Yesterday, as I was ministering to a bride who is currently facing divorce and custody issues, I shared my praise report with her regarding my journey with the custody battle I faced (please read it here: https://encouragingwomen.org/he-turns-situations-around/).
Before my divorce I did read the Facing Divorce book and I didn’t appoint a lawyer and didn’t fight for anything, I just accepted what he offered and signed when he brought me the papers to sign, and we didn’t fight over custody of the children, he appointed me as the primary caregiver, with him only seeing them every second weekend. And because of not fighting or not appointing a lawyer, he offered to pay a lot of things, it wasn’t enough to cover everything, but my HH provided everything else me and the children needed.
Then, almost a year and a half after the divorce, as I mentioned in my Praise, my Husband placed a strong desire in my heart to translate the Facing Divorce Again book, and it came at just the right time, because my Husband knew what was coming. As I translated it my fh started with the proceedings to take primary custody away from me due to financial reasons (he couldn’t pay what he offered during the divorce anymore because of the pandemic). At the start of this trail I was broken, letting go of your eh or fh is difficult enough, but letting go of your children is something completely different. Letting your children go to go and live with the OW is even more devastating.
As I started translating FDA, I started to apply the principles in this custody battle coming against me. Not immediately, because I must confess when I first heard about his plans I broke down and handled it completely wrong by fighting and trying to resist. But as the principles entered my heart and mind, and as I Seeked God about it and cried so many tears at His feet, He started to give me peace and, in the end, I was able to agree enthusiastically and didn’t resist. And the result of following the principles in the book and His word, my fh agreed to let me see the children more than what his initial plan was (not just every second weekend, but 3 weekends per month, school holidays and whenever there is an opportunity to see them). He even wanted (and still wants) me to move closer so I can fetch the children after school and let them stay with me until he comes off work and then pick them up.
But moving closer is in my Husband’s hands and at His appointed time, if and when He wants me to move closer, He will make a way.
If you are currently facing divorce or custody issues, I would like to encourage you to read the Facing Divorce Book (https://encouragingbookstore.com/women-resources/fda/) or start doing the course (https://hopeatlast.com/c1/facing-divorce-course/). How you deal with the litigation coming against you (by following His principles and appointing Him as your Mighty Counsellor) can turn situations around for your good. And as the first chapter says: “God is Looking to Reward You” (https://hopeatlast.com/c1/fda-chapter-1-god-is-looking-to-reward-you/)
Dearest Adina, I thank God for your transparency and willingness to share your knowledge and experience in applying the FDA principles to such an incredibly difficult and challenging and painful, heartbreaking 💔 situation and enormous trial. No mother should ever have to endure such pain. Yet as His bride you proved that His principles and truth result in quick and sudden changes—benefits much deserved. And think of your CHILDREN too. Had you fought or threatened or even succumbed to our natural instincts as a mother to beg and plead—your children would have been left with the same results that would mean sparse contact with their own mother that they’d need more than ever!
Couple with what I’ve just read, I’ve seen your children’s faces that glow and radiate the same love as your face and countenance. The affection you have for each other also proves how GOD is using this for GOOD and training your children to face the challenges they’ll face as adults with the right Source who will guide them.
In closing my comment there’s no doubt that you have so much to offer other mothers who He leads here plus everyone who knows a mother who is facing custody challenges and will undoubtedly be urged to follow the ways of the world bringing with it more devastating results for the mother and her children.
I’ve personally have reached out to you before to consider and speak to your Husband about writing a weekly blog for HGM https://homegrownministries.com/ however I see now the importance of the FDA principle as being foundational and how beneficial to be taught by a wise woman like you in the light of a mother who is facing custody issues.
Is your Husband calling you to do both? Or are these easily married/connected to each other? GOD alone knows but I’m certain will speak to you and lead you and equip you.
Whatever the outcome let’s both make sure the result is left here as a final comment along with the connecting link or links.
Once again dearest Adina THANK YOU for allowing your life to be used to provide HOPE and ENCOURAGEMENT to sooo many mothers!!
Dear reader if you’re personally not facing this situation please act as a messenger to bring this to mothers you learn are facing custody issues and even custody threats and support the families who are falling prey to the systematic schemes to come after the weak, the innocent, the true victims and the most precious in the sight of God—our CHILDREN. https://biblehub.com/mark/10-14.htm