
After my eh decided he would come back home, it took over a month for him to “find a plan” to get away from the OW. It was hard because he would come over for a couple of hours only and then leave, telling me he wanted to come home, but he had to find the “right way and time”.
Right now, I would encourage you to simply INCREASE your time and longing for the Lord. Please start our courses and pour out your heart and journal! https://hopeatlast.com/rrr/ “Those who sow in tears shall reap with joyful shouting.” Ps. 126:5.
Only He knows what is best for you. I encourage you to keep praying and seeking Him. He will give you the strength and peace you need to get through this difficult time. I know that you are praying for your husband to come home, but most of the time God takes our loved ones away for a while to bring us closer to Him. He wants to be first in your life. https://hopeatlast.com/c3/day-2-chapter-2-first-love/.
I believe that He is a God of restoration, and I know that He can heal your marriage. I encourage you to continue to pray and trust in Him. He is the only one who can truly help you in this situation. 💕
Dear Bride,
First I want to say that I am so happy that you have established a relationship with Him and have realized the mistakes that you had made in your earthly marriage. We have all been there and learned of how we were supposed to be as a wife, but failed to do so. I know that you are hurting, but now is the time to get alone and to really allow His word to transform you so that you will be ready when your EH returns. There are so many resources that RMI provides to build a lasting foundation with our HH and how to be the women He has created us to be. He loves you more than anything and honestly there is no love like His. Wake up early, journal, speak to Him and soon this will be what excites you everyday. He will become your True Love. Before you know it, your EH will return and you will miss the time alone with your HH.
”So the Lord must wait for you to come to him so he can show you his love and compassion. For the Lord is a faithful God. Blessed are those who wait for his help.“
Isaiah 30:18 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/isa.30.18.NLT
”Give thanks to him who alone does mighty miracles. His faithful love endures forever.“
Psalms 136:4 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/psa.136.4.NLT
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