🌹 Financial Hope

My GOD Shall Supply ALL Your Needs

As a mother, it's difficult to struggle financially when your wayward cheating spouse (and father of your children) is living it up. Trust me, we have all been there, and before going any further—I want to be clear— we believe a father should pay to support his children. Yet, whenever you look to anyone but GOD for your needs, not only will you be horribly disappointed, but a father who is forced to pay child support is capable of doing some horrific things—not the least of these is stealing Custody away from you, the mother.

Yet, shockingly, there is an epidemic of homicides (especially in the USA and, I'm sure, in many other countries as well) where fathers are desperate enough to "eliminate" their exes entirely and even their very own children! Each time, the families could never have imagined this guy (even pastors) being sent to prison for life—but what about the lives of the children who are left without a mother (because she's dead) or a father (because he's in prison)? These are dark days, and they're getting darker. “Stay alert. This is hazardous work I’m assigning you. You’ll be like sheep running through a wolf pack, so don’t call attention to yourselves. Be as cunning as a snake, inoffensive as a dove.” Never forget, the destruction of the marriage destroys the family and the children—this is a spiritual battle that is not won in the courts or by mediation. It's won by him or lost in the flesh.

“Thus says the Lord, ‘Cursed is the man who trusts in mankind and makes flesh his strength, and whose heart [then eventually] turns away from the Lord. For he will be like a bush in the desert and will not see when prosperity comes, but will live in stony wastes in the wilderness, a land of salt without inhabitant.

“Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord and whose trust is [ONLY] the Lord. For he will be like a tree planted by the water, That extends its roots by a stream and will not fear when the heat comes; but its leaves will be green, and it will not be anxious in a year of drought nor cease to yield fruit.”

If what I've said is not a wake-up call, I don't know what is, but let me share with you: when my husband abandoned his four small children (and me, his wife), he was working in a very lucrative job (where he met the OW "other woman"). Yet, even though they both had huge commissions coming in, he never paid any of our bills, rent, or food. My elderly parents (see linked picture above were in no position to help financially, but I'd never consider asking them either.

As I mentioned earlier, my MIL told me what to do (get a job), but my children had already lost their father! He was nowhere to be found, dead or alive, so this was no time in my children's lives to lose their mother, too! The fact that I had been a massive part of earning the family income with a career in orthodontics meant I could probably find a job, but when I worked when married, their father had always been with them when I worked. Again, with elderly parents, I could not expect them to watch my children while I worked. Yet, GOD set me up in order to bless me!!

Thankfully, from the time I was just seven years old, I had a Best Friend who I could go to and who I knew I could trust. To be honest, I had no idea how we got by until my husband showed up at the hospital when our two-year-old was rushed into surgery (and I left a message where I was told three months prior he no longer worked there). While visiting for the first time since his disappearance, the topic of money came up, and he was emphatic that he would not give me a penny. He would not pay the hospital costs, so don't ask. It was on me. If I didn't want my children to starve, I needed to go down and apply for government assistance (interestingly, he never said find an orthodontic position where he's abandoned us). Before leaving, he angrily told me, "Go get food stamps and stop being arrogant and prideful."

At that point, I had almost three months with my husband's bible, and I'd come to the part about wives being subject, but this was a big deal. Both my parents were raised by millionaire parents. Here I was, just a generation away, shamefully about to apply for food stamps. Ultimately, I did go and fill out the papers, but using the stamps (back in the early 1990s) was humbling. However, GOD used it for good in many ways, one way, is how I began to tithe—another lesson I'd learned from reading the bible my husband left behind.

At that point, I didn't have any money whatsoever, so I tithed from the overflow of food stamps I had left at the end of the month. I hadn't yet learned about giving Him our first fruits because this is, after all, a journey. The children and I grab a pallet and load it with huge bags of rice, beans, and enormous canned fruit. Then we'd drive over to our local Soup Kitchen where (primarily men) would come to get a hot meal and hear the gospel, the Good News. My children always got so excited helping to carry the bags and work along side me in the soup kitchen.

Does this mean you should do the same thing, too? Yes, but only if your husband (not your ex or never-married person) tells you to. But before you do anything, always speak to your Best Friend. And if He's not yet your Best Friend, ask Him how you can become Best Friends. Trust me, you need someone Who promises to stay by you during your journey and can reveal things you could never have imagined!!

"Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty and marvelous and wondrous things, which you do not know…things to come, things you could never figure out on your own, remarkable secrets…“ I still have this as one of my promises I shower in being "washed in the water of God's Word."