It hurts but what can he do?

In my last praise report I shared about “News that broke my heart 💔” concerning news that I received that my bro and sis in law was headed for divorce. https://hopeatlast.com/news-that-broke-my-heart/

My mom in law on 2 occasions asked me to speak to my bro in law and share some encouragement with him. I did not feel the urgency to contact him immediately and so I left it for a week or 2 just asking my HH about it and speaking to Him about it. I left it for HIM to lead and guide me.

I was led one morning last week after I asked my HH is it time? He showed me to send my bro in law a message to say that my mom in law asked me to give him a call and he should let me know if he has a day off or some time free if I could call him. He replied immediately to ask me how am I and the family is doing and said he would call me straight away.

I was led to 1st say that I am not sure if this is something he feels comfortable to speak to me because I remember that I did not want to speak to anybody about my marriage struggles but I understood what he is going thru and if he would like me to share.

He told me that there’s a lot going on and that my sis in law says she has fallen out of love and wants to leave, he won’t stop her, it hurts but what can he do? 🙁 I shared that I completely understand but that it is actually the best thing to “let go”, the minute we stand in someone’s way the more they try to run far away from us…

I shared that God works all things for GOOD and that He uses marriage struggles to get our attention. I shared that it was what He used to get my attention and to change me because I was not exactly a good wife to his brother either… I made many mistakes that also led to the breakdown of our marriage. I shared about the resources that I read and how it changed me and he sounded interested but we needed to end our call as he was at work.

“We know that in all things God works for good with those who love him, those whom he has called according to his purpose.” R8:28

He said that his only fear is that if she does leave and wants to come back, he does not know if he would be able to do so and he may just move on and feel comfortable being on his own because he lives like a hermit and feel most comfortable living alone.

I sent him the links to the men’s resources and told him there was audio of the Men’s “RYM” book he could listen to because I knew he didn’t like reading.

Ladies it hurts me that he would be comfortable living alone and just being ok with it because that is not the life that the Lord died to give us. A mediocre life. No, He died to give us and ABUNDANT LIFE. Full of blessings and favour and joy!!

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” 10:10

What is the abundant life?
https://loveatlast.org/finding-the-abundant-life/chapter-1-what-is-the-abundant-life/

Ladies, if you find yourself in this place where I once was, where my bro in law is now… Marriage on the rocks, feel like you have no future, you are hurt, feeling depressed, financially don’t know how you will support yourself and your kids… If this is you then I want to tell you right now that this is a lie, don’t let the enemy steal and destroy from you!! You have an abundant life that the Lord died to GIVE you. Without any cost to you. The only cost is your faith and your hope that you need to put into practice today and believe His word and His promises to you.

Where will you find this word and this promises? In the bible, psalms and proverbs is a good place to start. Also in the many books and resources we offer online. https://hopeatlast.com/rrr/. All it takes is an investment of your time to dig in!

Psalms & Proverbs

Devotional

I want to end off by saying that I don’t know what is going to happen in my brother in laws life, I don’t know if he will listen to the audio of the men’s RYM restore your marriage. I don’t know if he will press in to the Lord for help. All I can do is to continue to speak to my Heavenly Husband and tell Him my concerns and then let go and leave it to Him to sort out having the hope and faith that nothing is impossible for Him and that He has perfect timing. His word does not return void.