C2 Day 1 Securing Your Success 1
A Life-Changing Spiritual Milestone
Steps you Can Take to Set you & others Free
So you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
To make room for your husband to INVEST into your relationship, begin with your Facebook page and/or your Profile Picture associated with your email account. Or better yet, Fast Facebook: here's a video to know how.
Set yourself and your husband free by REMOVING pictures of your husband, by himself or with you.
And if you want proof, listen to the RESTORED marriage testimony from Gareth a man who came to RMI looking for hope. Gareth says in his RMT that it's when his wife removed his pictures on Facebook, then later got off of all Social Media, that caused him to panic and—seek GOD for help!
Here's another Reason WHY
FACEBOOK is BLAMED FOR 1 IN 3 DIVORCES
If your husband is involved with another woman, by removing yourself as her "competition" you'll find the OW will stop trying so hard to secure your husband as her own. The truth is, he is your husband, therefore you don't need to fight to keep him. (See Exodus 14:13 and Proverbs 3:4-6)
Instead, keeping pictures is a sign that you're not willing to let go, which makes a man (who wants to be free) do more to get rid of you.
One way the OW can hurt you, and/or your husband will use in order to force you to let go, is by posting pictures of the "so-called" happy couple. The truth is, sin is only pleasurable for a season, which is how the enemy gets us caught in sin, but later that same sin will torment us.Refuse to be tormented or to do something dangerous to your Restoration Journey and get rid of your Facebook page. Later, after Restoration, you and your husband can TOGETHER build a page yourself for the world to see and read your Testimony!
If you're serious about crossing the finish line in your Restoration Journey, then let go of what will trip you up or slow you down.
"Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win"—1 Corinthians 9:24
"Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith"—Hebrews 12:1-2
A recent article cited: U.S. divorce attorneys agree that Facebook is increasingly becoming a factor in marriage destruction:
If you dislike being married, then log on to Facebook and watch it be destroyed.
The social network was implicated in a third of all divorce filings last year, according to Divorce-Online, a survey by a legal service.
In the old days, tracking down an old flame or love interest could take weeks and require investigative legwork.
Now an affair is just a click away and the consequences -- what happens online, cannot be erased from online -- can be permanent and devastating.
“Social networking has become the primary tool for communication and is taking over from text and e-mail in my opinion,” a Divorce-Online spokesperson said in a statement. “If someone wants to have an affair or flirt with the opposite sex then the easiest place to do it. “
Authors on a book about Facebook and Marriage destruction warn about how the site can toss a monkey wrench in an otherwise happy marriage.
“People feel bolder behind a screen than in person,” the couple wrote on their blog. “People type and press ‘Send’ faster than common sense can kick in, and people feed off the rush they’re feeling rather than rationally thinking about what they’re doing.’"
Take the step to HEALING—Fast Facebook: Again here's a video to know how.
If there is another woman, the OW is going to fight harder to hold onto your husband IF you show you are still holding on to him. And as the saying says "A PICTURE is worth a thousand words" so if you still have your husband or ex in your Profile Picture for your email or any other place where it can be seen by others—REMOVE it and watch the OW lessen her hold on your husband.
* Even if there is not another woman, holding onto any man makes him try to get away.
Later on, during your "Renewing Your Mind" Course 2, we will encourage you to set up a Gmail account that will allow you to focus fully on your Restoration Journey, by setting up a new email account.
This is a Safe Location where you can receive your Encouragers, Lesson Forms, and any other RMI ministry emails are sent to. Then later when you begin to Rebuild, it is where you and your ePartner can safely email each other.
This is also a preventive solution since often husbands have access to their wife's email addresses. Don't let the enemy trip you up, because he will try.
“Wish I Never Had Facebook!”
While reading Chapter 12, “Your Best Protection” in Finding the Abundant Life, I thought back to when I let go of Facebook. When I learned of the OW, I of course ran to Facebook. I wanted to know “everything” about her. But when I found her I saw many things I wish I never did see. I saw pictures of her and my (then) husband (we are now divorced and he’s remarried, thanks, Facebook!). I saw comments from her friends saying “oh,how happy they both looked.” They said they were “meant to be together.” And due to this, it caused so much pain to my heart. I also sought her out on other “social sites,” which I saw her pin wedding dresses and saw her wedding plans.
My HH didn’t protect me from those things because I was not looking to Him at all. At the time I was trying to “save my marriage” myself. I was not under His sheltering wings. He longed and sought me out during this time but I continue to fight this “battle” on my own. My relationship with Him was still in the beginning stages, but He continued to woo me. Before I learned of this ministry, He spoke to me about letting go of Facebook and other social media and I felt led very strongly to let go. I still remember the day, I didn’t want to risk seeing pictures that would cause me more pain and when I let go, I felt like a burden had been lifted from me. I felt freer after that then I had in months. He knew that I needed to let go. Looking back, this is one of the many ways He is my protector. He has protected me from seeing and feeling more pain. Especially since some of my friends are friends with the OW and my FH on Facebook. This has been a big way that He has allowed me to let go and as a result, to forgive. I don’t think I would be where I am if I hadn’t felt led to let go of Facebook. I know that it may seem trivial but it has helped my heart heal.
Over the last few years, He has protected me from many other things. Many more things than I probably don’t know about. I am very thankful that He is my protector and I am very thankful that I can seek Him to protect me. I have been letting go of more and more things to Him. I have been seeking Him about my finances which He continues to provide. I continue to have a roof over my head and food to eat. I continue to have a job that provides and a car that runs. I continue to have friends and family that support me and show their love. However, I have had trials and situations where I felt like He wasn’t there, but it was because I wasn’t pressing into Him enough or I was looking at my own strength to fight the battle. So this chapter helps me to remember that I need to continue to look to Him as a Husband! A husband that longs to protect and provide for His bride. There have been times that I have felt unworthy of His love and grace but HE always reminds me that I am loved by Him.
Pray with me:
Lord, I have failed many times in trying to fight my own battles. I never wanted people to look at me with pity. I didn’t want them to think that I could not make it on my own. But Lord, I do need You. I need You each and every moment of the day. I need Your shelter of Your wings. I sometimes need Your good listening ear and a strong shoulder to cry on. You have been so patient and understanding with me. I question myself why do I need anyone else when there can never be anyone better for me. Please continue to remind me that You are all I need and want!! No man can ever take Your place. I am so loved and blessed by You.
Dear Brides, HE is the great Protector!! HE will continue to protect you from things that want to hurt you and your heart. No battle is too big or too small for Him. I smile when I think of Him as my “knight in shiny armor.” We as little girls always dream that someday a prince will ride in and save us. That day is when we give our hearts to our HH. He is that Prince. He longs to be all we need and want!! So brides give up the fight and allow Him to cover you in His love!
I long to dwell in your tent forever and take refuge in the shelter of your wings. (Psalm 61:4 NIV)
This is one of my favorite verses!! I do long to dwell in His “tent” forever.
He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. (Psalm 91:4 NIV)
I love how this both these verses talk about His wings and Him being a shelter.~ Leslie
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