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| Country: |
| Nigeria |
| What language do you speak? |
| English |
| I'm here: |
| Seeking restoration for my current relationship. |
| What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation. |
| Never legally married and I want help. |
| Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?" |
| Yes |
| How did you find our ministry? |
| I found it on YouTube while searching for something to ease my pains. |
| Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship? |
| I have been in an off and on relationship with my partner for over 7 years and somewhere in 2019, I got to know of another woman. This has caused issues between us, many ghosting from him, separations but we keep finding our ways back to each other. The OW got pregnant for him last and I almost died but sadly, she lost the baby. I thought our ordeal was over but since then, they're still together despite how much he denies it the numerous times I have asked. I have tried moving on by letting go but each time he comes back, I forgive and accept but I am tired. He swore there's nothing other than friendship between them and I am the one he truly loves and wants to marry but I don't believe that. I recently saw her pictures in his phone and just lost it. I have given up on everything and don't know if this ministry can help me or not. I do love this man so much and wants to be married to him in the right way and atmosphere of love, openness, honesty and genuine commitment with the OW gone. I am exhausted from crying. I have blocked his number and told him to just stay with her since he claims she's a good person who respects him and is still in contact with her. He says I don't know how to talk and my words are too sharp but all I have been responding to have been from a place of hurt. That's his major concern about me and I have tried to be more kinder in my tone but failed because he hurts me and I am tired of being treated like that. I've given up on myself and anything love. I need help if there is any for me because I have read other testimonies. |
| Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him. |
| God I need you. Heal my pains, change my character and make me better. I just want to be okay. If Joseph isn't the one for me, help me to just accept it and move on. I am exhausted and can't do this on my own anymore because nothing works. |
| In order for us to minister more effectively to you, please check what concerns apply to you: |
| Suicidal. Depressed. Abused or molested as a child. |
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Dear Bride, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, it is devastating to have your heart broken like that over and over again. But there is Somebody who is calling you right now, who will never break your heart but bring healing and in Who you can find peace and joy. I would like to encourage you to let go and surrender your relationship into the Lord’s hands and focus on your relationship with Him during this season. Make Him your First Love.
You also mentioned that you are depressed, and were molested as a child, therefore I would like to encourage you to start with the “He Healed Me” Course https://loveatlast.org/hhm/ so you can receive healing from all your past hurts during this season. Then pour your heart out to the Lord in the journal form linked at the bottom of the lesson. To know why it is important to journal, please read https://hopeatlast.com/c1/spectator/
Nothing is impossible with God, He can work in any situation and turn it around, we only need to be still and watch how He fights for us. I would like to leave the following verses with you:
“With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26 (https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2019%3A26&version=NIV)
“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Exodus 14:14
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Exodus+14%3A14&version=NIV
Dearest bride
I am so sorry to hear of the pain you’ve experienced and what you’re currently going through.
I’d like to encourage you to give everything to our Heavenly Father, and like Adina said, make Him your First Love.
“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matt. 6:33.
I’d like to encourage you to start with the first chapter of A Wise Woman:
https://hopeatlast.com/c3/
“Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart” (Ps. 37:4).
Dear Elora, thank you so much for your words. I am so glad to have wonderful sisters by my side while I navigate this journey.
Hi Adina, thank you so much for your response. This is the first time in over 5 years that I have felt genuine empathy from someone without criticism. I am starting with the course you directed today because for a long time, I have always felt a nudge in my soul that I needed thorough emotional healing from my past hurts, rejections, and failed love attempts. Also, I am thinking of deleting my WhatsApp account so I won’t be tempted to reach out to him because that is one of my weaknesses. I do well for about two days or more but then get triggered and send long lines of messages to him trying to make him feel sorry and understand my pain but he always ignores me, and he hates those long words I send. What do you think about this, please? I have no other social media for now aside from WhatsApp and I truly want to let him go completely. Thanks as you respond.
Dear Abigail, I know exactly what you mean, at the beginning of my journey that was also one of my biggest hurdles to overcome, but if you feel led, fast from WhatsApp, Facebook and anything else that might be a hurdle to you right now. I do not want to overwhelm you with too many lessons, but I want to share one specific lesson that is one of my favourites and helped me so much: “Tell it to your (Heavenly) Husband” https://loveatlast.org/ryr/c6/
Hi Adina, I can’t thank you enough for pointing this link to me. That chapter was made for me because I have made that same repeated mistakes for the past five years, narrating myself and plight to everyone who cared to listen instead of turning it over to God Almighty. Every talk left even a bigger hole in my heart and unrest in my soul. Everyone has told me to “move on” with my life. Literally everyone! I understand better now that nobody can really understand nor extend empathy like our heavenly Husband. It is as if something just clicked in me and I clearly understand why the people I spoke to and my partner never gave me that succor I so much longer for. Reading that chapter also took me back to my childhood when I was a teenager, speaking to my parents about my feelings and how hurt I felt about being confused with my life direction and none could empathize with me nor give me comfort. The action of my parents that early morning broke me and that pain has been hidden in my heart for years. But praise the Lord, it was finally dug out and I prayed that prayer of forgiveness, telling myself that I was dropping all shame, pains, hurt and issues at His throne of mercy. I can no longer carry those burdens anymore. I am free from the burdens of my mind, emotions and fleeting feelings from the past. Hallelujah! I pray for the zeal and grace from God to continue these lessons accordingly. Please, feel free to share more resources with me. Thank you so much and God bless!
Dear Abigail, I can suggest all the courses to you, but I would like to encourage you to Seek God to guide you through the courses. Only He knows all the answers you need right now and which courses He would like you to take next. I saw that you started with C1, continue with the course and then ask your Beloved Heavenly Husband to guide you to the next course. This is your journey with Him, embrace this time with Him and the Abundant Life He wants to give you so badly. Believe me, He will make your heart soar with peace and joy that you never imagined or dreamed of before, regardless of your circumstances. You can also visit the EncouragingWomen.org blog daily to read how He is blessing other brides: https://encouragingwomen.org/. You can also submit your own praise, by going to https://encouragingwomen.org/pr/
Hi Adina, thank you for your words. I have been devouring the daily lessons and other materials on this website and my oh my! I am learning a lot. I have never enjoyed taking online lessons like this and I have this ministry to thank for it. My moods have become much better and it dawned on me as I woke up this morning that I have not had any intense angry fits for the past twelve days. That a big testimony for me because I knew how angry I use to get at any and every little things. Our HH and precious Lord is good and gracious. Hallelujah! I have been on a no contact with my partner since the last time I sent an apology message to him which he never replied to. The temptation to just reach out and check on him has been there, but I have always prayed for God’s grace to pull through and give him that space. Now, his birthday is in two days, I wanted to ask if sending a simple and kind message to him would be okay or maybe getting him a small thoughtful gift? I have been asking the Lord for a sign on what to do, but haven’t gotten any answer yet. I’d appreciate your insight on this, if I should do so or just continue maintaining the silence (although I have been praying to the Lord to give me a chance to meet with him so he could experience some of the beautiful things God is doing in my life). I don’t want to act ahead of God and ruin the beautiful relationship we’re building together by being unfaithful. Please, let me know your insight on this. Lots of hugs from me to you❤️
Dear beloved bride I’m sorry for everything you go through now. The Lord love you unconditional and He is with you. He wants to heal your pain. give everything to the Lord. Let go and let God. Seek God about everything. I also want to encourage you to do He Healed Me.
Matthew 11:28 NIV
[28] “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
https://matthew.bible/matthew-11-28
Jeremiah 33:3 NIV
[3] ‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’
https://jeremiah.bible/jeremiah-33-3
Jeremiah 29:11 NIV
[11] For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
https://jeremiah.bible/jeremiah-29-11
Hi Kristy, thank you so much for your comment. I know this was inspired by God because you shared my favourite verse in the scriptures which is Jer 29:11.
I am encouraged and determined to take the courses and let them go through me till I am fully immersed in the will of God for my life and situation. Thank you, thank you!