Please leave some encouragement for this bride who filled out an MEQ "Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire." Before commenting, please remember to:
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- Speak to yourĀ Husband, your Maker, to know whatĀ He wants to sayĀ to this brokenhearted bride.
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| Country: |
| USA |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my current relationship. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Never legally married and I want help. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| No |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| I was watching marriage restoration videos, and somehow I was lead to your ministry. |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| My partner, Johnny and I have been in a relationship for the last 7 years. We probably should have not started dating because we both had so much unresolved trauma and brokenness. I grew up in a Christian home, but it was very legalistic and I had no personal relationship with God. I also had issues with my earthly father growing up. I found my identity in men, and what others thought of me. I just kept getting further and further away from God trying to fill voids with the world. Jonathan grew up in a cult church, getting a very bad taste of God. He also grew up in a very dysfunctional family, and was abused. His dad had severe anger and alcohol issues. They also are very into new age beliefs. We started dating in 2016 and were together until 2021, until verbal and anger issues became a huge problem in our relationship. Alcohol, s.., partying was always a part of our relationship. We had no foundation. We just became more broken and our relationship became more dysfunctional. We always had this amazing love for each other, but something always seemed off. We were missing Jesus!!! In 2021, i decided to end things, and we mutually agreed are relationship was not working. At this point Jonathan is agnostic or atheist. I actually donāt think he is an atheist because he talks about his anger for God. How can you hate something that isnāt real? I know that has to do with something in his childhood. A lot of times he would tell me he wants to believe in god so bad and wish he had faith like me. Even though I was deep in sin, I did always try to love him as Jesus would and try to share my faith with him. He would cry out to me saying he is a monster, but nothing would change. I donāt think he even knows what love is so how could he love. This whole time I believe God was telling me to surrender the relationship to him and stop sleeping with him; which I continued to disobey. We lived together since 2017. We were basically married. Once we separated in 2021, I started to get closer with God..until the enemy had his way with me. My depression, anxiety got horrible and I felt so insecure that Jon started dating another women 2 weeks after we broke up. It hurt a deep wound inside of me and I became desperate and started partying. After his relationship ended with this other women, we began to talk again. We actually were really enjoying each other being friends as we shared two dogs together. One night him and I got drunk, and I pushed us to sleep together. I knew I should of never done that. I felt dead inside the next day and Jon did not want to get back together, but we kept being intimate. I even got so desperate that I was ok with getting pregnant. This is all over the course of a few months, but when I realized what i was doing was wrong I found out I was pregnant. I had a termination when I was 19, and I told myself I would NEVER do that again. Jon was very verbally abusive about me keeping the child, but despite fear I went ahead with the pregnancy. Jon and I lived separately during my pregnancy, but he did decide to support me eventually with keeping the baby but no guarantees of getting back together. We moved in together when our daughter was born 10/15/22. In so many ways our relationship got better and I was seeing a side to Jon that Iāve never saw before, including my parents. But at the same time things got worse. Our brokenness started to seep through, especially his anger issues. He was drinking and smoking weed. He was verbally abusive, but had never been physically. Even though I was in sin, I have always prayed for him that God would save him. God has always given me grace in our relationship with Jon. One night, Jon had a blow up. He ended up physically hurting me with our daughter in the room. He apologized and said he felt very ashamed, and I said I forgave him. However, i tried telling him he has some serious issues he needs to figure out and I wasnāt going to allow it. He became very narcissistic and almost justified the abuse. I ended up calling my parents the next night telling them what happened and they did call the cops. He was arrested and is facing two criminal charges. We have had no contact since March 2023 and he sees his daughter every Tuesday night supervised. We did have a mutual wedding, and I thought he would be angry at me. He came up to me and told me I looked pretty and he was sorry. We did not talk anymore after that because we technically are not supposed to. Lawyers are involved which I hate but my parents demand that. He looks very broken inside but he does have very narcissistic tendencies so it is hard for him to even think he did anything wrong. From what Iāve heard he does not want to fix the relationship. The weird thing is with our relationship, God has showed me time and time again that the devil has his snare around Johnny and this isnāt him. He has showed me the man God wants him to be. Johnny has this sweet, caring side, but also when the anger hits itās like the devil takes over him. I truly think it is generational curse. About a month before this situation happened, I had a dream that Johnny was crying on the floor saying I am so sorry I didnāt mean to do this and I was praying the blood of Jesus over him and In the dream the devil looked me straight in the eyes and said āyou canāt have him he is mineā. I just kept saying int he name of Jesus and I woke up. I truly believed satin wanted me to stop praying for him and is threatened what he could do for Godās kingdom someday. I had more dreams this summer that God saved johnny, and our daughter was there. I had dreams that we had another daughter. These dreams had Gods presence/peace shining in them. He was completely cleansed and a new man by the blood of Jesus. Iāve always had this supernatural knowing from God that Johnny would accept Jesus as his Lord and savior. I tried to play savior though and just ruined the situation more. After this situation happened, I just began to pray to God. I thought I would feel peace after leaving this relationship, but I didnāt. God started showing me all of my brokenness and how it affected our relationship and how I have hurt Johnny with my own brokenness. I repented and gave my life fully to Christ. Itās been a process, but I am so thankful Iāve gone through this situation to know how much I need Jesus my lord. Everything is stacked up against us, but I really donāt want my daughter to grow up in a broken home. My family needs help. Johnny needs help. I just want him to experience Godās grace and love that Iāve gotten to experience. Jesus has completely changed my life around. I know itās Gods job to save Johnny and I canāt, but Iām fully surrendered to God and asking him for help. Johnny was my god, and God needed to fix that. God is now everything to me. Even though I want my family together, i know if I have God I have everything. God keeps showing me through dreams and ministries that he wants to help my family and to fight for it. I know god can use our story for his Glory. Itās just me and God at this point. My family and friends have no hope that God can change Johnny. Any encouragement is appreciated. |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| Itās hard to find the words to say because I will never find a way to describe what Jesus has done for me. He is my everything. He my father, provider, husband, savior. I will never been able to repay him. I will never begin to understand his grace and love for me. All I can say is thank you Jesus. Once you find this type of love, it fills every void you have been trying to fill your whole life. He has set me free. Thank you my Lord! |
| In order for us to minister more effectively to you, please check what concerns apply to you: |
| Custody issues. Thankfully I have no other concerns other than my relationship at this time. |
| Finally, please choose how you would like us to conduct your Marriage Evaluation from the choices below. |
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Dear bride, I am so sorry that you had to go through all this pain, heartache and confusion.
I want to encourage you to read the book: How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage. Chapter 10: He Turns the Heart. Read and reread this chapter over and over again. “It’s not man’s will but God’s will”. God can change his heart.
Remember this promise from Ezekiel 36:26 – I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; and I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.
In Chapter 17 (How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage): Stand in the Gap ; pray these promises back to God.
I have found that these powerful prayers keeps me grounded and I can fully wear the full armour of God by praying for my husband.
I know in times like these it seems that there’s no hope, but please stay Encouraged. Our Heavenly Father will never leave you.
Dear precious bride, please put all your focus on our Loving Lord, because I want you to experience more of His everlasting love https://loveatlast.org/ and please start with Course 1 https://hopeatlast.com/c1/ it will be life changing for you, like it was for so many of us.
And I want to encourage you to let go of your husband https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d15-the-freedom-of-letting-go/ into the loving arms of our Lord, while you move closer and closer to our Loving Lord, He will be the One that brings change in your husband and in your life āFor nothing will be impossible with God.ā L1:37 https://biblehub.com/luke/1-37.htm
Dear Bride,
Thank you for sharing your story, I pray you find peace and love in the arms of our Beloved.
I am glad to hear that He has become your everything. I am also waiting on God for the salvation of my husband. During my journey, I did not pray for him as it was very important for me to let go. My husband was my idol and I needed desperately to let go. Now that God has been removing him from the first place, I was wondering if I should pray again, but today God spoke through “My beloved devotional”(https://encouragingwomen.org/devotional/my-beloved/November/#November%2021) That He was the one who removed my Husband from me, so there is no reason to worry in His appointed time He will make things right again.
I was relieved because I really wanted to enjoy this time with my Beloved without being worried. I would encourage you, to keep your focus on Him.
The Abundant Life series (https://loveatlast.org/fc/living-the-abundant-life/) is great for that.
Also this lesson : https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d15-the-freedom-of-letting-go/
“Thank you, we have a 3 Cord of comments supporting \o/\o/\o/ this bride. This session is now CLOSED.”
“Thank you, we have a 3 Cord of comments supporting \o/\o/\o/ this bride. This session is now CLOSED.”