Please leave some encouragement for this bride who filled out an MEQ "Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire." Before commenting, please remember to:
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- Speak to your Husband, your Maker, to know what He wants to say to this brokenhearted bride.
- Keep it SHORT.
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Next to your name, we must see your IOU Level, for example:
| Country: |
| Australia |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my marriage. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Separated: I am married, but my husband does not live with me. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| Yes |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| Online |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| Married a new believer who still wrestled with his own sin and addictions.
Had multiple affairs with other women. I had left him multiple times only to go back each time enduring a very toxic marriage with lots of covert control and narcissism traits. Finally he met a new women and left myself and the kids for her. When he left I began to reconnect with God again. During our marriage I had become so consumed with "making things work" I lost touch with God. During my time.of prayer and seeking God I had dreams and visions of marriage restoration. I saw my husband as a prodigal spouse returning me. Although at the time these visions gave me hope as I still felt deeply attached to him. Now I feel somewhat offended by them. I look at what i had to endure in my marriage with someone who was so broken that they couldn't even accept that I loved them so much to love me or respect me. I just feel this man had his chance. I also feel that he has some serious mental health issues and it would take so much work for him to ever understand the level of maturity it takes to be in a loving marriage. |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| God,
I love you! I only want to be obedient to you. I understand i was not obedient in my relationship with this man and i chose to marry him. But I am unsure how and why you would ever want to restore our marriage. I think He needs so much professional help and I just can't see why marriage restoration would be good idea. This man abused me. He degraded me amongst others and sought out to humiliate me to cover up his own actions. I don't understand? He left the kids and I for dead. This is not a good person. Out of all the amazing people you have I this world don't I deserve better than him? I never in my life could ever do to others what he did to me. I want to experience a great relationship I just think he should not be the one. |
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| Custody issues. Thankfully I have no other concerns other than my relationship at this time. |
| Finally, please choose how you would like us to conduct your Marriage Evaluation from the choices below. |
| Posting your questionnaire Privately to an assigned IOU Marriage Ministry Student. Sample |
Dear Bride, I am so sorry to hear about everything you are going through.
Because nothing is impossible with God, He can change your husband completely, but you have to let go and let God do the work in him. I would like to encourage you to Seek God (https://hopeatlast.com/c1/d16-chapter-12-seeking-god/) during this season and focus on your relationship with the Lord.
Make the Lord your First Love (https://hopeatlast.com/c3/day-2-chapter-2-first-love/) and first allow Him to heal you (https://loveatlast.org/hhm/) from all the hurt you experienced.
I would like to encourage you to start with the Abundant Life course (https://loveatlast.org/finding-the-abundant-life/) to first focus on your relationship with the Lord. Read through each lesson and let Him show you what He wants to show you, then pour your heart out in the journal forms linked at the bottom of each lesson. To know why it is important to journal, please read https://hopeatlast.com/c1/spectator/.
I would like to share the following verses with you:
“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” Jeremiah 31:3
‘“Do not be afraid; you will not be put to shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated. You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood. For your Maker is your husband— the Lord Almighty is his name— the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. The Lord will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit— a wife who married young, only to be rejected,” says your God. ‘
Isaiah 54:4-6
https://my.bible.com/bible/111/ISA.54.4-6
Hi, dearest Bride, I understand how you can feel the way you do being hurt and confused and not understanding God’s plan for your life. It feels like you don’t owe this man anything because he broke your heart multiple times and he has had his chances.
I was there once and I made my head go crazy with all the thoughts until God took me aside and showed me that I needed to worry only about my relationship with Him and nothing else. Granted, it is a journey and I am still learning new things every day. I grew so much when I started my courses here. All the research has already been done, you just have to do your courses, journal them and drink in His word every day and I guarantee you that your outlook will change even though sometimes your circumstances won’t change immediately.
Go to our course page and start at the beginning and work your way through our courses and see how it will change your life like it did mine.
https://hopeatlast.com/rrr/
He loves you with an everlasting love that will never change, even if people around you change and dissapoint you.
Dear precious bride, I am so sorry for all your pain, but I do believe the Lord for a bigger reason to draw you closer to Him to experience His everlasting love for you – https://loveatlast.org/
“Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you. You will no longer remember the shame of your youth and the sorrows of widowhood. I54:4 https://biblehub.com/isaiah/54-4.htm
Our darling Lord will be the One to bring healing in every area of your life, while you draw closer and closer to Him.
Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours. I61:7 https://biblehub.com/isaiah/61-7.htm
I am so excited that you found our Ministry, because I believe just like it was life changing for us, it will be for you too, so while you do our courses like Adina and Yvonne suggested and journal, please also visit our blog daily, because there you will read testimonies and daily encouragement.
https://encouragingwomen.org/