Please leave some encouragement for this bride who filled out an MEQ "Marriage Encouragement Questionnaire." Before commenting, please remember to:
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- Speak to your Husband, your Maker, to know what He wants to say to this brokenhearted bride.
- Keep it SHORT.
- Encourage sharing 1-2 Promises.
- Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey.
- After 3 MM Comments and the comments are CLOSED for this session, please continue to encourage by confirming what the ministers are saying by replying beneath their MM Comments.
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Next to your name, we must see your IOU Level, for example:
| Country: |
| USA |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my marriage. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Married and my husband lives with me. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| Yes |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| I am currently reading it now…. I have read “A WISE WOMAN.” A friend of my mother that I have know for pretty much my whole life gave “A Wise Woman” to me as a gift. She knew I was having issues in my marriage, but she did not know any details. She simply gave it to me and said, “ this book saved my marriage…twice.” I read it and then ordered the one I am reading now. |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| My husband and I have been married for almost 15 years. We have 2 children. 15 years old and 13 years old. My husband did not grow up the same way I did. I was raised in the south. In a small town with a wonderful family that made sure I was raised in church and I never wanted for anything. My husband was not raised like this. About 2 weeks before Christmas he tells me that he doesn’t know what he wants anymore. This absolutely devastated me. I love him with all my soul. We still live together. We don’t sleep in the same bed right now. We are still intimate. At first it was like the rug had been pulled out from under me. We never fight. We are both extremely non confrontational. We are a very laid back family. Then, I was furious… how can he do this to me? I do everything for him and this family. I work, take care of the kids and the house. I never fuss about what he does or where he goes. I wait on him hand and foot. After I read the book my friend gave me I realized it wasn’t his fault. It was mine. I have not been a good Christian wife. I have been so wrong for all these years… and I’ve been scared to death I won’t get a second chance. He isn’t mean to me… but he isn’t kind either. He will take the kids to ball games and I’m always left here alone. Ill text him during the day when I’m getting lunch to see if he wants me to bring him food at work and he just ignore me. It hurts to have the person you have revolved your world around for 18 years just be so mean to you. |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| I know I have been wrong for all these years. At first I felt like you were punishing me for every single wrong thing I have done in my life. Then I realized you are using this to make me see I have been a “lukewarm” Christian. I am so sorry. I beg your forgiveness. I can’t do this without you. You know how my husband is. You know the situation and you know my heart. I would take a bullet for that man. I have truly torn my own house down with my own hand and was too self righteous to see it. Thank you for allowing me to see my sins. I don’t want to lose him, and I can’t do this without you. I have faith that you will restore our marriage, but I just get so upset sometimes. It hurts. My heart is breaking. I need your help and guidance. I need your peace that passes all understanding. I know we should not judge our situations by what we see… we should have faith… but everyday I find myself looking for just 1 small victory, and when it doesn’t come my heart breaks all over again. Please touch his heart… I beg you.. Touch his heart and keep a hedge of protection around him. |
| In order for us to minister more effectively to you, please check what concerns apply to you: |
| Depressed. Thankfully I have no other concerns other than my relationship at this time. |
| Finally, please choose how you would like us to conduct your Marriage Evaluation from the choices below. |
| Posting your questionnaire Privately to an assigned IOU Marriage Ministry Student. Sample |
Dear, This sounds so much like how I felt. My husband and I have been together 26 years and have 3 boys. After reading your MEQ He reminded me how much like you I cried out for answers to why my marriage was falling apart. I was in prayer constantly searching for answers. My heart was broken! That is why I want to encourage you to not only read the book but please move on to our many courses found here at Hope At Last https://hopeatlast.com/c1/ Take the time to read through our resources and journal.
I know some of what you are going through. My husband and I also had totally different childhoods, slept in separate beds etc. We have been restored 2x. The first time He said he loved me but wasn’t “in love” with me anymore and left, the second time I told him to leave. There was another woman both times.I was full of pain, sadness & bitterness. It’s hard but know that the Lord hates divorce but has all the control and with Him ALL things are possible.
I encourage you to keep praying and seeking Him. He will give you the strength and peace you need to get through this difficult time. I know that you are praying for your restoration but most of the time God takes our loved ones away (physically or emotionally) for a while to bring us closer to Him. He wants to be FIRST in your life. https://hopeatlast.com/c3/day-2-chapter-2-first-love/ I believe that God is a God of restoration, and I know that He can heal your marriage. He is the only one who can truly help you in this situation.
“Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up. You will increase my honor and comfort me once more.” Ps71:20-21
Dear Bride,
I am sorry that you are going through so much pain right now. I have also gone through a lot of pain and hurt while on the journey to restore my marriage. My EH came and left around 6 times over the course of 3 years. There was another woman and she even became pregnant while I was pregnant. I say these things to highlight how powerful His love is because without Him I would’ve never gotten through any of this. I am beyond thankful that God restored my marriage but I am even more thankful that I now have a relationship with Him. He is really all that matters. I miss all the time I used to have with Him. So I encourage you to really focus on this relationship. He loves you so much and wants to heal you through this very trying time. I would also encourage that you began reading “He Healed Me” on https://loveatlast.org/hhm/. Journal all your feelings and let Him be everything to you. Be encouraged what he has done for others, He can do for you. Let Him fight this battle while you fall in love with Him.
”The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.”“
Exodus 14:14 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/exo.14.14.NLT
”Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.“
1 Peter 5:7 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/1pe.5.7.NLT
Dearest Bride
What a season to allow the Lord to break your heart for what breaks His. My FH and journey has been going on for a long time. My younger self went against men pursue. However despite all of my errors there have been and still are miracles. Seeking God, I pray that His will is done in your life..
https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d4-securing-your-success-4/ .
Dear bride, thank you for pouring your heart out. Many of us found ourselves lost and confused when we first came on RMI, and please know this is a safe place for you. Most importantly, this is time to take refuge in the Lord. “Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.” Psalm 91:1 No matter what you are faced with, God has all the solutions and seeking Him alone with all your heart will point you to the right direction.
I encourage you to take this time to pray and stay in communion with the Lord. Experiencing His love has given me hope and helped me focus on what really matters – His will.
I also want to encourage you to read and journal all these amazing testimonies shared on RMI. “With God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26
https://hopeatlast.com/c1/
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